Whether you are a nurse on a chaotic med-surg floor, a medical assistant managing a packed waiting room, a physician drowning in inbox messages, or a PSR dealing with angry phone calls—we have to speak to the universal reality of the job: constant triage under systemic pressure.

When you are exhausted, understaffed, and feeling like everything is failing personally, professionally, and globally, standard wellness advice feels like an insult.

This is where the therapeutic concept of Radical Acceptance comes in, think of it as a mental triage protocol.

The “EMR Crash” Analogy

To strip away the self-help jargon, use a scenario every single healthcare worker has lived through:

“Imagine you are in the middle of a brutal shift and the entire electronic medical record (EMR) system suddenly goes down. Patients are waiting, orders are backing up, and the phones are ringing off the hook.

You don’t stand in the hallway screaming at the blank monitor, ‘This is unfair! This shouldn’t be happening! This hospital needs to buy better servers!’

You don’t waste your limited adrenaline wishing the screens would magically turn back on. Why? Because arguing with a crashed computer doesn’t bring it back online. It just burns the energy you need to handle the human beings standing in front of you.

You accept completely that the system is down right now, you find the paper charts, and you start writing.

Radical acceptance is not approval. It is simply looking at the crashed screen and admitting: ‘The system is down.’ Pain is the reality of the broken system; suffering is what happens when we exhaust ourselves demanding it work perfectly right now.”

What Radical Acceptance It Is vs. What It Is Not

To make sure this doesn’t sound like “giving up” or accepting a toxic work environment, clarify the boundaries:

What Radical Acceptance IS	What Radical Acceptance IS NOT
Acknowledging reality exactly as it is (“We are short-staffed today and the schedule is double-booked.”)	Approving, liking, or defending it (“It’s totally fine that we don’t have enough help.”)
Conserving your precious energy so you don’t burn out fighting things you cannot change in this moment.	Surrendering or being passive (“I’ll never speak up about safety or staffing again.”)
Dropping the ‘shoulds’ to see the situation clearly.	Minimizing your very real anger, grief, or fatigue.

The Shift Protocol: How to Practice It

When you are operating on fumes, you need a quick, repeatable mental algorithm. Here is how anyone in a hospital or office can run the protocol in real time:

Step 1: Run the Diagnostics (Observe & Label)

Identify the exact reality you are fighting. Look for the word “should.”

• The Mindset: “Patients should be more understanding,” “This clinic should have better workflows,” or “The world should be a safer place.”
• The Pivot: Strip the “should” and name the hard facts. “The patient is angry. The workflow is messy. The world is highly unstable.”

Step 2: Locate the Physical Resistance (Somatic Scan)

Refusing to accept reality always registers in the body first.

• The Mindset: Notice where the fight is happening. Is your jaw clenched? Are your shoulders up to your ears? Is your stomach in knots?
• The Pivot: Take one deep exhale. Acknowledge that physical tension is your body trying to physically fight a situation that can only be managed mentally. Let your shoulders drop.

Step 3: “Turn the Mind”

This is the active, moment-to-moment decision to pivot. It’s a mental fork in the road. On one side is the path of rejection (which leads to bitterness and deep exhaustion). On the other is the path of acceptance.

• The Pivot: Make the conscious choice to stop fighting the current reality. Tell yourself: “I don’t have to like this. But this is the shift I am currently working. Fighting the wind won’t stop the storm.”

Step 4: Act “As If”

Ask yourself: “If I fully accepted that this is the situation right now—even if I hate it—what is my very next step?”

• If you accept that the schedule is ruined today: You stop rushing and apologizing for things out of your control, and you focus entirely on the single person currently in front of you.
• If you accept that you are running on empty: You stop beating yourself up for not being a superhero, and you drink a glass of water, step outside for two minutes, or ask a colleague for help.

A Grounded Perspective for Healthcare Workers

When the hospital, your personal life, and the world feel like they are collapsing all at once, the weight is too heavy to carry.

The most validating thing you can remind yourself (or a coworker) is this:

“You cannot single-handedly fix the healthcare system, repair the geopolitical landscape, or resolve every personal stressor before your shift ends.

But by radically accepting that this is the environment you are currently standing in, you stop wasting your finite energy wishing it were different. You save that energy to protect your own peace, do the job in front of you, and walk out the door with something left of yourself.”

Hi there. This is your weekly wellness post curator taking a rare minute to speak in the first person. I’m currently writing this post from Ireland, and have been exploring the island’s distinct cultural heritage, some of which provides some interesting ways to add perspective to how we think about wellness and wellbeing.

Here are five Irish perspectives that we can integrate into our demanding schedules to cultivate resilience and community.

1. The Art of Craic: Casual Connection as a Psychosocial Buffer

In Ireland, “the craic” (pronounced crack) defies simple translation. It is not merely fun or gossip; it is a cultural commitment to lighthearted, egalitarian social connection. In high-stakes medical and research environments, our interactions are frequently clinical, transactional, or crisis-driven. The Irish perspective reminds us that unstructured, low-stakes human connection is a psychological necessity. Cultivating craic—whether through a brief humorous exchange in the hallway or a casual cup of tea—acts as an immediate psychosocial buffer, lowering cortisol levels and mitigating the isolation that often accompanies intensive clinical work.

2. Seaweed Bathing & Thalassotherapy: Active Physical Decompression

Dating back to the 19th century, wild seaweed bathing is one of Ireland’s oldest native therapeutic traditions. Coastal bathhouses utilize heated seawater to release the nutrient-dense essential oils and iodine found in native algae (Fucus serratus). Historically used to soothe aching joints and skin conditions, it remains a vital ritual for physical recovery. While we may not have Atlantic kelp at our desks, the underlying principle is vital: active physical decompression. Healthcare professionals carry immense physical and emotional tension. We must create definitive, somatic rituals to signal the end of a shift—whether through a targeted hydrotherapy routine at home, progressive muscle relaxation, or a dedicated physical transition between the clinic and home life.

3. Cogar and Foraging: Grounding Through Micro-Immersion

Ancient Celtic medicine relied heavily on Cogar (the whispered wisdom of the land) and the seasonal foraging of native flora—such as utilizing wild stinging nettles for inflammatory support or dandelion root for metabolic health. Today, Ireland is experiencing a massive renaissance in coastal and forest foraging. For an academic community heavily reliant on screens and data, this tradition highlights the value of “micro-immersions” in nature. Stepping outside for just ten minutes to consciously observe local ecology—shifting our focus from abstract data to tangible, living systems—reboots our attention networks and reduces cognitive fatigue.

4. Anam Cara: Normalizing Vulnerability Through Peer Support

Popularized by the late Irish philosopher John O’Donohue, Anam Cara translates to “Soul Friend.” In the Celtic tradition, this was a person to whom you could disclose your hidden mind, dualities, and vulnerabilities without fear of judgment. In academic medicine, a perfectionist culture can make admitting struggle feel like a liability. The Anam Cara framework encourages the development of authentic peer-support systems. True institutional wellness requires safe spaces—whether formal mentorship or informal peer circles—where clinicians and researchers can drop the professional mask and process the complex emotional weight of their work.

5. Embracing “Soft Days”: Psychological Flexibility and Pacing

If you spend any time in Ireland, you will encounter a “soft day”—a local term for a heavy, ambient, misty drizzle that blankets the landscape. Rather than viewing this as inclement weather to fight against, the Irish lean into it, adapting their pace and attire. It is a lesson in radical acceptance and psychological flexibility. In healthcare, we frequently encounter periods of systemic friction, high patient volumes, or slow-moving institutional changes. Embracing a “soft day” mentality means recognizing when the environment requires us to adjust our expectations, preserve our energy, and focus on steady, incremental maintenance rather than burning out by fighting forces outside our control.

By incorporating these Irish traditions—prioritizing casual connection, somatic recovery, nature immersion, authentic peer support, and adaptive pacing—we can build a more sustainable, resilient culture within our own health center.

When we picture intensive care, we tend to imagine beeping monitors, bright lights, and machines.

Necessary? Absolutely.

Comforting? Not exactly.

A hospital in London recently opened a rooftop garden designed specifically for critically ill patients. Even patients receiving life-support treatments can safely spend time outdoors, surrounded by sunlight, fresh air, flowers, and greenery—all while continuing to receive the same high level of medical care. Researchers will also study whether access to nature improves recovery and well-being for patients, families, and staff.

For decades, research has suggested that nature can reduce stress, lower blood pressure, improve mood, and help people feel more connected and grounded. None of those things cure illness on their own. But they can make the experience of illness a little more bearable.

As psychologists, we often talk about treating the whole person rather than just the diagnosis. Sometimes that means therapy. Sometimes it means helping someone reconnect with family. And sometimes it simply means opening a door and letting someone feel the warmth of the sun on their face.

You don’t have to be in a hospital to benefit from that reminder.

When life gets busy, stressful, or overwhelming, we often retreat indoors—to our offices, our cars, our couches, and our screens. Yet stepping outside for even a few minutes can interrupt the cycle of stress and remind us that there’s a world beyond whatever is demanding our attention.

The takeaway: Healing isn’t only about what happens in an exam room. Sometimes it’s also about the quiet moments in between—fresh air, a breeze, a patch of green, and the reminder that we’re part of something bigger than the challenges we’re facing.

Today’s challenge: Find ten minutes to step outside today. Leave your phone in your pocket. Notice the sky. Listen for the birds. Feel the breeze. Sometimes the smallest change in scenery can create the biggest change in perspective.

That title probably sounds like terrible wellness advice. After all, most of us spend at least some amount of time trying to be happier. We read books about it. Listen to podcasts about it. Set goals around it. Maybe we even feel guilty when happiness doesn’t show up on schedule.

But what if happiness works a little like sleep? The harder you chase it directly, the more elusive it becomes. A recent study followed young people who were given a simple challenge: identify something that mattered to them and make a contribution toward it. The contribution could benefit their community, their family, or even themselves. Within weeks, participants reported greater well-being, stronger purpose, a greater sense of belonging, and a stronger feeling that they were needed and useful.

What strikes me about this finding is how ordinary it is. Nobody was asked to become famous. Nobody was told to optimize their morning routine. Nobody was instructed to spend more time pursuing happiness. Instead, they were invited to think about what mattered and take a step toward it.

This idea isn’t new. Philosophers, theologians, and psychologists have been circling around it for centuries. Purpose gives us somewhere to aim our attention. It helps organize our choices. It provides direction when life feels uncertain. And perhaps most importantly, it gets us out of our own heads. Many of us spend an enormous amount of energy asking questions like: “Am I doing okay?” “Am I happy enough?” “Why am I feeling this way?” Those questions aren’t wrong. But sometimes the better question is: “What needs doing?” “Who needs help?” “What small contribution can I make today?”

When we focus on contributing rather than constantly evaluating ourselves, something interesting often happens: meaning shows up first, and happiness follows behind it.

The takeaway: You may not be able to think your way into a happier life. But you can often act your way into a more meaningful one. And meaning has a funny habit of bringing happiness along for the ride.

Today’s challenge: Take five minutes to ask yourself: What is one small contribution I can make today? Then do it. Don’t worry about whether it makes you happy. Just see what happens.

Most of us know what we’re supposed to do.

Exercise more. Sleep more. Eat more vegetables. Schedule the appointment. Get the screening. Donate blood.

The problem usually isn’t a lack of information.

It’s that being human is complicated.

We may know something is important while simultaneously feeling anxious, uncomfortable, busy, overwhelmed, or afraid. Those feelings don’t necessarily mean we’re making the wrong choice. They just mean we’re human.

A recent article highlighted an interesting example. Researchers and developers created mixed-reality games for blood donors—allowing people to explore virtual worlds, solve puzzles, and focus on something engaging while donating blood. Early results suggest the experience reduced anxiety and made people more likely to donate again.

What struck me wasn’t the technology.

It was the principle.

Instead of asking, “Why won’t people donate?” they asked, “What makes donating difficult, and how can we help?”

That’s a useful question far beyond blood donation.

Many of the healthy behaviors we struggle with aren’t difficult because we don’t care. They’re difficult because something gets in the way. Maybe it’s fear. Maybe it’s discomfort. Maybe it’s boredom. Maybe it’s a schedule that feels impossibly full.

Sometimes the most effective change isn’t finding more willpower. It’s reducing friction.

Laying out your walking shoes the night before. Putting fruit where you’ll see it. Scheduling exercise with a friend. Setting a reminder to call the doctor. Listening to music or a podcast while tackling a task you’ve been avoiding.

In other words, making the healthy choice the easy choice.

The takeaway:
When you find yourself struggling with a healthy habit, try asking a different question. Not “What’s wrong with me?” but “What’s getting in the way?”

The answer may reveal a simple adjustment that makes all the difference.

Today’s challenge:
Think of one healthy behavior you’ve been putting off. What’s one small change you could make today that would make it just a little easier to do tomorrow?

Most of us think of music as entertainment. Something to listen to while driving. Working out. Doing the dishes. Avoiding the awkward silence in an elevator. But it turns out music may be doing a lot more than helping us pass the time.

Research suggests that playing music is a remarkably demanding workout for the brain. When we play an instrument, our brains are simultaneously coordinating movement, attention, memory, vision, hearing, and creativity. It’s one of the few activities that asks so many different parts of the brain to work together at the same time.

Not surprisingly, studies have found that musicians often show differences in brain structure and function compared to non-musicians. Musical training has been associated with stronger memory, improved executive functioning, and even slower age-related cognitive decline. And the benefits may not stop there.

Playing music can create opportunities for social connection, reduce stress, and activate the brain’s reward systems. In other words, it’s one of those rare activities that is good for your mind, your mood, and your relationships all at once.

And before anyone starts saying, “That’s great for musicians, but I haven’t touched an instrument since middle school band…” There’s more good news. The research suggests that you don’t need to be a professional—or even particularly talented—to experience benefits. Consistent practice appears to be associated with positive changes in the brain among amateurs as well as experts.

Perhaps my favorite finding is that even simply listening to music may be associated with better cognitive outcomes later in life. So whether you’re playing guitar, singing in a choir, dusting off that neglected keyboard in the basement, or just creating the world’s most specific Spotify playlist, your brain may appreciate the effort.

The takeaway:
You don’t have to become the next Taylor Swift, Yo-Yo Ma, or Questlove to benefit from music. Sometimes wellness looks less like another task on your to-do list and more like making a little noise.

Today’s challenge:
Spend 10 minutes with music. Play it, sing it, learn it, or simply listen to it intentionally. Your brain just might thank you.

Most of us expect some wear and tear as we get older.

Our knees may complain a little louder. Reading menus gets harder. We suddenly have strong opinions about thermostats and the capital gains tax.

But here’s something many people don’t realize: our brains are constantly changing too. The good news? Those changes aren’t entirely out of our control.

Research continues to show that our daily habits can influence brain health throughout life. While aging is inevitable, some of the factors associated with cognitive decline may be modifiable.

Majid Fotuhi, MD, PhD, a neurologist by training, recently highlighted six habits that appear to support a healthier brain:

• Move your body. Exercise supports blood flow to the brain and may help maintain areas involved in memory and decision-making.
• Challenge your mind. Learning a new skill, hobby, language, or instrument keeps your brain engaged and adaptable.
• Prioritize sleep. Sleep is not laziness—it’s maintenance. Your brain does some of its most important housekeeping while you sleep.
• Eat well. Diets rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, seafood, nuts, and olive oil have been associated with better brain health.
• Manage stress. Practices such as meditation and mindfulness may help reduce the impact of chronic stress on the brain.
• Find purpose. People who feel their lives have meaning and direction tend to experience better cognitive outcomes.

Notice something? None of these require a miracle supplement, a complicated gadget, or a social media influencer telling you about a “brain hack.”

They’re the same habits that support many aspects of health: movement, sleep, nutrition, stress management, learning, and connection to what matters.

The takeaway:
You don’t have to transform your entire life to support your brain. Small daily choices add up over time.

Today’s challenge:
Pick one brain-friendly habit and spend just 10 minutes on it today. Take a walk. Learn something new. Practice mindfulness. Call someone you care about.

Your future brain may thank you for it.

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Most of us know we need “me time.” The tricky part is figuring out whether we are actually recharging… or just hiding in a room while aggressively scrolling, half-answering emails, and calling it wellness.

A recent Vox piece highlights an important distinction: solitude is not the same thing as loneliness, and alone time is not automatically restorative. The best kind of solitude helps us settle, reflect, and reconnect with ourselves so we can return to others with a little more patience, curiosity, and emotional bandwidth.

In other words, being alone can be healthy. Being unreachable for a few minutes can be even healthier. But disappearing from all human contact forever because “people are exhausting” may not be the ideal long-term wellness plan. Tempting, yes. Ideal, no.

The goal is balance. Researchers describe our social lives almost like a “social biome”—a mix of connection, quiet, routine interactions, deeper relationships, and restorative time alone. Too much social demand can leave us depleted. Too much isolation can leave us disconnected. Most of us need some version of both.

A few ways to make solitude actually useful:

• Take a short walk without immediately filling the silence with a podcast, text thread, or breaking news alert.
• Use small pockets of quiet already in your day: the shower, the commute, a few minutes before bed, or a lunch break away from the noise.
• Notice your warning signs: feeling irritable, overwhelmed, reactive, or unusually bothered by normal human interaction.
• Choose solitude that fits the need. Sometimes it is nature and no phone. Sometimes it is reading in a coffee shop. Sometimes it is simply stepping away for two minutes before replying.
• Make sure “me time” is not becoming “avoid everyone time.” Solitude should help us return to life, not permanently hide from it.

The takeaway: Alone time is not selfish. It is maintenance. But the best “me time” helps us come back to ourselves and back to each other.

Today’s challenge: Find one small pocket of real quiet today. Not performative quiet. Not quiet-with-47-notifications. Actual quiet. Then notice whether you feel even 5% more human afterward.

Most of us like to imagine that, by adulthood, we’ve reached a peaceful state of “take me or leave me.”

And then someone gives us a weird look in a meeting, sends a short text, doesn’t laugh at our joke, or seems mildly annoyed at the coffee shop, and suddenly our brain is running a full congressional investigation.

Jelena Kecmanovic, PhD, a clinical psychologist in the Washington area and a professor at Georgetown University, recently responded to a question posed to her, “How do I stop obsessing over whether people like me? I still get upset by even minor (or imagined) rejections. Why does this still bother me so much, and how can I care less?”

Caring what other people think is not a character flaw. It is human. We are wired to care about belonging, approval, and rejection. Historically, being accepted by the group was tied to survival; today, it usually just means we spend 45 minutes wondering whether “Sounds good” was secretly hostile.

The problem is not that we care. The problem is when we treat every ambiguous social cue as evidence that we are failing.

A few helpful reminders:

• Someone else’s mood, stress, hunger, history, or insecurity may have very little to do with us.
• We often underestimate how positively others see us.
• “That interaction felt awkward” is very different from “I am awkward.”
• “My idea was rejected” is very different from “I was rejected.”
• Not everyone will like us—and that is not necessarily an emergency.

The article also suggests something surprisingly useful: try assuming people like you. Not in an arrogant way. Just in a “maybe I don’t need to enter every room pre-apologizing for my existence” way. When we expect rejection, we may become guarded or distant, which can accidentally create the very disconnection we feared.

The takeaway: You do not have to stop caring what people think.

You can just practice caring a little less about every passing signal, every minor awkward moment, and every opinion from someone who may simply need lunch.

Today’s question: What would change today if you assumed you were already generally acceptable as you are?

In the fast-paced environment of a hospital, we often pass dozens of people—colleagues, patients, and visitors—while focused on the next task. However, recent research highlighted by NPR suggests that these brief, low-stakes interactions with “strangers” or “weak ties” are far more impactful than we realize.

A simple “hello,” a nod in the hallway, or a brief exchange with the person making your coffee can provide a significant boost to your mood and sense of community belonging. These “micro-connections” act as a social vitamin, reducing feelings of isolation and reminding us that we are part of a larger, supportive network.

The Daily Check-In

• Review: Think back on your morning. How many people did you pass without a greeting or eye contact?
• Reflect: Recall a time a stranger’s unexpected smile or a colleague’s quick “good morning” shifted your energy, even slightly.
• Regroup: Today, challenge yourself to one extra “micro-interaction.” It doesn’t have to be a conversation—just an acknowledgment of the person in the elevator or at the nurses’ station.
• Reenergize: Notice the small lift in your own mood after a brief, positive exchange. These moments are cumulative; the more we connect, the more resilient our community becomes.

Additional Tips & Tricks

• The 10-5 Rule: If you are within 10 feet of someone, make eye contact and smile. If you are within 5 feet, offer a verbal greeting.
• Put the Phone Away: Try keeping your phone in your pocket during brief transitions, like walking to the cafeteria or waiting for a meeting, to stay open to these small moments of connection.
• Keep it Low-Pressure: A simple “Have a good shift” or “Thank you” is often enough to create a positive social ripple.

Daily Dose Takeaway: Wellness isn’t just about what we do for ourselves; it’s also about how we acknowledge the people around us. A little “hello” goes a long way.

Most of us don’t walk around saying, “I just want my life to matter.”

But if we’re honest… it shows up everywhere. In our work. in our relationships, in the small moments where we wonder, “Did that make a difference?”

A recent perspective highlights something simple but powerful:
humans aren’t just trying to survive—we’re trying to feel like we count. And we tend to go about that in a few different ways:

• Through connection – being there for others, helping, caring
• Through achievement – pushing ourselves toward excellence
• Through belief or purpose – feeling part of something bigger
• Through comparison – trying to stand out or “win”

Here’s the important part: Most of us aren’t just one of these—we’re a mix, and that’s not a problem. It’s actually the point. There isn’t one “correct” way to build a meaningful life.

In fact, trying to force meaning—especially in ways that don’t fit us—often backfires. Meaning tends to come from what already feels naturally important to us: our interests, values, relationships, and the ways we’re wired.

There’s also a subtle but important reminder here: If one area of life shifts—like work, roles, or identity—our sense of meaning doesn’t have to disappear. We’re remarkably good at finding new ways to matter.

The takeaway:
You don’t need to overhaul your life to find meaning. You just need to notice where it already exists—and maybe give it a little more space.

Today’s question: Where in your life do you already feel like you matter… even a little?

Most of us know that feeling:
“Why did I just say that?”

We replay the moment. We cringe. We promise ourselves: next time, say less.

But what if we’ve been getting this wrong?

Emerging research suggests that we tend to overestimate the risks of sharing and underestimate the risks of staying silent. In fact, opening up—when done thoughtfully—can actually strengthen relationships, build trust, and deepen connection.

Here’s the nuance:

• Context matters. Sharing with a close friend is different than sharing with your boss.
• Timing matters. Too much too soon can push people away—but gradual openness pulls people in.
• Intent matters. Ask yourself: Why do I want to share this right now?

And just as important…

• Not sharing has a cost.
  If we never open up, relationships stay surface-level. Missed conversations can turn into missed connections.

There are, of course, a few “watch-outs”:

• One-sided emotional dumping tends to strain relationships
• Gossip or sharing others’ private information can backfire (and change how people see you)

The takeaway:
Instead of asking, “Was that too much?”
Try asking, “Was that honest, thoughtful, and appropriate for this moment?”

Because connection doesn’t come from saying everything.
But it also doesn’t come from saying nothing.

Today’s challenge:
Share something slightly more real than you normally would—with someone you trust.

Adapted from https://apnews.com/article/oversharing-relationships-tmi-revealing-personal-information-17cb005a250feb9915d9fd6ccb6a89da

Recently Andee Tagle and Mika Ellison at NPR’s Life Kit took time to explain how the “mental load”—the invisible work of planning, remembering, and managing daily life—often falls disproportionately on women, not because of innate ability, but because of persistent gender myths (e.g., that women are naturally better at multitasking, caregiving, or household coordination). These assumptions quietly shape expectations in relationships and families, leading many women to carry a heavier cognitive and emotional burden while men may underestimate or overlook this labor. The piece argues that one of the most effective first steps to lightening this load is actively challenging those myths—recognizing that these roles are learned and negotiable, not fixed—and then having explicit conversations to redistribute responsibilities more equitably. By naming the mental load, questioning default roles, and intentionally sharing planning and decision-making tasks, individuals and couples can reduce burnout, improve fairness, and create healthier dynamics at home. Read the full article here: https://www.npr.org/2026/04/21/nx-s1-5736111/want-to-lighten-your-mental-load-first-let-go-of-these-gender-myths and check out the quick tips here:

• Take a “mental load” assessment together to make the invisible visible—identify who is tracking, planning, and remembering what.
• Name and challenge gender myths (e.g., “women are just better at this”) that quietly justify unequal distribution.
• Make the invisible work explicit by listing out all tasks—especially planning, anticipating, and coordinating—not just the physical chores.
• Redistribute ownership, not just tasks—each person fully “owns” certain domains (planning, remembering, executing), rather than being asked or reminded.
• Have direct, ongoing conversations about expectations, fairness, and capacity instead of assuming roles.
• Resist perfectionism and control traps—allow different styles and “good enough” approaches when sharing responsibilities.
• Check in and adjust regularly as life circumstances change (work, kids, health, etc.).
• Model and normalize shared responsibility for children and others to break the cycle long-term.

Steven Petrow is a longtime journalist and author who reflects on aging through the lens of personal experience and family lessons. In a recent essay, he describes how, starting in his 50s, he created a list of “mistakes” he saw in his parents’ aging—initially humorous but ultimately serious—to guide himself toward a more intentional, healthy later life; now nearing 70, he admits he hasn’t always lived up to his own rules but emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, accountability, staying physically and mentally active, embracing change (including technology), and maintaining humor and gratitude, while also developing a more compassionate understanding of the complexities and inevitabilities of aging. You can read the full article at https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2026/03/22/aging-mistakes/, and his tips are below…

1. Hold yourself accountable: Find an “accountability partner,” suggests Chip Conley, author of “Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better With Age,” or make public certain promises to yourself. An accountability partner is someone in your life who can help you stick with your plan, and hopefully help get you back on track (in a non-judgmental way) if they catch you lying about your age, for example.

2. Don’t become hostage to denial: Stubborn denial of aging can be helpful sometimes, so that we don’t give up too soon and begin to narrow our world. But we also need to be realistic about how things are changing. Unless you’re really unlucky (by dying young), no one escapes aging. Period. About half of adults 60 or older have hearing loss and nearly all people 90 or older do, but only 15 to 30 percent of people who need hearing aids get them. Just as standing on your roof probably isn’t a great idea as you get older, pretending that your hearing is fine can have real-world impact. Untreated hearing loss can interfere with your ability to socialize and increase the risk of dementia. (Hearing aids can cut your risk of cognitive decline nearly in half.)

3. Think about how you want to do things differently as you age: Denise Austin, 69, insists that we keep moving, rather than become sedentary. It’s not always easy to stay mobile as you age, but you can try walking and stretching for starters. Austin also reminds people of the importance of keeping a positive attitude as we age, which many studies also support.

4. Keep current with new technologies: From hearing devices to new communication methods, staying up to date can not only help you keep in touch with people, but it could benefit your brain health. A 2025 meta analysis published in Nature reported that the greater use of everyday technologies, like smartphones and laptops, was associated with reduced odds of cognitive decline among those over 50, including mild cognitive decline and dementia diagnoses. So figure out how those buttons work on the remote and don’t be embarrassed to ask for help sorting out the new features on your iPhone. Yes, it takes effort; yes, it’s worth it.

5. Be grateful, avoid hubris and keep a sense of humor (especially about yourself). If I were to rewrite my book on aging, I’d have included this advice front and center. I’d also be less harsh in my judgments of my parents.

Sanjay Gupta (born October 23, 1969) is an American neurosurgeon, medical reporter, and writer. He serves as an associate chief of the neurosurgery service at Grady Memorial Hospital in Atlanta, Georgia, an associate professor of neurosurgery at the Emory University School of Medicine, a member of the National Academy of Medicine,[1] a member of the American Academy of Arts and Sciences,[2] and the chief medical correspondent for CNN.

His 2025 book, “It Doesn’t Have to Hurt: Your Smart Guide to a Pain-Free Life”, gathers the latest developments in pain science, based on his own experience with patients and conversations with researchers and doctors. Embedded in that is the basic of behavioral pain management strategies often used in addition to surgical and pharmacological pain interventions to provide maximum pain relief in a comprehensive way. The full article can be read at NPR.org, and below is an outline of his behavioral pain management tips.

Mindfulness-Oriented Recovery Enhancement (MORE): A specific protocol that emphasizes mindfulness, reappraisal, and savoring. Clinical evidence suggests it can reduce opioid misuse and chronic pain symptoms by “rewiring” the brain’s reward system.

The “MEAT” Protocol for Acute Injury: A shift away from the traditional RICE (Rest, Ice, Compression, Elevation) method for injuries like ankle sprains. MEAT stands for:

• Movement
• Exercise
• Analgesia (using pain medication if necessary, while avoiding excessive anti-inflammatories early on)
• Treatment (professional mobilization)

Active Gratitude and Savoring: Techniques to activate the body’s endogenous opioid system. This involves “active gratitude”—not just acknowledging a positive event, but deeply savoring the sensory details of an experience (like a sunset or food) to trigger the release of internal endorphins.

Psychoeducation as Therapy: The concept that simply learning about the neuroscience of pain—how the brain interprets and sometimes “creates” signals—can actually reduce the intensity of chronic pain for many patients.

Mindfulness and Distraction: Utilizing meditation and breathing exercises to move the brain out of a state of “hyper-focus” on a particular painful sensation.

Visual and Cognitive Imagery: Practitioners suggest “leaning away” from pain by focusing on pleasant scenes (e.g., flowers, time with family) to lower pain scores during periods of acute distress.

The following was recently shared by Mika Ellison.on the NPR Podcast “Life Kit.” It is a brief guide to reclaiming your energy and fighting burnout. Need help implementing these ideas? Make an appointment your with doctor today!

Do you feel like fighting exhaustion is basically your part-time job? But no matter what you do, any progress just seems like treading water?

Dr. Amy Shah has absolutely been there — and she didn’t want to accept that as the state of affairs forever. “It felt disappointing that this was just going to be life,” she says.

Shah’s quest to regain her vitality led her in 2021 to write I’m So Effing Tired: A Proven Plan to Beat Burnout, Boost Your Energy, and Reclaim Your Life. Through her research, she found that there are simple, natural ways to jumpstart your personal battery — that don’t require a double-shot of espresso every morning.

Here are five of Shah’s top ways to give yourself a much-needed jolt of energy.

🥦 Eat more nutrient-dense, high-fiber foods. They can support gut health by improving digestion, boosting your metabolic rate and promoting serotonin production. That grocery list includes high-fiber foods like blueberries, avocados, seeds and nuts, leafy greens and cruciferous vegetables.

🥤 Skip sugary, caffeinated drinks. They’re the “worst offenders” to your energy levels, Shah says. “Your blood sugar spikes then drops. Your cortisol spikes. Your inflammation levels rise.” Many sodas and energy drinks may give you a quick surge of energy initially, but will often make you feel even more tired and sluggish once that rush has worn off, she says.

🌭 Avoid processed meats. They have ingredients that have been linked to increased inflammation and other health issues such as cancer and high blood pressure, Shah says. If you do choose to eat meat, she says to opt for lean, organic choices like hormone-free chicken or grass-fed beef.

🌞 Expose yourself to sunlight early in the morning. It signals the brain to stop producing sleep-inducing melatonin and tells the body to wake up. “That’s one of the easiest ways to boost energy,” Shah says.

🕰️ Align your eating schedule with your biological clock. Eat during daylight hours, then give your digestive system a break during nighttime hours. Shah says you should stop eating three hours before bed and give your body at least a 12-hour break between eating periods to let your gut fully rest and digest.

Decades of research make one point clear: friendships are not just “nice to have”—they are a core health behavior. Strong social relationships are associated with a significantly increased likelihood of survival, while loneliness and isolation are linked to higher risks of early mortality. Social connection also predicts lower rates of depression, cardiovascular disease, and cognitive decline, reinforcing that friendships function as a powerful protective factor for both mental and physical health.

A recent New York Times piece on making and keeping friends emphasizes that friendship in adulthood rarely “just happens”—it requires intention. The article highlights common barriers, like assuming others won’t like us or believing friendships should form naturally, and reframes connection as something we actively build. People tend to underestimate how much others like them, and those going through life transitions are often especially open to new relationships. The takeaway: meaningful friendships grow from small, repeated efforts—initiating contact, inviting others, and staying engaged over time.

Practical takeaways:

• Follow up and maintain contact—consistency builds closeness
• Assume people will like you—this reduces social hesitation
• Treat friendship as intentional, not accidental—effort matters
• Seek out people in transition—they’re often more open to connection
• Initiate plans (don’t wait for others to reach out)

For many people, spring brings a lift in wellbeing as longer daylight helps realign circadian rhythms and sleep–wake timing. Studies also associate greater daylight exposure with lower depressive symptoms and higher positive affect.

Need some small, behavioral steps supported by research to get your Spring upswing going? Consider these…

• Get outside early. Studies show  ≥1 hour/day of daylight in winter was linked with lower odds of depressive symptoms .
• Move one routine outdoors — a short walk, coffee break, or lunch — to increase daylight exposure and support positive affect
• Keep wake time steady and shift schedules gradually as days lengthen; circadian stability is tightly linked to mood regulation
• Struggling? Ask a trust healthcare provider about clinician-guided bright-light therapy or CBT for SAD

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Lauran Neergaard is an Associated Press medical writer who covers research on brain health, infectious diseases, organ transplantation and more. She is based in Washington, D.C. She recently published a piece examining how we can keep our brains healthy throughout our lives.

Neergaard explains that keeping the brain healthy involves more than simply doing “brain games.” Research suggests that lifelong cognitively stimulating activities—such as reading, writing, learning languages, playing strategy games, solving puzzles, or engaging in cultural activities—can help maintain cognitive function and may lower the risk of Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia. These activities “stretch” different cognitive systems and build what researchers call cognitive enrichment across the lifespan. Importantly, experts note that it’s never too late to start; middle age and later life still offer meaningful opportunities to strengthen brain health through mentally engaging hobbies, learning new skills, and maintaining curiosity about the world.

Key recommendations for supporting brain health include:

• Engage regularly in mentally stimulating activities (reading, puzzles, writing, chess, etc.).
• Continue learning throughout life, such as studying a language or picking up a new skill.
• Participate in intellectually enriching hobbies like music, birdwatching, or museum visits.
• Seek activities that challenge different thinking abilities, not just memory.
• Maintain cognitive engagement from early life through older adulthood when possible.
• Remember that starting later in life can still be beneficial for cognitive health.

If you’d like to explore the research and examples in more detail, you can read the full article here: https://apnews.com/article/brain-games-dementia-alzheimers-cognition-e4ceb3b4dda84977083d1fc9fbb25ba7

Making friends as an adult can feel surprisingly hard — but there are practical ways to make it easier. A recent article highlights how friendships often require intention, repeated contact, and a willingness to reach out — even when it feels uncomfortable. Research suggests people tend to like us more than we assume, and simply reconnecting with someone from your contacts can be a powerful first step.

Want simple, research-based ideas for building meaningful friendships later in life? You can read Laura Regensdorf’ recent article, “How to Make Friends as an Adult: A practical guide for expanding your circle, with advice from sociable people” at The New York Times. Here is a preview of her tips below!

In busy seasons, it’s easy to believe that self-care requires extra time we don’t have. In reality, small pauses throughout the day can help reset our stress levels and improve focus, mood, and resilience. Even a minute or two of intentional slowing down can calm the nervous system and help us return to our work and relationships with more clarity. Wellness doesn’t have to be complicated — it often starts with noticing when we need a moment and giving ourselves permission to take it.

Try this today:

• ⏸️ Take three slow breaths before starting a new task or meeting
• 🚶 Step away for a 2-minute stretch or short walk during your day
• 📵 Choose one brief moment without screens to reset your attention

A recently published interview in the New York Times with George Saunders feels, true to form, literary on the surface but lands squarely in psychological territory. In the interview, Saunders suggests that much of our suffering comes from three core delusions — assumptions so baked into our operating system that we rarely question them:

1. We are permanent.
   We move through life as if death is an abstraction — something that happens to other people.
2. We are the most important thing.
   From early childhood, we experience ourselves as the protagonist. The camera is on us.
3. We are separate.
   We feel fundamentally distinct from others — “I am me; you are you” — as though the boundary is solid and absolute.

He argues that all three are evolutionarily understandable — they help us survive. But they are not ultimately true. And clinging to them creates fear, defensiveness, judgment, and isolation.

Or, phased through the lens of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

• The “permanence” delusion runs directly counter to radical acceptance of impermanence.
• The “I am the most important thing” narrative maps onto fusion with ego and identity.
• The “separateness” belief undermines compassion and relational attunement.

Saunders isn’t prescribing a grand spiritual solution. He’s describing moments — brief, almost accidental ones — where those delusions loosen. He talks about meditation helping him see thoughts as “brain farts” rather than identity. He describes how deeply inhabiting a fictional character dissolves easy judgment. He reframes kindness not as niceness, but as the ability to be present enough to ask, “What would actually help here?”

And then he offers a line that stopped me:

Any moment in this life when you get clear of that trio of delusions, you’re saved.

Not saved in a theological sense (though for some this could be). Saved in a psychological one.

If I’m not permanent, I don’t have to defend against death every second.
If I’m not the most important thing, ego threat softens.
If I’m not separate, compassion becomes more natural than effortful.

In our work here at Cooper — where mortality is not theoretical, where distress is acute, and where our roles can quietly inflate or exhaust our sense of self — this framing feels particularly relevant.

How often does conflict at work boil down to one of these three delusions?

• A reaction rooted in “this shouldn’t be happening to me.”
• A defensiveness fueled by “this reflects on my worth.”
• A distancing from patients or colleagues that protects us but also isolates us.

And how often do our best moments — the ones that feel grounded, calm, and quietly meaningful — occur when those narratives temporarily fall away?

In ACT language, it’s self-as-context.
In DBT language, it’s Wise Mind.
In Saunders’ language, it’s stepping out of the movie where we are the star and realizing we’re part of something larger and more interconnected.

I’m not naïve about how hard this is. Saunders himself is clear that he’s anxious, busy, grumpy at times — very human. Me too.

The point isn’t to “achieve” saintliness. It’s to recognize that the mind is constantly generating stories, and we don’t have to believe all of them.

If you’re interested in reflections on kindness, ego, death, literature, and the psychology of being human — I highly recommend reading the full interview. It’s thoughtful, humble, and surprisingly practical.

You can find it here:

https://www.nytimes.com/2026/01/10/magazine/george-saunders-interview.html

Psychology has spent a lot of time studying how we can bridge the gap between what we know medically and what people are actually able to do in daily life.

Through evidence-based approaches like stress management, habit change, sleep improvement, and values-driven motivation, behavioral medicine, a discipline within the field of psychology, helps people reduce risk factors such as chronic stress, poor sleep, physical inactivity, and unhealthy eating—while also supporting medication adherence and coping with the emotional impact of living with cardiovascular disease.

Rather than treating the heart in isolation, behavioral medicine recognizes that thoughts, emotions, relationships, and daily routines are deeply intertwined with cardiovascular well-being, making it an essential partner in truly comprehensive, whole-person cardiac care.

Below are 5 simple, actionable tips people can start using right away to support heart health through a behavioral medicine lens:

1. Connect your heart health to your values — write down who or what you’re doing this for, and revisit it when motivation dips.
2. Take one 2–3 minute “reset” each day — slow your breathing (inhale 4, exhale 6) to reduce stress and lower blood pressure.
3. Tie movement to a routine you already have — e.g., a 10-minute walk after dinner or during a daily phone call.
4. Prioritize one good night of sleep per week by setting a consistent bedtime and turning off screens 60 minutes before bed.
5. Plan for obstacles, not willpower — if you’re busy, have a backup (healthy snack, short walk, or quick stretch).

This week, Andee Tagle and Lennon Sherburne from NPR’s “Life Kit” explain how many people get stuck in a cycle of sleep anxiety — worrying about not falling asleep, which then makes it harder to do so — and offers practical, expert-backed strategies to break that cycle. It highlights four key approaches: keeping a consistent wake-up time to regulate your body’s internal clock; focusing on a calming wind-down routine rather than forcing a specific bedtime; setting aside a dedicated “worry time” during the day to process stress so it doesn’t flood your mind at night; and being mindful about how you track sleep data to avoid becoming fixated on “perfect” numbers. These methods are rooted in principles of cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBT-I), which aims to reshape thoughts and habits around sleep to improve rest without relying on medication.

• Keep a consistent wake-up time
• Set your alarm for the same time every day, even on weekends.
• Treat your wake-up time like a non-negotiable appointment to help regulate your body clock.

• Focus on a wind-down routine instead of a strict bedtime
• Choose a wind-down start time (e.g., 30–60 minutes before sleep).
• Do relaxing activities like dimming lights, turning off screens, changing into comfy clothes, light reading, or gentle stretching.
• Let your body naturally cue sleep rather than forcing a specific bedtime.

• Schedule a daily “worry time”
• Set aside 10–15 minutes earlier in the day to jot down concerns or tasks on your mind.
• Use a notebook or phone list to capture stressors so you can remind yourself “I already addressed this” before bed.

• Be mindful about how you track sleep
• If you use a wearable or app, decide in advance how you’ll use the data (e.g., to adjust routines, not to chase “perfect” numbers).
• If data makes you anxious, try pen-and-paper tracking or focus on how you feel in the morning instead of exact metrics.

In this NPR Life Kit interview, Stanford behavior scientist BJ Fogg explains that habits are behaviors we do automatically, and that building them is less about willpower and repetition and more about smart design: choosing behaviors you genuinely want, making them extremely easy, and fitting them naturally into your existing routine.

His Tiny Habits method is grounded in a simple behavior model—motivation, ability, and prompt must converge for a behavior to occur—and he argues that lowering the “ability” bar (e.g., flossing one tooth, doing one push-up) makes habits resilient even when motivation fluctuates. A key innovation is anchoring new habits to routines you already do, so the routine itself becomes the prompt, rather than relying on reminders or memory. Fogg also emphasizes celebration: feeling successful right after doing the habit creates positive emotion, which is what actually wires habits into the brain.

While starting habits and breaking habits are different processes, the same model applies—remove motivation, ability, or the prompt and a habit can weaken. Over time, tiny habits can naturally grow as ability and motivation increase, often accompanied by an identity shift (“I’m the kind of person who does this”). What really works to make habits stick is making the behavior easy, anchoring it to an existing routine, and generating a genuine feeling of success in the moment.

How to get started building good habits

• Start with what you want, not what you “should” do
  Choose habits that clearly connect to the life you want (better sleep, more energy, less stress), not external pressure.
• Shrink the habit to its tiniest possible version
  Define a version so easy you can do it even on your worst day (one tooth, one squat, one deep breath).
• Anchor the habit to something you already do
  Use an existing routine as the prompt: “After I brush my teeth, I will floss one tooth.”
• Avoid relying on reminders, alarms, or memory
  Let your daily routines do the reminding whenever possible.
• Celebrate immediately after doing the habit
  Smile, say “nice job,” or feel a moment of pride—positive emotion is what builds automaticity.
• Allow yourself to do more, but never require it
  The tiny habit is the success; anything extra is optional.
• Work in clusters around one domain
  You can start multiple habits at once if they support the same goal (e.g., mobility, nutrition, strength).
• Use the “movie test” to make habits concrete
  If you can’t picture yourself doing it in a movie, it’s not specific enough.
• Expect growth and identity shift over time
  As habits feel easier and successes accumulate, motivation and self-concept naturally expand.
• For unwanted habits, experiment with hiding prompts
  Change environments, routes, notifications, or visibility to reduce cues that trigger the behavior.

The folks over at calm.com recently wrote a how-to guide for overcoming what they call the January Blues. The January blues refers to a common, temporary slump in mood and energy many people experience in early January, especially in the northern hemisphere as post-holiday quiet replaces festive busyness and daylight hours remain short. Rather than a clinical disorder like seasonal affective disorder (SAD), this dip is usually mild and short-lived, often showing up as low motivation, heaviness, or slower functioning. The Calm blog outlines 7 mindful strategies to help lift your mood and regain balance during this season by gently supporting your body, emotions, and routines, such as seeking morning light, adding simple structure, moving your body with gentle activity, planning small joys, nurturing social connections, balancing rest with engagement, and setting realistic expectations for the season.

Eric Topol is a leading cardiologist, physician-scientist, and author known for his research on cardiovascular disease, digital health, and longevity. He is the founder and director of the Scripps Research Translational Institute and has led influential studies on “super agers,” showing how lifestyle factors—more than genetics—drive healthy aging.

In a recent article, Dr. Topol outlined the diet of so-called “super agers.” These recommendations are outlined below, the full article can be read at https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2026/01/02/longevity-expert-eats-every-day/

• Lifestyle matters more than genetics: Studies of “super agers” (ages 80–105 without major chronic disease) suggest genetics plays a minimal role; habits matter most.



• Follow a Mediterranean-style, anti-inflammatory diet: Emphasize vegetables, fruits, legumes, plants, nuts, seeds, olive oil, fish (e.g., salmon), and some poultry—an approach supported by randomized trials and large observational studies.



• Avoid or sharply limit red meat: Linked with higher cancer risk and inflammation; Topol has avoided it for decades (also influenced by family history of colon cancer).



• Avoid ultra-processed foods when possible: Especially items with long ingredient lists and additives (added sugars, salt, artificial sweeteners, emulsifiers) that are associated with poorer health and inflammation.



• Don’t overdo protein: Avoid the “protein craze,” especially when protein comes from red meat or ultra-processed foods, which may increase inflammation.



• Watch out for “healthy-looking” calorie traps: Smoothies can contain very high sugar and calorie loads (even ~1,000 calories) without people realizing it.



• Pay attention to timing, not just content: Late-night eating and frequent snacking can be problematic; Topol aims to stop eating around 7 p.m. and fast overnight (~12 hours).



• Hydrate—especially if eating high-oxalate healthy foods: Nuts and berries can be high in oxalates; Topol stresses rigorous hydration (he prefers fizzy water) to reduce kidney stone risk.



• Be realistic about alcohol intake: Many people underestimate what “moderate” drinking looks like; Topol frequently counsels patients to clarify and reduce intake.



• Longevity is multi-factorial: Diet works best alongside regular exercise, about seven hours of sleep nightly, and strong social bonds.

If you are dreading all the “peopling” you will need to engage in this holiday season, Shay Mirk and Andee Tagle and NPR’s Lifekit have the solution – in convenient comic form!

With the new year just two weeks away, and the potential that the run-up to the other holidays has already thrown you off your wellness schedule, we are sharing today 5 timeless wellness tips from our friends from the Harvard Health Blog – enjoy!

https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/5-timeless-habits-for-better-health-202509243106

Many people experience depression and anxiety during the winter holidays due to a mix of factors: financial stress from gift-giving, social pressures to appear joyful, loneliness or grief over absent loved ones, and seasonal changes like reduced daylight that can trigger Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). Unrealistic expectations and constant comparisons on social media can amplify feelings of inadequacy, making this time emotionally challenging for many.

Tips for Beating the Christmas Blues

• Set Realistic Expectations – Avoid striving for a “perfect” holiday; focus on meaningful moments rather than perfection.
• Budget Wisely – Plan spending ahead and stick to it to reduce financial stress.
• Prioritize Self-Care – Maintain healthy routines like sleep, exercise, and balanced meals.
• Limit Social Media – Reduce exposure to idealized holiday posts that can fuel comparison and anxiety.
• Stay Connected – Reach out to friends, family, or community groups to combat loneliness.
• Practice Gratitude – Reflect on what you appreciate, even small things, to shift focus from stressors.
• Seek Sunlight or Light Therapy – Counteract winter’s reduced daylight to boost mood.
• Ask for Help – If feelings persist, consider talking to a mental health professional.

A new study out last week in JAMA Network Open found that cutting down on social media use even for a week can significantly reduce mental health symptoms in young adults. In addition, a recently published meta-analysis found that limiting social media is tied to a statistically significant boost in “subjective well-being.” If you are interested, ready more at https://www.npr.org/2025/12/02/nx-s1-5627156/social-media-digital-detox-depression-anxiety

If you are ready get some relief, here are a few tips from experts:

1. Block out time

Using social media mindfully can help. That can take the form of setting goals for when we check our phones and for what. For example, setting aside 10-minute blocks at specific times to get rid of notifications or check headlines or unread messages. Doing so seems to work and keeps us from getting distracted or going down rabbit holes for hours.

2. Make it harder to log on and scroll

Removing apps from the home screen and disabling notifications from social media apps can help too. So does logging out of the platform after use, which makes it a little bit harder to get back in.

3. Protect sleep

For many people, social media use affects mood through “nighttime scrolling” by disrupting sleep and contributing to insomnia. For those individuals, restricting evening or nighttime use is key. Tt least one hour of tech-free time before bed is recommended to mentally disconnect from the online world and promote adequate, restful sleep. Parents can help teenagers build a habit of not using social media at night by designating bedrooms as “tech-free zones” at night.

4. Stroll more, scroll less

For those who turn to social media during periods of boredom try replacing screen time with physical activity like a walk or a run. The initial hump is a little bit higher but over time, actually, patients end up liking it more because they get more of a dopamine surge than they do with social media.

5. Seek treatment, if more is going on

For many people, social media overuse is linked to underlying mental health conditions such as depression, anxiety and ADHD. And while cutting back on social media might help alleviate some of those symptoms, he recommends that they also seek treatment from a mental health care provider.

 

As we prepare to celebrate Thanksgiving, it’s a perfect time to pause and reflect on the incredible work happening across the Cooper healthcare system. Every role—whether you’re at the bedside, in the clinic, behind the scenes in administration, or supporting operations—contributes to the healing and well-being of our patients and their families. Your dedication makes a profound difference every day.

Gratitude isn’t just a seasonal sentiment; research shows it can boost resilience, reduce stress, and strengthen team connections. In the fast pace of healthcare, taking a moment to notice what we appreciate can help us recharge and reconnect with our purpose.

So. before your next shift or meeting, ask yourself: “What is one thing I’m grateful for today—big or small—and how can I express that gratitude to someone else?”

Thank you for all you do to care for others and for each other. Wishing you a safe and restorative holiday!

Reasons to be Cheerful was founded by artist and musician David Byrne, who believes in the power of approaching the world with curiosity—in art, in music, in collaboration and in life. Under the banner of Byrne’s nonprofit organization, Arbutus, Reasons to be Cheerful embodies this sensibility, applying it now to the future of our world. Through stories of hope, rooted in evidence, Reasons to be Cheerful aims to inspire us all to be curious about how the world can be better, and to ask ourselves how we can be part of that change.

Topics include Civic Engagement, Climate + Environment, Cities + Towns, Culture, Economy, Education, Farms + Food, Health, Justice, as well as Science + Tech. Each story is founded on the belief that we tell stories that reveal that there are, in fact, a surprising number of reasons to feel cheerful. Many of these reasons come in the form of smart, proven, replicable solutions to the world’s most pressing problems. Through sharp reporting, RTBC stories balance a sense of healthy optimism with journalistic rigor, and find cause for hope. Byrne describes this project as part magazine, part therapy session, part blueprint for a better world.

Want to check it out? Visit https://reasonstobecheerful.world/ today!

When we think about the gym we often think about training splits, e.g. cardio day, arm day, leg day, etc. But what about mental exercise?

Scientists are reporting the first compelling evidence in people that cognitive training can boost levels of a brain chemical that typically declines with age.

A 10-week study of people 65 or older found that doing rigorous mental exercises for 30 minutes a day increased levels of the chemical messenger acetylcholine by 2.3% in a brain area involved in attention and memory.

Want to learn more? Read the full article, part of NPR’s “Living Better” series, at https://www.npr.org/2025/10/22/nx-s1-5581409/mental-exercise-reverse-brain-change-aging-acetylcholine

Want to start your brain workout? Head over to https://www.brainhq.com/ and check out their free exercises!

Did the headline get your attention and get you to click through? Good!

Rebecca Jennings is a journalist known for her insightful and often culturally reflective writing. At New York Magazine, she covers topics ranging from internet culture and technology to lifestyle trends and social behavior, often exploring how digital life intersects with our emotional and cognitive well-being.

In a recent piece, Rebecca explored the modern crisis of attention, tracing its roots from smartphones back to earlier digital tools like email and PCs. She highlights how constant context-switching and digital distractions have eroded our ability to focus. So what can we do?

Some people are turning to analog activities, mindfulness practices, and community-based efforts like book clubs to reclaim their attention spans. Experts suggest that while tech tools can help in the short term, long-term improvement requires habit change, self-awareness, and intentional breaks. So here are some tips on how to up your attentional game:

• Engage in analog hobbies like pottery, knitting, or drawing to reduce screen dependence.
• Use digital tools wisely: enable DO NOT DISTURB mode, switch to grayscale, or install app blockers.
• Practice mindfulness or meditation regularly to strengthen focus and mental clarity.
• Take frequent, intentional breaks during work to prevent burnout and maintain productivity.
• Develop meta-awareness of your habits to catch and interrupt automatic distractions.
• Join focused communities (e.g., book clubs) to foster deeper engagement and accountability.
• Use distraction-free devices like e-ink tablets for reading and writing.

“Good morning. The good things in our lives are the result of fantastic webs of interconnected prerequisites.” This according to a recent piece by Melissa Kirsch, longtime contributor at the New York Times.

Melissa recently reflected on the modern concept of gratitude practices, like gratitude journals or jars, which encourage people to intentionally acknowledge the good in their lives—a habit shown to benefit mental, relational, and even physical health. Despite feeling uneasy about the commercialization and cliché surrounding “attitude of gratitude” culture, she described a personal practice that deepens this idea: tracing each moment of gratitude backward through the web of connections and events that made it possible. This reflective process transforms simple appreciation into a profound recognition of interdependence, echoing ideas from Buddhism, Judaism, and Martin Luther King Jr.’s notion of a “network of mutuality.” Ultimately, the practice reveals how every person and event is part of a vast chain of causes, reminding us that gratitude can reconnect us to others and counter feelings of isolation.

Ready to start? Below is the step-by-step, and the full article is available at https://www.nytimes.com/2025/10/25/briefing/personal-history.html

• Start a gratitude practice: Set aside time each day to intentionally acknowledge things you’re grateful for.
• Use a method that works for you: Try a gratitude journal (write three things daily) or a gratitude jar (drop in notes throughout the year to read later).
• Choose one specific thing to focus on: Pick something small—a gift, an experience, or an object that brings you joy.
• Trace its origins: Reflect on how that thing came into your life. Who gave it to you? How did you meet them? What earlier events made that possible?
• Follow the chain of connections: Continue tracing backward, noting all the people, decisions, and coincidences that led to this moment.
• Recognize interdependence: Notice how many relationships and circumstances contributed to your gratitude—how you’re part of a wider network.
• Acknowledge your role in others’ gratitude: Remember that you’re also a link in other people’s chains of connection and appreciation.
• Use this reflection to counter disconnection: When feeling lonely or isolated, repeat the process to remind yourself of the many ties that bind you to others.
• Embrace sincerity over performance: Avoid treating gratitude as a trendy or performative act; focus on genuine reflection rather than social display.
• Repeat regularly: Make this expanded, interconnected form of gratitude a consistent habit for deeper emotional grounding.

Psychologist Angela Duckworth identifies “grit”—a blend of passion and perseverance for long-term goals—as the key trait shared by elite achievers across fields. Her research, including studies of West Point cadets and National Spelling Bee contestants, shows that grit consistently outperforms traditional predictors of success like intelligence, SAT scores, and physical fitness. Duckworth emphasizes that grit involves sustained effort, resilience during setbacks, and deliberate practice. While she acknowledges that grit isn’t the only factor in personal development, her work underscores that effort plays a crucial role in turning potential into achievement.

Applying Angela Duckworth’s findings on grit to healthcare work—especially in high-stress environments like primary care, emergency departments, or behavioral health—highlights the importance of sustained effort and resilience. Healthcare professionals often face emotionally taxing situations, systemic barriers, and long-term challenges in patient care. Her research supports continuous learning and deliberate practice, which are essential for adapting to evolving medical knowledge and patient needs. Cultivating grit among healthcare teams may enhance retention, morale, and the delivery of compassionate, evidence-based care.

Ready to learn more? Want to take the Grit measure and others? Visit https://angeladuckworth.com/

Practicing humility offers a range of psychological and physical benefits that contribute to overall well-being. Psychologically, humility enhances emotional resilience, helping individuals recover from setbacks by fostering acceptance and reducing self-critical thoughts. It improves emotional regulation, lowers stress and anxiety, and promotes realistic self-assessment, which leads to healthier coping strategies and reduced defensiveness. Humble individuals tend to form stronger relationships due to increased empathy, active listening, and openness to others’ perspectives. Physically, these psychological benefits can translate into better health outcomes by reducing stress-related ailments and encouraging supportive social networks. Humility also supports personal growth, spiritual well-being, and a balanced sense of self, making it a powerful yet often overlooked trait for mental and physical health. Need help practicing? See below!

Wright et al. (2017) – This article in The Journal of Positive Psychology discusses the psychological significance of humility, defining it as a virtue that fosters emotional resilience, openness to feedback, and interpersonal harmony. It emphasizes humility’s role in reducing defensiveness and enhancing self-awareness.

• Citation: Wright, J. C., Nadelhoffer, T., Perini, T., Langville, A., Echols, M., & Venezia, K. (2017). The psychological significance of humility. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 12(1), 3–12. https://doi.org/10.1080/17439760.2016.1167940 [psycnet.apa.org]

Ross & Wright (2021) – This study in Psychological Reports found that humility correlates with lower depression and anxiety, higher happiness, love of life, and self-efficacy. It also links humility to personality traits like conscientiousness and openness.

• Citation: Ross, L. T., & Wright, J. C. (2021). Humility, personality, and psychological functioning. Psychological Reports, 0(0), 1–24. https://doi.org/10.1177/00332941211062819 [researchgate.net]

Tangney (2012) – In The Oxford Handbook of Positive Psychology, humility is described as a multifaceted construct involving accurate self-assessment and a “forgetting of the self,” contributing to psychological balance and interpersonal effectiveness.

• Citation: Tangney, J. P. (2012). Humility. In The Oxford Handbook of Positive Psychology (pp. 483–490). Oxford University Press. https://doi.org/10.1093/oxfordhb/9780195187243.013.0046 [academic.oup.com]

Van Tongeren & Myers (2017) – This review in Current Directions in Psychological Science highlights humility’s role in acknowledging biases, fostering openness, and prioritizing others’ well-being, which supports mental health and social functioning.

• Citation: Van Tongeren, D. R., & Myers, D. G. (2017). Humility. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 28(5), 463–468. https://doi.org/10.1177/0963721419850153 [jstor.org]

Pumpkin spice and falling leaves remind us that fall is a season of change—and a great time to refresh our routines. Even small shifts, like taking a brisk walk during lunch or swapping one coffee for water, can give your body and mind a boost. Let the season inspire you to try one small healthy change this week. Need more tips on achieving these goals?
Visit https://www.cdc.gov/healthy-weight-growth/healthy-eating/

When we make mistakes at work, it can lead to a cycle of negative thinking. The damaging thoughts swirl: “I’m an impostor.” “I’m not smart enough.” “I’m failing at my job.” Feeling like an impostor — doubting one’s own abilities despite a track record of success — is common, especially among women and members of marginalized groups. Even on days when everything’s going right, it can be hard to shift out of a cycle of self-doubt.

Cathy Bussewitz at The Associated Press recently sat down with Dr. Judith Beck, president of the Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavior Therapy just across the river in Philadelphia, to discuss this phenomenon and what we can do about it. The full article, It can be hard to shift out of negative thoughts, but there are ways to stop spiraling, can be read at apnews.com. Below is a summary.

Main Points

• Mistakes at work often trigger a cycle of negative thinking: “I’m an impostor,” “I’m not smart enough,” “I’m failing at my job.”
• Impostor syndrome—feeling unqualified despite evidence of competence—is common, especially among women and marginalized groups.
• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is useful for interrupting negative self-talk by helping people:
  1. Identify recurring unhelpful thoughts
  2. Evaluate whether those thoughts are accurate
  3. Reframe them into more realistic or constructive narratives

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Psychological & Evolutionary Insights

• Our brains are wired to notice threats and negatives—survival mechanisms still influence us today. This bias makes us more likely to dwell on problems than successes.
• We also tend to filter out positive feedback and magnify mistakes.
• To counter this, repeatedly practicing positive self-beliefs can help build a “healthier thinking muscle.”

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Strategies & Techniques

• Question your thought’s validity
  Ask: “What evidence supports this?” “What contradicts it?” “What does ‘good enough’ really mean?”
• “Microscope” technique
  Write down negative statements (e.g. “They don’t value my work”) and then do exercises like reading backwards, counting words, or visualizing them on a cloud to reduce their emotional impact.
• Replace with healthier thoughts
  For example:
  • “I’ve made good choices today.”
  • “Some things went well; tomorrow I’ll try again.”
  • Use scripts or mantras to respond when old negative thoughts resurface.

In the fast-paced environment that is Cooper, even a few minutes of intentional stillness can make a meaningful difference. This 10-minute meditation, adapted to be done even while seated behind a desk, is designed specifically for healthcare staff to reset, refocus, and reconnect with their inner calm—right from where they are. Regular practice can help reduce stress, improve emotional resilience, and foster a greater sense of presence during demanding shifts.

Recently, Anya Kamenetz and Cory Turner at NPR updated their article in which they spoke a handful of child development experts about what parents, teachers and other caregivers can say to help kids process all the scary news out there. The full article can be listened to and read at https://www.npr.org/2019/04/24/716704917/when-the-news-is-scary-what-to-say-to-kids and a summary of their advice is available below.

Limit children’s exposure to breaking news, especially unsupervised or ambient viewing (e.g., the TV running in the background). Adults need to control when and how kids come across disturbing content.

Check in gently on what they’ve heard and how they feel. Choose a calm time—like dinner or bedtime—to ask, “What have you heard? How does that make you feel?” This creates a safe space for kids to express themselves.

Provide facts and context to help dispel misinformation—especially important in the age of social media. For instance, clarify serious rumors, like “No, there’s not a draft and World War III hasn’t begun.”

Avoid labeling individuals as “bad guys”. Instead, describe behavior—explain that some people might be in pain, angry, or making poor choices. And it’s okay to say, “I don’t know why it happened,” when the answer is simply not available.

Encourage children to process events through play and art. Creative expression helps them make sense of what’s overwhelming—allowing them to construct their stories and understand emotions in a safe way.

Focus on the helpers—highlight stories of people taking care of others. Fred Rogers’s advice—“When something scary is happening, look for the helpers”—can help shift perspective toward hope and resilience.

Take positive action together. Involve kids in meaningful efforts like peaceful rallies, donation drives, or writing to officials. Taking action creates a sense of agency and reduces anxiety.

Weather you yourself are preparing for a new semester or young ones in your family are headed back to school, today we are sharing tips to reduce anxieties around that and set everyone up for success!

A new school year can bring both excitement and nervousness. New teachers, friends, and routines may feel overwhelming, but preparing ahead can help your child start confidently and smoothly.

Tip #1: Start Routines Early Ease the transition by practicing school routines during the summer: Wake up and get ready at a consistent time. Pick out clothes the night before. Add in learning games, regular mealtimes, and a bedtime routine. Use a visual schedule and give small choices to increase independence.

Tip #2: Visit the School If possible, tour the building before school starts. Meet the teacher and key staff, find important places (bathrooms, nurse, counselor), and review expectations like lining up or carrying a lunch tray. Open houses and private tours can make the environment more familiar.

Tip #3: Create a Social Story Social stories help children know what to expect in their day. Write or use pictures to show steps such as greeting the teacher, getting lunch, or asking for help. Practice behavioral expectations like raising a hand or telling the teacher if they feel unwell. Using real photos of your child’s school can make this more effective.

Tip #4: Check In Regularly Build emotional check-ins into daily routines (after school or dinner). Use tools like a feelings chart or the “Rose, Bud, Thorn” game (best part, what’s next, what was hard). Practice calming skills such as deep breathing, coloring, or sensory play, and model healthy ways to handle mistakes.

With preparation, the new year can be a positive time of growth, helping your child feel safe, supported, and ready to learn.

Many professionals today live in a near-constant state of pressure, managing careers, families, personal health, and social responsibilities as though they were juggling too many fragile balls in the air. This relentless sense of responsibility often breeds chronic stress and anxiety, leaving them fearful that one misstep will cause everything to come crashing down. Over time, the emotional toll can manifest as burnout, irritability, decreased focus, strained relationships, and a loss of connection to personal values, making even success feel hollow or unsustainable.

Skills to Address This (ACT + DBT):

• ACT Skills
  • Cognitive Defusion: Noticing anxious thoughts (“I’ll drop everything”) as mental events, not truths.
  • Acceptance: Allowing space for stress and uncertainty without needing to control every feeling.
  • Values Clarification: Identifying what truly matters (e.g., presence with family, meaningful work) to prioritize.
  • Committed Action: Taking small, values-driven steps instead of chasing unrealistic perfection.
  • Self-as-Context: Observing the self beyond roles and tasks, reducing over-identification with performance.
• DBT Skills
  • Wise Mind: Balancing logic and emotion when overwhelmed by responsibilities.
  • Mindfulness: Anchoring in the present moment rather than spiraling into “what if” fears.
  • PLEASE Skill: Taking care of Physical health, balanced Lifestyle, managing Emotions, avoiding mood-Altering substances, Sleep, and balanced Eating.
  • DEAR MAN: Communicating needs effectively at work or home to redistribute burdens.
  • Radical Acceptance: Acknowledging life’s limits and choosing peace with what cannot be controlled.

Six Questions to Evoke Gratitude

• What happened today that was good?
• What am I taking for granted that I can be thankful for?
• Which people in my life am I grateful for?
• What is the last book I read or movie, show, or social media clip I saw that I really appreciated, and why?
• What am I most looking forward to this week, month, and year, and why?
• What is the kindest thing someone has said or done lately?

It’s hot. Like “maybe we should pack up and move to an arctic research base” hot. And while August is here and we look forward to Autumn just a little while from now we still have to find a way to beat the heat. Thankfully, Howard E. LeWine, MD, Chief Medical Editor at Harvard Health Publishing and Heidi Godman, Executive Editor at the Harvard Health Letter, have some answers. You can read their full article, titled Want to cool down? 14 ideas to try, here but we have a summary of their tips below. Stay cool out there!

Cover the basics

• Become a weather expert. Use a weather app on your smartphone and pay attention to the hourly temperatures, not just daily highs and lows. Note the hottest points of the day and plan your schedule around them.
• Stay hydrated. One way the body cools down is by sweating. As moisture on the skin evaporates, it takes heat with it. That’s called evaporative heat loss. But you must replace the fluids you lose through a combination of drinks and water-rich foods. Generally, the National Academy of Medicine recommends totals of about 11 cups (88 ounces) per day for women and 15 cups (120 ounces) per day for men. If you spend a lot of time outdoors or are sweating a lot, you’ll need even more fluids.
• Seek air-conditioned environments. As much as possible, hang out in air-conditioned indoor spaces during the hottest points of the day. If you don’t have AC, go to a shopping mall, public library, movie theater, or a community cooling center.
• Use fans correctly. Another way the body cools down is by channeling blood and body heat to vessels near the skin’s surface, where heat escapes. A fan can blow that heat away from your body and keep you cool, but not if the surrounding air is hot. “In that case, wet your skin, even with a spray bottle or a wet wipe. The fan will promote evaporative heat loss,” Dr. Wiskel says.
• Take breaks. Pace yourself when doing outdoor activity. “Physical work produces its own heat at the same time you’re being heated from outside,” Dr. Wiskel says. “Be active for short periods and rest in between.”

Pack and dress for heat

• Bring cool-downs with you. Any time you leave your home, bring plenty of water. Even better: bring a handheld fan, wet wipes, and ice packs. That way you’re prepared if you get stuck outside.
• Wear loose clothing. Lightweight, loose-fitting garments allow air to get to your skin, promoting evaporative heat loss to keep you cool when you sweat.
• Try high-tech clothes. Consider wearing clothes with cooling technology (such as tops, bottoms, hats, or neck gaiters). They work in various ways. For example, a garment might be made of a special fabric that’s activated with water and stays damp for a long period, continually pulling heat from your body.

Try DIY cool downs

• Make a DIY cooling garment. Dunk a kitchen towel or cotton T-shirt in cold water, wear it on your head, neck, or torso, and then rewet the fabric as it dries. Or buy higher-tech versions made with fabrics and gels designed to stay cool longer.
• Eat or drink something cold. A cool glass of water, ice chips, or a popsicle help fight dehydration and might help lower your body’s core temperature. Just don’t ingest anything too quickly. Dr. Wiskel says it might cause gastrointestinal upset.
• Cool off with a shower or bath. Experts debate the best temperature for water to cool you down. Some maintain that cool water constricts blood vessels and sends heat back to the core, making you hot again. Others maintain that chilly water cools the blood vessels and sends cooled blood to the core. Dr. Wiskel’s take: “Immerse yourself in water that’s cooler than your body temperature. The water can be tepid. Once you’re out of the water, stand in front of a fan to promote evaporative heat loss.”
• Submerge your forearms. If you can’t take a shower or bath, try a trick used by the US Army: submerge your hands, forearms, and elbows in ice water for five minutes. This helps send cooled blood moving through blood vessels back to your core.
• Apply ice or cold packs. A water-free method to cool blood vessels involves placing ice packs in areas near large blood vessels such as the elbows, underarms, neck, or inside the legs near the groin area.

The FDA recently issued a warning letter to Whoop over its Blood Pressure Insights feature, arguing that even an estimated BP reading—calibrated via a cuff and based on overnight HRV and heart‑rate data—crosses into medical device territory and needs formal clearance. Whoop insists this remains a wellness feature (not a diagnostic tool), citing the 21st Century Cures Act. The Verge story delves into how the line between “just wellness” and regulated medical tech is blurring—and why the distinction matters for consumer safety and innovation. Read more at https://www.theverge.com/health/715102/dangerously-blurry-line-between-wellness-and-medical-tech

When Alek Hermon remembers the most painful week of his life—the time his father lay in a coma before passing away—he also remembers the unexpected comfort of a nurse named Ray. Though their relationship began with tension and judgment, as Hermon struggled through lonely early morning ICU shifts, Ray gradually revealed his quiet compassion, asking about Hermon’s father and connecting over books. When the moment came to say goodbye and donate his father’s organs, Hermon felt surrounded yet completely alone—until Ray, stripped of his sterile gear and full of tears, ran down the hall to embrace him. In that moment, Hermon found solace not in protocol, but in human connection. “He took my suffering seriously,” Hermon said. “I was a real person to him.” Read the full story of Alek and Ray’s journey through grief and loss in the hospital at NPR.org.

In a hospital, every role—from the surgeon in the operating room to the EVS team member keeping the hallways clean—plays a vital part in the health and safety of patients. Each person, regardless of title or uniform, contributes to the smooth functioning of the hospital ecosystem. Nurses, transport staff, dietary aides, lab technicians, security personnel, and administrative workers all form an interconnected web of care. When we recognize the value of each role, we move away from a hierarchy of importance and toward a culture of mutual respect and appreciation.

Getting to know one another beyond job titles helps foster community and improves morale. Simple acts like learning a colleague’s name or showing interest in their work create stronger team bonds and a sense of belonging. This not only enhances individual well-being but also leads to better communication, collaboration, and ultimately, better patient care. In a setting where stress and urgency are constant, building a culture of shared purpose and respect reminds everyone they are not alone—and that their work matters.

When summer arrives, many people welcome the freedom from rigid schedules—but for some, the sudden lack of routine can quietly contribute to symptoms of depression and anxiety. Without the structure of regular sleep, meals, and activity, our bodies and minds can lose their sense of stability, making us more vulnerable to mood disturbances, fatigue, and stress. The good news? You can protect your mental health by creating a loose daily routine that includes consistent wake/sleep times, physical activity, social connection, and moments of purpose or relaxation. Small anchors in your day can go a long way in keeping you grounded and emotionally well through the season. For more details check out the articles below:

• Psychology Today: Why Routines are Good for Your Mental Health
• National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): Maintaining Your Mental Health During Summer
• Verywell Mind: How Routine Helps with Anxiety and Depression

In the month of July we will focus on maintaining good health and overall wellbeing as we get through the hottest weeks of the year! These tips come to us from our friends at Clinicians for Climate Action New Jersey by way of our colleague Jennifer Garefino. 

Week 1: Keeping Safe and Having Fun While At-Risk

Climate Change & Heat-Related Health Impacts

• Urban heat island effect and climate change are increasing heat-related health risks, especially for our friends here in the Camden area. In similar urban areas there were as many as 527 heat-related deaths in 2024, disproportionately affecting men (77%), Black individuals (30%), and people experiencing homelessness and substance use, especially stimulants

Heat-Related Illnesses

• Heat stroke occurs when one’s body temp >40°C / 104°F and is accompanied by mental status change, organ failure risk, fatal if untreated. Though a less appreciated risk in humans (and our pets) is pavement burns, which are more likely above 105°F, and associated with longer hospital stays and worse outcomes. But there are also “silent” illnesses like cardiovascular events, kidney injury, stroke, infections, lung issues, and cognitive impairments.

Heat & Special Populations

• Pregnancy & newborns: Increased risks of preterm birth, gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, and birth defects.
• Mental health: Higher rates of suicide, psychiatric ER visits, cognitive issues in kids.
• Most at risk: Elderly, low-income individuals, children, isolated/unhoused, those on medications.
• Parkinson’s and MS patients may have impaired temperature regulation.

💊 Medications & Heat Risks

• Many medications impair thermoregulation or fluid balance, including:
  • Diuretics, ACE inhibitors, beta-blockers, anticholinergics, psychiatric meds, stimulants
• Heat affects drug storage, stability, and effectiveness.
• Photosensitizing drugs (e.g., doxycycline, NSAIDs, diuretics) can cause skin reactions in sun.

☀️ Stay Safe and Have Fun in Hot Weather

🧊 Stay Cool

• Avoid direct sunlight during peak heat (10 AM – 4 PM); seek shade or go indoors.
• Use fans, cooling towels, or take cool showers to lower your body temperature.
• Wear lightweight, light-colored, breathable clothing (e.g., cotton or moisture-wicking fabric).
• Use cooling products like vests, neck wraps, or portable misting fans.

💧 Stay Hydrated

• Drink plenty of water regularly—even if you don’t feel thirsty.
• Avoid alcohol and caffeine, which can increase dehydration.
• Carry a refillable water bottle when outdoors.

🧴 Protect Your Skin and Eyes

• Apply broad-spectrum sunscreen (SPF 30+) and reapply every 2 hours.
• Wear sunglasses with UV protection and a wide-brimmed hat.

🏠 Prepare Your Environment

• Keep your home cool: close blinds, use fans/AC, and limit oven use.
• Identify nearby cooling centers or air-conditioned public spaces.
• Plan outdoor activities in early morning or late evening.

⚕️ Know the Signs of Heat Illness

• Heat cramps: Muscle pain/spasms—rest and hydrate.
• Heat exhaustion: Fatigue, nausea, sweating—move to shade and drink fluids.
• Heat stroke: Confusion, hot dry skin, fainting—call 911 immediately.

👶🏾🧓🏽 Check on Vulnerable People

• Infants, elderly, people with chronic illness, and those on medications are at higher risk.
• Never leave children or pets in parked cars.

🏃‍♀️ Stay Active, Smartly

• Exercise indoors or during cooler hours.
• Take frequent breaks and hydrate.
• Use cooling aids during outdoor recreation (e.g., wet bandanas or mist bottles).

💊 Handle Medications with Care

• Store medications in a cool, dry place (68–77°F); avoid cars and direct sunlight.
• Ask your pharmacist about heat-related side effects or storage precautions.

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🔗 Helpful Resources and References

• CDC Heat and Health Guidance for Clinicians
• NIOSH Heat Safety Tool App
• Americares Climate-Ready Toolkit
• National Institute on Aging: Hot Weather Safety for Older Adults
• EPA Urban Heat Island Info
• American Red Cross: Heat Safety Tips

GLMA: Health Professionals Advancing LGBTQ+ Equality (previously known as the Gay & Lesbian Medical Association) is the world’s largest and oldest association of LGBTQ+ healthcare professionals. GLMA is a national organization committed to ensuring health equity for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ+) communities and equality for LGBTQ+ health professionals in their work and learning environments. To achieve this mission, GLMA utilizes the scientific expertise of its diverse multidisciplinary membership to inform and drive advocacy, education, and research.

The GLMA “10 Things” lists are resources to provide practical guidance to help LGBTQ+ patients navigate conversations with their healthcare providers. Whether you’re bisexual, gay, transgender, or lesbian, each guide offers tailored insights to support affirming and informed care.

Check out all the “10 Things” guides, and countless other resources, at https://www.glma.org/resources.php

The below is offered from The Trevor Project @ https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/guide/finding-support-building-community-amid-political-uncertainty/

Following the 2024 elections, The Trevor Project saw a nearly 700% increase in volume across our classic crisis services. We have heard many LGBTQ+ young people across the country on our lines, social media, and TrevorSpace. LGBTQ+ youth express a wide range of emotions — including anxiety, stress, fear, and sadness – about how the new political environment in the U.S. may impact their lives, and the lives of people they love. 

To help support LGBTQ+ young people through what can be an intense political climate, as well as help them find support and build community, we’re sharing a number of tips to consider and explore. As always, our crisis counselors are also available via text, calls, and chats 24/7, 365 days a year. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.

1. Take a moment for yourself

It’s easy for any of us to get wrapped up in negative political commentary and feel overwhelmed. 

• Give yourself a moment to take a step back. 
• Unclench your jaw. Take a few deep breaths. 
• Check in with yourself around what you need, whether that’s sleep, a meal, water, or time with your trusted community.
• Visit The Trevor Project’s Self-Care Guide and Self-Care Flowchart for ideas.

2. Reflect

It’s normal to consider what the future may hold, or to be uncertain about what certain policy positions might mean for you, friends, or family. It’s also important to remember that the full political landscape won’t become clear for many more days, and things won’t change overnight. Take this time to take care of yourself and reflect on how you want to use the time leading up to inauguration, while also considering proactive steps to protect your rights.

3. Find community 

The LGBTQ+ community is vibrant, diverse, and lives in every corner of the country. 

• If you can, search for a local LGBTQ+ center to see if they host community spaces and events. 
• Connect with your peers on TrevorSpace, The Trevor Project’s safe space social networking site for LGBTQ+ young people. 
• Spend time with trusted friends and family members who support and understand you.  
• Practice allyship with our guide on how to signal you are an ally in a hostile environment.

4. Learn about LGBTQ+ organizations

• In addition to community based organizations, there are a number of national organizations supporting LGBTQ+ people, and it can be uplifting to see their work. 
• Consider checking out programs and resources from organizations working alongside The Trevor Project. The Equality Federation is a great place to start with a network of more than 30 state-based groups that young people can use to connect with their own state or community.

5. Set aside time to relax

• Consider what helps you relax — whether it’s music, exercise, yoga, meditation, or cooking. 
• Set aside time to intentionally focus on your relaxation activity. Silence notifications and remove disturbances to enhance your focus.
• The Trevor Project also offers a visual breathing exercise to help you relieve stress and anxiety.

6. Take a break from news and social media

• It can be helpful to stay informed, but taking brief breaks from all screens can help you avoid becoming overwhelmed by news and social media. 
• Consider what’s right for you: taking a small break, setting time limits for social media apps, disconnecting for a day, or anywhere in between. 
• To help you process your day, take a break from screens before bed. 

7.  Trans youth: look to the future

• TrevorSpace is a safe place for transgender and nonbinary young people to find peer connection and build upon an already vibrant community. 
• Follow nonprofits supporting transgender and nonbinary rights and trans-led organizations; you’ll see how hard they’re working to protect trans people’s rights, health, and more.
• If you can, consider updating your identification documents, including your passport – even if you don’t plan to travel outside the country. You can find out how here. 
• If you’re concerned about your health care, know that you have options available and people to help you navigate any hurdles through The Trans Youth Emergency Project.

8. If or when you’re up for it, take action

• Check out our Resources page to learn more about LGBTQ+ identities and how to support LGBTQ+ young people. In addition to resources like our Guide to Being an Ally to Transgender & Nonbinary Young People and How to Support Bisexual Young People, the Trevor Project also offers culture competency training and suicide prevention training for supportive adults.
• Sign up to advocate alongside The Trevor Project and help protect LGBTQ+ young people from harmful bills. Be sure to check out our guide on how to navigate personal safety while taking action.
• Help support The Trevor Project’s life-saving crisis services and work to prevent suicide among LGBTQ+ youth by hosting a virtual fundraiser.
• Consider donating to The Trevor Project to help power our life-saving work. Together, we can continue working towards a welcoming, loving world for LGBTQ+ young people.

From Mental Health America: “Building a family as an LGBTQ+ person can take many forms. Whether through birth, adoption, fostering, surrogacy, or chosen family, these journeys are grounded in commitment, care, and intention. LGBTQ+ families may still face stigma or discrimination, which can impact mental health. This article offers tips and resources to support your mental health as an LGBTQ+ adult as you build a family.”

Full article @ https://mhanational.org/resources/lgbtq-parenting-mental-health/

Key points

LGBTQ+ families are strong and diverse:
LGBTQ+ people build families in many ways, including birthing, adoption, fostering, surrogacy, and co-parenting. They may also include chosen family and strong community connections.

LGBTQ+ families can face extra challenges:
LGBTQ+ families may deal with discrimination, legal barriers, and financial stress, which can impact mental health. Trans and nonbinary parents might also feel pressure to hide who they are to keep their children safe.

Affirming support makes a big difference:
Getting help from LGBTQ+-friendly therapists, joining support groups, and building community can help parents stay mentally healthy. Allies can support LGBTQ+ families by using inclusive language, creating welcoming spaces, and sharing their stories.

Each person’s “healthiest self” is different. We have different bodies, minds, living situations, and people influencing our lives. Each area can impact your overall health. This means we each have a unique set of health needs. Use our wellness toolkits to find ways to improve your well-being in any area you’d like. In appreciation of this, NIH has produced the series “Your Healthiest Self: Wellness Toolkits.” This week, we highlight their recommendations for social wellnes.

Summer holidays are a time for celebration, connection, and fun—but it’s also important to prioritize wellness amid the festivities. Whether you’re attending barbecues, heading to the beach, or traveling with family, maintaining a sense of balance can help you feel your best all season long. By being mindful of your physical and mental health, you can fully enjoy the moments that matter while staying energized and grounded.

Here are some tips to keep wellness front and center this Memorial Day Weekend while still having fun!

• Stay hydrated and mindful of alcohol: Sip water throughout the day, especially in the heat, and alternate alcoholic drinks with non-alcoholic ones.

• Make movement part of the fun: Take a walk, play beach games, or start a family-friendly activity to keep your body active and spirits high.

• Set boundaries for rest and recharge: Prioritize sleep, carve out downtime, and don’t be afraid to say no to over-scheduling.

The following is a summary of the work of Arthur C. Brooks, a contributing writer at The Atlantic and the host of the How to Build a Happy Life podcast. The full article is available at theatlantic.com.

In Dante’s Inferno, the poet Virgil leads the narrator through Hell’s increasingly horrific circles, ending in the ninth, where Satan is frozen in ice and weeping—not a menacing figure, but one consumed by sorrow. This image evokes depression: a state not of evil but of deep, paralyzing misery.

Depression affects many, with nearly 30% of Americans having been diagnosed at some point. Along with sadness and fatigue, a key symptom is relentless self-focus. One sufferer described it as living with a boring, droning voice in her head—an experience psychologists call maladaptive self-focus.

Even those who aren’t depressed often think about themselves too much, which undermines happiness. We spend much of our conversations—and even our private thoughts—focused on ourselves, driven by evolutionary survival needs. While some self-focus can help us succeed, too much can fuel anxiety, unhappiness, and relationship problems. For example, narcissists may thrive in short-term situations but often struggle with deeper, lasting connections.

Research shows long-term well-being comes from secure relationships, which require focusing less on oneself and more on others. Like food or exercise, self-focus must be kept in balance. You can’t eliminate it entirely, but cutting back can boost happiness. The trick isn’t willpower—“don’t think about yourself” is still self-referential—but instead finding meaningful distractions that shift focus outward. Some helpful steps:

1. Bring happiness to others.

A number of researchers over the years have undertaken experiments in which participants are assigned activities and behaviors that they enjoy, as opposed to actions that elevate others (such as making a point of expressing gratitude). You might think that the pleasure principle would win out, but the scholars have consistently found that doing something for another person confers a significant happiness advantage over having a good time for yourself. Two effects are surely at work here: First, when you are looking for ways to help another, you are distracted from your own preoccupations and problems; second, by bringing happiness to someone else, you can “catch” that happiness through what behavioral scientists call emotional contagion.

2. Serve the world.

An act of kindness toward another person works well—but, as four psychologists showed in 2016, so does an act of kindness to the world in general. The researchers compared acts of generosity directed at specific individuals with general good deeds toward the broader world. This didn’t entail Nobel Peace Prize–winning actions, but simply such small-scale generous, considerate behavior as picking up litter or donating to a charity. The researchers found that these good deeds were similar in their beneficial effect on well-being to those aimed at a particular individual.

3. Be more mindful.

One of the most common characteristics of self-referential thinking is that it is both retrospective and prospective, about what I’ve done and what I plan to do. So it makes sense that greater discipline about paying attention to the present might help to displace the self-focused thinking that ruminates on the past and the future. One way to improve that present-focused discipline is through mindfulness training, and this comes in at least two basic varieties: focused attention (such as single-point meditation) and open monitoring (such as training to observe the moment without reaction or judgment). Practicing these techniques has been shown by researchers to lower self-referential thinking and—not coincidentally—reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety. These days, any number of mindfulness methods and apps are widely available to help you learn these skills.

Promoting wellness in mothers of all ages is essential to fostering healthier families and communities. Mothers often carry the emotional, physical, and mental load of caregiving, making their well-being a top priority. Wellness initiatives should consider the diverse needs of mothers—from young parents to grandmothers—offering support that is inclusive, accessible, and empowering. Encouraging self-care, mental health support, and community connection can significantly improve quality of life and resilience. By promoting wellness holistically, we honor the vital role mothers play across generations.

Ways to Promote Wellness in Mothers:

Support work-life balance with flexible schedules and parenting-friendly policies.

Offer accessible mental health resources, including counseling and support groups.

Encourage physical activity through group fitness, walking clubs, or home-based routines.

Provide education on nutrition and healthy lifestyle habits tailored to different life stages.

Create safe, inclusive community spaces where mothers can connect and share experiences.

As we move from winter to spring to summer, longer days and warmer weather invite us to step outside and re-engage with our communities. Social gatherings, outdoor events, and shared activities become more accessible, making it easier to reconnect with friends and family.

Connecting with others contributes to wellness by reducing feelings of loneliness and boosting emotional resilience. Meaningful social interactions can also enhance our sense of belonging and lower stress levels.

Ways to connect with others as summer approaches:

• Host a casual outdoor get-together like a barbecue or picnic.
• Join a local sports league, walking group, or community class.
• Volunteer for a seasonal event or neighborhood project.

Adopt more plant-based eating, choose active transportation, start with small but challenging changes, and share your efforts to build community and amplify your impact for better health and a healthier planet. Those are just some of the insights offered in a recent article by Wynne Armand, MD, a Contributor at the Harvard Health Blog.

Dr. Armand says “Our health is intertwined with the health of planet Earth and the impacts of climate change threaten our well-being. Collectively taking small steps like eating more plant-forward meals, using bikes or public transit, and even sharing our pledges can help move the needle in a positive direction.”

Here are 5 key take-aways from his recent post. Check out the full article at https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/healthier-planet-healthier-people-202304182914

Adopt plant-forward eating by increasing plant-based foods and minimizing meat to improve health and reduce environmental impact.

Recognize differences among plant foods, considering both their nutritional value and environmental effects, using resources like Our World in Data.

Favor active transportation (walking, biking, public transit) to boost physical health and lower carbon emissions.

Start with manageable changes, setting achievable yet challenging goals based on your personal circumstances.

Talk about your efforts to build community, amplify your impact, and inspire broader systemic changes.

As the days grow longer and flowers begin to bloom, spring offers healthcare workers a much-needed chance to reset and recharge. This season of renewal is a perfect time to refocus on personal wellness, even amid demanding schedules.

1. Embrace the Outdoors: Take advantage of milder weather by stepping outside during breaks. Even a 10-minute walk can boost mood, reduce stress, and increase vitamin D.

2. Refresh Your Routine: Spring cleaning isn’t just for your home—declutter your workspace or reset your sleep schedule. Small changes can bring clarity and calm.

3. Eat Seasonally: Incorporate fresh, spring produce like berries, asparagus, and leafy greens. Nutrient-rich foods help fuel both body and mind.

4. Reconnect: Warmer weather invites more social activity. Reaching out to colleagues, friends, or family can help combat feelings of isolation and build emotional resilience.

5. Breathe Deeply: Try a simple mindfulness or breathing exercise between shifts. A few minutes of calm can counteract a high-stress environment.

Spring is nature’s reminder that growth is always possible—even in the busiest seasons of life. Take this time to prioritize your wellness, one small habit at a time. You deserve it.

Health care workers in urban areas are uniquely at risk for burnout due to high patient volumes, as well as the fast-paced, high-pressure environments of city hospitals and clinics.

They often face long shifts, limited social resources for their patients, and frequent exposure to traumatic situations, all of which can contribute to emotional exhaustion and reduced job satisfaction.

The diversity and density of urban populations can also bring complex social, cultural, and medical challenges that add to the mental load.

Today we will consider 3 non-traditional ways of coping with this that focus more on underlying contributors to these challenges than in-the-moment tools:

• Educate yourself about others’ experiences: Learning about the cultures, backgrounds, and perspectives of the diverse communities you serve can reduce misunderstandings, foster empathy, and create more meaningful connections—helping ease the stress that comes from communication barriers or cultural tension.
  
• Advocate for social justice: Speaking out against systemic inequities in health care and supporting policies that promote fairness can give purpose to your work and help counter the helplessness and frustration that often lead to burnout.
  
• Survive long workdays with intention: Break your day into manageable parts, hydrate, eat nourishing snacks, and find small moments of rest or humor—these simple practices can keep your energy up and help you stay grounded through demanding shifts.

Many faith traditions are currently observing or preparing to observe important seasons in their religious year. But, as Ruth Tam at NPR shared in her recent article, whether you already believe in a particular faith or are trying to tap into your spirituality outside religion, these 4 questions can help you create your own spiritual practices. Grab a pen and a notebook and settle into a cozy nook to answer these prompts. Click on the below image to enlarge and print!

Marielle Segarra is a reporter and the host of NPR’s Life Kit, the award-winning podcast and radio show that shares trustworthy, nonjudgmental tips that help listeners navigate their lives. Recently, she sat down with Gretchen Rubin, host of the Happier podcast, who says happiness is less about attaining joy than it is about growing in the right direction. She explains how to make small changes that can move you toward happiness and why knowing yourself helps contribute to this emotion.

Happiness is often hard to define, but Ms.. Rubin, in her latest book The Happiness Project, suggests that rather than seeking a single definition, people should ask, “Will this make me happier?”

Self-awareness plays a key role in making happiness-driven choices, as different personalities thrive under different circumstances. Rubin’s Four Tendencies framework categorizes people as Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, or Rebels based on how they respond to expectations, helping individuals understand their motivations.

While big life changes might not bring lasting happiness, small actions—like following the “one-minute rule”—can have a significant impact. Ultimately, happiness isn’t a one-size-fits-all formula, and what works for one person may not work for another. Moreover, meaningful actions that align with personal values, even if they’re uncomfortable, can contribute to a deeper sense of fulfillment.

Get more tips and read the full article at https://www.npr.org/2025/03/12/nx-s1-5294584/if-you-want-more-happiness-in-life-ask-yourself-simple-question

In the Englewood neighborhood on Chicago’s south side, nearly 100 people were shot last year, and many of the young people living there will tell you the violence weighs on them. “It affect me as a young Black man, because walking down the street with your friends, you got to worry about, ‘Oh, watch that car. Oh, watch that alley,'” says 17-year-old A.M. “You get so used to it. It ain’t even no point. Like, even when they be shooting, I still sit there in the bed and watch TV,” says D.B., also 17.

These reactions – feeling numb or hyper alert – are signs of chronic stress, and adults at their high school took note. Last year, they were tapped for a youth program that showed promising results in reducing violence. It relied, in part, on a concept borrowed from poker.

Choose to Change is a six-month program that focuses on young people who are already struggling: Many have been arrested or have had gaps in school enrollment. Some may be affiliated with gangs or are on juvenile probation. Students in the program are paired with mentors and attend weekly group therapy, where clinicians use cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT, to help change their thought patterns – especially around traumatic experiences. “What we try to do is to have them look at those instances in a different way. Like, consider yourself a survivor,” program director Chris Sutton says. “We’re just trying to get them to key in on some of those wins that you don’t give yourself credit for.” Last fall, the University of Chicago Crime Lab released research on the program’s effects over time. Teenagers who participated were nearly 40% less likely to be arrested for a violent crime, compared with students who weren’t in the program. Those results held for up to two years afterwards.

Interested? Read more at npr.org.

“You know you should develop a regular exercise routine, but you lack motivation. Promises to yourself are quickly broken, and you never establish enough of the workout habit to experience any rewards.” Does this sound familiar? It did to Stephen Wade, who recently authored an article on motivation across the lifespan.

“If you want to be cognitively active, it is so important to be physically active,” explained Dr. Amy Eyler, a professor of public health at Washington University in St. Louis. “There is a such a strong connection between these two behaviors.”

Just asks Drs. Grover Smith and exercise scientist Dr. Irv Rubenstein (pictured below) who run the STEPS Fitness program in Nashville every Wednesday. These physicians, in their late 70s and 80s, have sustained motivation that has kept them healthy in their advanced age. But how does one sustain such motivation?

Getting into the habit of doing regular physical activity can be difficult for some. The motivation to get moving is different for everyone.

Initially you’ll need external motivation — I want to be able to play with my grandkids or keep driving the car — until you see results and the motivation shifts to internal, Eyler said.

“When you set a goal, you should ask yourself on a scale of 1 to 100, how confident am I that I can do this?” Eyler explained. “It has to be over the 90% level of confidence or you’re not going to do it. Lots of people set these goal too high and then fail.”

Build to your goals.

“Just walk whenever you can,” Eyler said. “You can walk for 10 minutes pretty much anywhere — indoors, at work, at home.”

And, if you’re trying to encourage others, look for positive reasons rather than nagging.

Get more tips, and read more stories of succeffull super-motivators, at https://apnews.com/article/motivation-exercise-training-b4ae0c4902fd527b2a342476d796a356?utm_campaign=TrueAnthem&utm_medium=AP&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwY2xjawIm3ZZleHRuA2FlbQIxMQABHTjG84VWmehjrK_VtXVnmlGUCrhZM_gLyI1EAlZQbjk24mwby9gnLXuzjg_aem_8Rmzq1q8Csj4n_jdbITTpg

Daylight Saving Time (DST) begins in 11 days from the time that this post is published, and experts say there is no time like the present to start thinking about how to adjust your sleep behaviors to minimize disruption.

Dustin Cotliar, MD, MPH, is a board-certified emergency medicine physician and sleep medicine specialist. He shared in a recent publication that the transitions between standard time and daylight saving time can pose serious challenges to your sleep and that “a lack of sleep caused by the time change can affect thinking, decision-making, and productivity…and short-term risk of heart attacks, stroke, traffic accidents, emergency room visits, and serious mood disturbances.” But fear not, says Dr. Cotliar, developing a plan to cope with the time change can reduce its impact on your sleep and overall wellness. Here are some tips to help you out!

Gradually Adjust Your Schedule – You can get ready to “spring forward” in March by gradually shifting your schedule in the week leading up to the time change. The American Academy of Sleep Medicine advises trying to slowly adjust your schedule Trusted Source American Academy of Sleep Medicine (AASM) AASM sets standards and promotes excellence in sleep medicine health care, education, and research. View Source by going to bed around 15-20 minutes earlier each day. The timing of other daily activities, such as meals and exercise, can also be gradually adjusted forward. By making these small changes in advance,, you begin daylight saving time having already started to acclimate to the new time on the clock.

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Consider Relaxation Techniques – At any time of year, relaxation methods, ranging from basic deep breathing to mindfulness meditation, can bring calm to your mind and body and make it easier to smoothly transition into sleep. In the week before the shift to daylight saving time, you can apply these techniques as you adjust your bedtime earlier. Relaxation methods may also come in handy if you find that you’ve woken up in the middle of the night because of a disrupted sleep schedule.

Set Your Clocks Before Bed – Although the time change doesn’t officially occur until 2 a.m., set your watch and household clocks to the new time before you go to bed. This helps you hit the ground running and avoid any timing mishaps on Sunday. Most cell phones and electronic devices automatically change to daylight saving time overnight. If your devices don’t automatically update, make sure to adjust them before bed.

Prioritize Daylight Exposure – Light is the central driver of circadian rhythm, so finding time for daylight exposure on the days following the change to daylight saving time can help your body’s internal clock get used to the new timing of daylight and darkness. Natural light has the most powerful effect Trusted Source National Library of Medicine, Biotech Information The National Center for Biotechnology Information advances science and health by providing access to biomedical and genomic information. View Source on our circadian rhythm. Even on a cloudy day, natural light has a dramatically larger effect on circadian rhythm than artificial indoor lighting. To decrease sleep disruptions after the switch to daylight saving time, make a plan for Sunday to go outside, ideally in the morning, and get sun exposure. If you live in a cold climate that makes being outside difficult, open your curtains and sit near a window to take in a meaningful dose of natural light.

Take Precautions in Case of Sleep Disruption – With the right preparation, you can reduce the chances that you’ll suffer sleeping problems because of the switch to daylight saving time. Nevertheless, it’s wise to take precautionary measures in case your sleep is affected. Try not to overload your schedule on the Sunday or Monday after the time shift in case you’re suffering from daytime sleepiness. If possible, schedule important meetings or events for later in the week when you’ve had more time to adjust. It’s also best to avoid long drives right after the time change because of the dangers of drowsy driving.

Upgrade Your Sleep Hygiene – It’s much easier to get consistent sleep if you have healthy habits and a bedroom environment that is conducive to sleep. These are known collectively as sleep hygiene, and upgrading your sleep hygiene can pay dividends during daylight saving time and throughout the year. A quick start guide to sleep hygiene is available at https://www.sleepfoundation.org/sleep-hygiene

Strategic Napping – If you are grappling with significant daytime sleepiness after switching to daylight saving time, a short nap may help. Keeping a nap under 20 minutes can boost your alertness without causing grogginess after you wake up. Naps are best in the early afternoon when you are most likely to have a dip in energy. Avoid napping too late in the afternoon or evening because that can make it harder to fall asleep at night, exacerbating misalignment of your sleep schedule.

Heidi Godman is the Executive Editor of the Harvard Health Letter, and Howard E. LeWine, MD is the Chief Medical Editor at Harvard Health Publishing. Recently, the two paired up to discuss resiliency, and what we can do to promote it.

The duo goes on to describe three strategies to help you find a way forward when you’re feeling stressed, burned out, anxious, or sad.

You can read the full article at https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/life-can-be-challenging-build-your-own-resilience-plan-202406123049, and the three strategies are outlined below:

Shift your thoughts

In stressful situations, try to balance out your thoughts by adopting a broader perspective. “This will help you stop using the emotional part of your brain and start using the thinking part of your brain. For example, if you’re asking for a raise and your brain says you won’t get it, think about the things you’ve done in your job that are worthy of a raise. You’ll slow down the emotional response and shift your mindset from anxious to action.”

Approach what you want

“When you’re anxious, stressed, or burned out, you tend to avoid things that make you uncomfortable. That can make you feel stuck…What you need to do is get out of your comfort zone and take a step toward the thing you want, in spite of fear.”

For example: If you’re afraid of giving a presentation, create a PowerPoint and practice it with colleagues. If you’re having conflict at home, don’t walk away from your partner — schedule time to talk about what’s making you upset.

Align actions with your values

“Stress happens when your actions are not aligned with your values — the things that matter most to you or bring you joy. For example, you might feel stressed if you care most about your family but can’t be there for dinner, or care most about your health but drink a lot.”

Literature suggests that you identify your top three values and make sure your daily actions align with them. If being with family is one of the three, make your time with them a priority — perhaps find a way to join them for a daily meal. If you get joy from a clean house, make daily tidying a priority.

In 2019, Rasmussen, et al published a meta-analysis examining the many benefits of forgiving others. Their findings included, but were not limited to, the fact that forgiveness can reduce depression, stress, and anxiety as well as improve overall emotional wellbeing and help you develop a more optimistic outlook on life. In addition, forgiveness can boost physical health by lowering stress levels which can translate to a healthier immune system, lower blood pressure, and improve heart health whereas anger and resentment have been associated with increased inflammation in the body as we age.

Overall, giving up resentment and leaning into forgiveness can reduce our susceptibility to inflammation-related illnesses, heart disease, and cancer, improve mental clarity, and deepen and enrich out connections with each other and ourselves. But this review, the articles included, and most literature on the subject also agree on what fundamental thing: forgiveness is a skill to be practiced if you wish to reap the full benefits.

Ready to give it a try? Check out this exercise, the REACH Technique, from “Five Steps to Forgiveness: The Art and Science of Forgiving” by Everett Worthington, Ph.D. 

Now more than ever it is imperative that we work toward building compassion. One might argue we are in the midst of a compassion crisis, with many finding it very difficult to see the humanity in others, connect with them at the most basic levels, and build a desire to work together toward solutions to our own local problems, and many of the problems we face as a species. In this moment it is also important to remember that compassion as a skill and, like any other skills, takes practice to cultivate and grow into mastery of. So today we offer an exercise originally authored by Drs. Jason Luoma and Jenna LeJeune where we go from self-compassion to actual, practical compassion toward another person. So, before you go any further, pause this audio and find one other person who may be willing to connect with you for the next few minutes.

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Sometimes it is difficult to know how to respond when truly bad things happen. Our initial impulse is to try to quickly move forward, or engage others in cheerleading about how strong they are. And, while those impulses can be understandable, expanding our toolkit for helping others through hard times can helpful.

This was the focus of a recent article by Clinical Psychologist Chris Mosunic, PhD, writing about how to emotionally support people impacted by the wildfires out west. He shared that “finding the right words to say after a natural disaster can be tough.” He feels that, with practice, we can “explore thoughtful ways to communicate and offer support to loved ones when it’s needed most.”

You can read the full article at https://blog.calm.com/blog/comforting-words-during-a-natural-disaster, and below are some examples he gives of how your words can make a difference, plus a couple examples of what to say:

Provide stability: Simple, kind words create a sense of connection and reassurance in uncertain times.

Validate emotions: When you acknowledge someone’s pain, it can help to say something like, “I’m so sorry for what you’re going through.” This can help them feel seen and understood.

Ease loneliness: Supportive messages like, “You’re not alone. We are going to get through this together.” This can remind them that they have people who care about them in their lives.

Offer hope: Sharing encouragement can help someone feel that recovery is possible, even when things seem overwhelming and feel hopeless.

Guide toward resources: Suggesting shelters, food banks, or counseling services can help them navigate the recovery process. You can also help them with calling insurance companies or contractors and even offer hands-on support, too.

Heidi Godman Executive Editor, Harvard Health Letter. Recently she and Dr. Howard LeWine, and internist at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston, collaborated on a review of 10 of the easiest ways to promote good health in the new year. You can read the full article at https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/beyond-the-usual-suspects-for-healthy-resolutions-202401243010 and check out their 10 tips below!

Review your health portals

Your medical information is kept in electronic records. You have access to them through the patient portal associated with your doctor’s office. Set aside time to update portal passwords and peruse recent records of appointments, test results, and notes your doctor took during your visits.

“Many studies have shown that when patients review the notes, they remember far better what went on during interactions with their clinicians, take their medicines more effectively, and pick up on errors — whether it’s an appointment they forgot to make or something their doctor, nurse, or therapist got wrong in documenting an encounter,” says Dr. Tom Delbanco, the John F. Keane & Family Professor of Medicine at Harvard Medical School and cofounder of the OpenNotes initiative, which led shared clinician notes to become the new standard of care.

Doing this can help you become more engaged in your care. “We know from numerous studies that engaged patients who share decisions with those caring for them have better outcomes,” he adds.

Ask about health insurance freebies

Your insurance plan may offer perks that can lead to better health, such as:

• weight loss cessation programs
• quit-smoking programs
• free or reduced gym memberships.

Some insurers even offer breastfeeding counseling and equipment. Call your insurance company or take a close look at their website to find out if there’s anything that would help you.

Get rid of expired medications

Scour your cabinets for expired or unneeded drugs, which pose dangers for you and others. Look for prescription and over-the-counter medications (pills, potions, creams, lotions, droppers, or aerosol cans) as well as supplements (vitamins, minerals, herbs).

Bring your finds to a drug take-back site, such as a drugstore or law enforcement office, or a medical waste collection site such as the local landfill.

As a last resort, toss medications into the trash, but only after mixing them with unappealing substances (such as cat litter or used coffee grounds) and placing the mixture in a sealable plastic bag or container.

Invest in new sneakers

The wrong equipment can sabotage any exercise routine, and for many people the culprit is a worn pair of sneakers. Inspect yours for holes, flattened arch support, and worn treads. New sneakers could motivate you to jazz up your walking or running routine.

For example, if it’s in the budget, buy a new pair of walking shoes with a wide toe box, cushy insoles, good arch support, a sturdy heel counter (the part that goes around your heel), stretchy uppers, and the right length — at least half an inch longer than your longest toe.

Cue up a new health app

There are more than 350,000 health apps geared toward consumer health. They can help you with everything from managing your medications or chronic disease to providing instruction and prompts for improving diet, sleep, or exercise routines, enhancing mental health, easing stress, practicing mindfulness, and more.

Hunt for apps that are free or offer a free trial period for a test drive. Look for good reviews, strong privacy guardrails, apps that don’t collect too much information from you, and those that are popular — with hundreds of thousands or millions of downloads.

Make a schedule for health screenings and visits

Is it time for a colonoscopy, mammogram, hearing test, prostate check, or comprehensive eye exam? Has it been a while since you had a dermatologist examine the skin on your whole body? Should you have a cholesterol test or other blood work — and when is a bone density test helpful?

If you’re not sure, call your primary care provider or any specialists on your health team to get answers.

Four more simple healthy steps

The list of steps you can take this year to benefit your health can be as long as you’d like it to be. Jot down goals any time you think of them.

Here are four solid steps to start you off:

• Take some deep breaths each day. A few minutes of daily slow, deep breathing can help lower your blood pressure and ease stress.
• Get a new pair of sunglasses if your old ones have worn lenses. Make sure the new pair has UV protection (a special coating) to block the sun’s ultraviolet (UV) light, which can cause eye damage and lead to permanent vision loss.
• Make a few lunch dates or phone dates with friends you haven’t seen in a while. Being socially connected wards off loneliness and isolation, which can help lower certain health risks.
• Do a deep cleaning on one room in your home per week. Dust and mold can trigger allergies, asthma, and even illness.

You don’t have to do all of these activities at once. Just put them on your to-do list, along with the larger resolutions you’re working on. Now you’ll have a curated list of goals of varying sizes. The more goals you reach, the better you’ll feel. And that will make for a very healthy year, indeed.

Happy New Year!

Chris Mosunic, PhD, RD, MBA is a clinical psychologist by training, and currently serves as Chief Clinical Officer at Calm. Over at Calm, Dr. Mosunic recently published a brief piece encouraging us all to have a more mindful new year. Included in this piece are 20 reflection questions to help you get going, which you can find below and at the full article at https://blog.calm.com/blog/new-year-questions.

• Looking back on 2024…
  • What was your biggest accomplishment this year?
  • What challenges did you face, and how did you overcome them?
  • What moments brought you the most joy?
  • What did you learn about yourself this year?
  • Who made a positive impact on your life, and how did they help you?
  • What are you most grateful for as the year ends?
  • How did you spend your time, and did it align with your priorities?
  • What habits served you well, and which ones didn’t?
  • What are you proud of that you didn’t expect to achieve?
  • If you could sum up this year in one word, what would it be?

• Looking ahead to 2025…
  • What do you want more of in the new year?
  • What is one habit or routine you’d like to start in 2025?
  • What are your top three priorities for the year ahead?
  • How will you take care of your mental and physical health in 2025?
  • What are you excited to learn or try this year? H
  • What is one thing you’ll say no to in the new year?
  • How will you make time for the people who matter most?
  • What is one way you can be kinder to yourself in 2025?
  • If 2025 is your dream year, what happens?
  • What is your guiding word or phrase for the year?

The winter holidays can be challenging for some. While this can be a joyful time for some, for others this same span can involve many complex emotions based on holidays passed. Last year Dr. Jill Suttie took some time to reflect on these joys and challenges and shares her thoughts on how to navigate things as best we can. Below is a summary of her recommendations:

Add small, pleasant activities to your life. Making time every day to do something that brings you a little joy—whether that’s grabbing coffee at the local café, talking to a friend, quilting, or watching a sunset—can help balance the difficulties of the holidays with more positive experiences.

Move your body—even if it’s just a little. Exercise of any kind—walking, biking, weightlifting, dancing—is proven to be mood-boosting and is important for overall health, too.

Try meditating or practicing self-compassion. Making yourself more aware of your feelings and thoughts and learning to accept them (rather than just pushing them away) can help some people manage their moods. And, in the midst of your suffering, it can be good to remember that others feel this way, too, and to offer yourself kindness.

Connect with other people. Sometimes, we just need to stop avoiding social interactions and start connecting with people—friends, family, neighbors, colleagues, even strangers. Try calling an old friend, asking a colleague to coffee, waving at your neighbor, or greeting your local grocer or mail carrier. These small interactions can make you happier.

Give thanks for small blessings. Try starting a gratitude journal, where you write down a few small things you feel grateful for every day. Don’t try to be grateful for things you’re not happy about, though—you don’t have to paint a smiley face on difficult things. But look for the small, good things in your life—like a delicious cup of coffee, your pet’s soft fur, a beautiful winter sky, or your child’s goofy grin—and say thanks to yourself for those small blessings.

The below is provided by Madisyn Taylor and Scott Blum at the DailyOM. The full article and resources can be accessed at https://www.dailyom.com/inspiration/worth-the-time/

Ironically, when we get busy, the first thing that tends to get cut is our meditation practice. We have less time and a lot on our plates, so it makes sense that this happens. But in the end, it doesn’t really help us. Most of us know from experience that we function much better when we give ourselves time each day to sit in silence. And the more we have to do, the more we need that solitary, quiet time for the day ahead. While it may sound counterintuitive, it is during busy times that we need to spend more time in meditation rather than less. By being quiet and listening to the universe, we will be given what we need to get through our day.

Expanding our morning meditation by just 10 minutes can make a big difference, as can the addition of short meditations into our daily schedule. No matter how busy we are, unless we are in the midst of a crisis, we always have five or 10 minutes to spare. The key is convincing ourselves that spending that time in meditation is the most fruitful choice. We could be getting our dishes done or heading into work earlier instead, so it’s important that we come to value the importance of meditation in the context of all the other things competing for attention in our lives. All we have to do to discover whether it works to meditate more when we are busy is to try it.

We can start by creating more time in the morning, either by getting up earlier or by preparing breakfast the night before and using the extra time for meditation. We also can add short meditation breaks into our schedule, from five minutes before or after lunch to a meditation at night before we go to sleep. When we come from a place of centered calm, we are more effective in handling our busy schedules and more able to keep it all in perspective. If more time in meditation means less time feeling anxious, panicky, and overwhelmed, then it’s certainly worth the extra time.

The aboveis provided by Madisyn Taylor and Scott Blum at the DailyOM. The full article and resources can be accessed at https://www.dailyom.com/inspiration/worth-the-time/

This post was adapted from “To help someone going through a crisis, use these 7 words” from NPR Shots. Read the full story at https://www.npr.org/sections/shots-health-news/2024/11/26/nx-s1-5205605/empathy-emotional-support-listening-relationships

Kelly Corrigan has written four New York Times bestselling memoirs in the last decade. She has written many Op-Eds, hosts a very busy podcast, and much more. To say Kelly is a communication maven is an understatement. And yet when her daughters became tweens, Corrigan stood ready to help them with the troubles and travails of that delicate time, ready to solve any problems that came their way. Spoiler alert: it did not end well.

But then one day her daughter Georgia called crying while Corrigan happened to be in a car with a friend who was a therapist, so she put the phone on speaker. Georgia said she hated sixth grade. All the girls in class were turning on her for no reason. Corrigan’s friend whispered: “Say ‘tell me more.’ ” Corrigan echoed it to her daughter: “Tell me more.” Georgia went on complaining. “Say ‘that sounds really hard,'” whispered the therapist-in-training. “That sounds so hard,” Corrigan said to Georgia. “It is!” Georgia replied.

An important lesson was learned that day, and it is one we can all learn. When a family member or friend is struggling emotionally, using phrases like these can unlock a deeper connection, and it’s far more powerful than giving advice, says Corrigan.

Briefly, the steps toward truly supporting someone you care about through a difficult time can be summarized as follows:

• Hold off on problem solving: offering a solution Corrigan says it can be “kind of humiliating” if someone brings their problem to you and you just solve it right away. “Because, basically, the underlying message of that is what are you so upset about? Like, it’s not that hard to figure this out,” says Corrigan.
• Learn the seven words: “Tell me more…” “Go on…” “What else?” These words give them space to tell their story, to feel loved and accepted no matter how heavy the things are that they want to share. “You can get pretty far in life just with those seven words,” Corrigan says.
• Practice emotional hospitality: Love is not one size fits all, Corrigan says. For example, if you’re caring for children, remember that not all kids like to be hugged (or adults for that matter). “If I were to custom design a feeling for you, what would the shape of it be? What would the sound of it be?” Corrigan asks. But don’t pressure yourself to say just the right thing when someone is unburdening their pain, she says. Instead, practice “emotional hospitality,” where you create a comforting environment with your presence, inviting the other person to open up: “Tell me something. I’m here.”
• Tune in: Love can be quiet and still. Corrigan says when the going gets tough for a loved one, she gets a strong urge to jump into action mode. “Everything in me wants to grab a clipboard, make a to-do list and start calendaring appointments,” she says. She says there’s a better way. Instead of reassuring a person or minimizing their misgivings, listen. The idea, she says, is to telegraph to that person that “I’m going to absorb this thing with you. I’m going to mirror your seriousness about it. And maybe that can let you rest.”

This post was adapted from “To help someone going through a crisis, use these 7 words” from NPR Shots. Read the full story at https://www.npr.org/sections/shots-health-news/2024/11/26/nx-s1-5205605/empathy-emotional-support-listening-relationships

Marian Altman, PhD, RN, CNS-BC, CCRN-K is a Clinical Practice Specialist with over 37 years of experience as a critical care nurse, including 30 years as an advanced practice RN. In her time she has learned quite a bit about the importance of gratitude and how to express it.

In one of her recent publication she shared that “Gratitude is the ability to recognize goodness in both your life and in the actions of others. Practicing gratitude helps you shift your focus from a glass half empty to a glass half full; or from what your life lacks to what it has.”

You can read her full article on the website of The American Asociation of Crtical-Care Nurses , and below are some tips she offers on how to get started in the practice of gratitude:

• Write a thank you note, send a text or email to others expressing why you are grateful and specifically how you benefited or what was meaningful to you.
• Tell someone when you appreciate them – not only for the big things but for small things too.
• Be specific in your gratitude. Instead of only saying thank you, add thank you for … and then share exactly why you are grateful.
• Appreciate another person’s wins, including small victories.
• Start a gratitude journal. Write down three things you are grateful for as you start or end your day. These could be positive thoughts, emotions or interactions you experienced. If you don’t want to write, then think about three things you are grateful for each day.
• Use an app such as Gratitude Plus that allows you to track your gratitudes and sends a daily reminder to help you develop the habit. Or engage a gratitude partner who can help you remember to share.
• Sign up for Thnx4, the Greater Good Science Center’s online journal, which prompts you to share and document thanks on a regular basis.
• Give thanks at bedtime to help get your mind in a peaceful state for sleep. It doesn’t have to be something significant – maybe that hot cup of coffee, a sunny day or the beautiful foliage on your walkway.

https://www.aacn.org/blog/share-gratitude-during-thanksgiving-and-all-year

Recently, CNN published an article suggesting that standing desks may be bad for your health, new research finds. The article highlights that, while the sale of standing desks has been substantial, a new study from Australia involving over 83,000 participants actually found that prolonged standing may not improve heart health and could even increase the risk of certain circulatory problems.

These findings suggest that simply swapping sitting for standing isn’t a perfect solution. Our bodies respond better to regular movement rather than static positions, whether that’s sitting or standing. Incorporating short walks, stretching or light exercises throughout the day can interrupt long periods of inactivity and offer significant health benefits.

So what do we do about this? Cooper Operational Excellence Specialist Jennifer Garefino shared with us a recent post on Pulse+ “10 Exercises to Do at Your Desk.” Can’t access the pulse? We are including them below. And, with the holidays just around the corner, we encourage you to get moving now!

Hand and Finger Stretches

The simplest desk exercises are hand and finger stretches. Typing for long periods of time is known to cause repetitive strain injuries and tendinitis. Hand and finger stretches increase range of motion and relieves stiff joints.  1. Make a fist and hold it for 30 – 60 seconds.  2. Open your palm and spread your fingers wide.  3. Complete at least 4 repetitions with each hand.

Neck Rotations

Sitting all day places stress on your neck and shoulders. Correct ergonomics at your workstation can reduce muscle tension, and neck stretches are another chair exercise that can help ease pain.  1. Lower your chin and roll your neck in a circle.  2. Lift your chin and bend on each side for 10 seconds.  3. Repeat as necessary throughout the day.

Abdominal Stretches

Usually, the first place added weight appears is around the stomach. There are many abdominal stretches to choose from, but this one works your oblique muscles too.  1. Sit on the edge of a chair with your knees bent and feet flat on the floor.  2. Place your hands behind your head and twist to the left, holding for at least one count.  3. Repeat the motion to the right and hold.  4. Perform 20 repetitions.

Hip Flexions

Extra pounds don’t stop at your waistline. They tend to travel farther down to the hips. Hip flexions are another office chair exercise that helps fight a sedentary lifestyle.  1. While sitting in a chair, raise one foot a few inches off the floor.  2. Keep your knee bent at a 90-degree angle and hold for at least 10 seconds.  3. Repeat with other side.

Leg Extensions

While you’re still sitting, transition to leg extensions as your next desk exercise. Doing leg extensions on an exercise machine with heavy weights can be harmful, but performing this exercise at your desk is easier for your knees.  1. Extend one leg until level with your hips.  2. Hold as long as possible and then relax.  3. Do each leg ten times. 

Toe Raises

Toe raises are a great office exercise for your shins. You can do this exercise sitting or standing, but make sure to hold on to something sturdy for balance. For a more strenuous office workout, use a resistance band.  1. Keep your heels on the ground and lift up your toes and the balls of your feet.  2. Repeat as necessary.

Calf Raises

Calf raises are similar to toe raises but use a different part of the foot for an effective exercise at your desk.  1. Stand in front of a desk to hold on for balance.  2. Raise your heels off the floor and slowly lower back down.

Chair Squats

Squatting in front of a chair is a desk exercise that works multiple muscles.  1. Stand with feet hip-width apart.  2. Bend and lower your hips until your backside is a few inches from the seat.  3. Slowly stand up.

Shadow Boxing

Some office workouts are more fun than others. Tap in to your inner boxer and take a few jabs to the air for stress relief. You can use full water bottles to add resistance to your punch.

Elevated Push-ups

Traditional push-ups aren’t as easy to do in an office or cubicle, but changing your position creates an alternate desk exercise.  1. Lean on the wall or a sturdy section of the desk, supported by your arms and hands.  2. Slowly push away until completing a full push-up.  3. Repeat action for as many as you can do.

Seated Bicycle Crunches

Seated bicycle crunches are another great ab exercise to do from your desk. While you’re seated at your desk, bring your arms up behind your head and keep your feet planted flat on the ground. Next, bring one knee up and twist your body so that you bring the opposite elbow down to meet it and continue to switch sides. 

One of the top behavioral health issues presenting in primary care is sleep. Whether it is too much sleep or not enough, poor quality or the wrong quantity of sleep can have profound effects on physical and mental health.

One area that is often focused on in sleep work is the impact of exposure to light, with much of that focus being on so called “blue light,” or light immitted from electronic devices. But what does science say about this?

In a recent article published by NPR, Will Stone tried to answer that question. He summarized the work of a group of scientists who tracked nearly 90,000 people in the U.K. Participants spent a week with wrist-worn activity devices equipped with light sensors. Then, they analyzed their risk of dying over the next eight years. The results were published in the Proceedings of the National Academies of Sciences.

The study participants with the brightest nights had a 21% to 34% higher risk of premature death, compared to those who were mostly in the dark between midnight and dawn. The opposite was true for daytime. People who enjoyed the brightest days had a 17% to 34% lower mortality risk than those who were in dim environments during the daytime.

The data underscore that light represents an “emerging risk factor for poor health and longevity,” says Daniel Windred, lead author of the study and a postdoctoral researcher at Flinders University in Australia.

Want to learn more? Read the full article and source material at NPR.org.

Long night? Let’s start with the basics. Breathe. If you are having a difficult time, listen along with this 3-minute meditation from Calm.com.

Remember: Emotions are by their very nature valid. None of us choose our emotions. Emotions arise in response to what we find in the environment (internal and external) and how we perceive it. Emotions are a tool help to guide our attention, our behavior, and our decisions. Today, please remember your emotions are valid and so are the emotions everybody else are having and, while we cannot choose our emotions, we can , with practice, choose our response to them. Yes, joy for some is valid even if you do not understand their joy. But, if you are sad and grieving, try your best to choose connection, support, and healing in whatever way makes sense to you because that emotion is valid, too. If your are frightened, choose behaviors that help you feel safe and/or engage in behaviors to help others feel safe if you have the strength to do so. If you are angry, take care of yourself, then engage in behaviors that contribute to justice. If psychology teaches us anything it is that people are remarkably resilient, and those that do best are those that allow themselves time to sit with their emotions so they can guide their attention, behavior, and decisions well, time to heal and take care of themselves when needed, and then find a way to engage in behaviors that reflect their values.

For the last decade or so, mindfulness as been increasingly labeled as a panacea for all life’s problems. It is not, but that does not mean it is not one important tool in your toolbox toward overall wellness. In the same way we benefit from building habits like regular walks after meals or regular check-ins with our friends and loved ones, mindfulness helps to build toward a more calm and centered daily experience. But what is the evidence behind this?

Maureen Salamon, Executive Editor at Harvard Women’s Health Watch, and Howard E. LeWine, MD, Chief Medical Editor at Harvard Health Publishing recently published an article looking at the evidence base for mindfulness’ influence on our wellness, and what we can do to improve our mindfulness practice. You can read the entire article on the Harvard Health Publishing website, and a summary of the evidence and recommendations are below:

• In one study, MRI scans examining the amygdala (the neural home of fear and other emotions) showed that an eight-week regimen of MBSR lead to a decrease in the denticity of participants amygdalae, and these brain changes correlated to lower reported stress levels.
• In additional study took the same approach with participants diagnosed with GAD and provided evidence that MBSR aided this individuals in having more subdued reactions to provocative stimuli.
• A significant amount of extant literature suggests that these approaches can be generalized to the public and positively impact all, not just those with diagnosed psychological conditions.

If you are ready to try, start with small habits and build on them!

• Start with as brief as a 3 minute meditation, then try adding minutes, just as you might for exercise
• Try meditating outdoors, by which the authors mean pause for 1-2 minutes to simply observe the outdoor surroundings through all of your sense
• Pause to notice how you feel after you meditate, this is a form of meditation unto itself and increases the likelihood you will do it again!

Matthew Solan is the Executive Editor at Harvard Men’s Health Watch and previously served as executive editor for UCLA Health’s Healthy Years and as a contributor to Duke Medicine’s Health News and Weill Cornell Medical College’s Women Nutrition Connection and Women’s Health Advisor.

Recently, Mr. Solan reviewed the evidence surrounding the degree to which practicing mindfulness in daily life can help address issues of concentration, distraction, and stress management.

You can read the full article at Harvard Health Publishing online, entitled “Evoking calm: Practicing mindfulness in daily life helps,” his 3 tips are summarized below.

Simple meditation

A quick and easy meditation is an excellent place to begin practicing mindfulness.

• Sit on a straight-backed chair or cross-legged on the floor.
• Focus on an aspect of your breathing, such as the sensations of air flowing into your nostrils and out of your mouth, or your belly rising and falling as you inhale and exhale.
• Once you’ve narrowed your concentration in this way, begin to widen your focus. Become aware of sounds, sensations, and ideas. Embrace and consider each without judgment.
• If your mind starts to race, return your focus to your breathing. Then expand your awareness again.
• Take as much time as you like: one minute, or five, or 10 — whatever you’re comfortable with. Experts in mindfulness meditation note that the practice is most helpful if you commit to a regular meditation schedule.

Open awareness

Another approach to mindfulness is “open awareness,” which helps you stay in the present and truly participate in specific moments in life. You can choose any task or moment to practice open awareness, such as eating, taking a walk, showering, cooking a meal, or working in the garden. When you are engaged in these and other similar routine activities, follow these steps.

• Bring your attention to the sensations in your body, both physical and emotional.
• Breathe in through your nose, allowing the air to fill your lungs. Let your abdomen expand fully. Then breathe out slowly through your mouth.
• Carry on with the task at hand, slowly and with deliberation.
• Engage each of your senses, paying close attention to what you can see, hear, feel, smell, and taste.
• Try “single-tasking,” bringing your attention as fully as possible to what you’re doing.
• Allow any thoughts or emotions that arise to come and go, like clouds passing through the sky.
• If your mind wanders away from your current task, gently refocus your attention back to the sensation of the moment.

Body awareness

Another way to practice mindfulness is to focus your attention on other thoughts, objects, and sensations. While sitting quietly with your eyes closed, channel your awareness toward each of the following:

Urges: When you feel a craving or an urge (for instance, to eat excess food or practice an unwanted behavior), acknowledge the desire and understand that it will pass. Notice how your body feels as the craving enters. Replace the wish for the craving to go away with the specific knowledge that it will subside.

Sensations: Notice subtle feelings such as an itch or tingling without judgment, and let them pass. Notice each part of your body in succession from head to toe.

Sights and sounds: Notice sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and touches. Name them “sight,” “sound,” “smell,” “taste,” or “touch” without judgment and let them go.

Emotions: Allow emotions to be present without judging them. Practice a steady and relaxed naming of emotions: “joy,” “anger,” “frustration.”

While many assume that Andy Williams was singing about Christmas in his well known song many would argue the most wonderful time of the year is fall. Leaves are changing colors, there are ample excuses to leave hearty meals simmering in the crockpot, and pumpkin spice is everywhere! But how do we maintain our wellness as the days get shorter and the weather gets cooler? Here are some tips to consider:

1. Get Outdoors – Spending time outdoors has been shown to improve mental health, concentration, and focus while lowering heart rate, blood pressure, and cortisol levels. Consider a daily walk to enjoy the color of the changing leaves, or lean into the yard work you know you need to get done. Want something more fun? Head to your local farm to pick apples, pumpkins, and other spoils of the season.
2. Stay Hydrated – While we associate the summer with dehydration cooler weather can also dehydrate you as you sweater under layers of warm clothes, so be sure that while you out and about your requisite water based on this chart.
3. Eat Autumnal – Fall gives us many delicious and healthy nutrition options including pumpkins, apples, pumpkins, pears, squash, cranberries, sweet potatoes, eggplant, and beets. All of these are perfect for a warm and healthy soup!
4. Mind Your Mental Health – Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) often sets in during the fall and affects million Americans. But even if you don’t suffer from seasonal depression, autumn is a good time to refocus on your mental health as it’s easy to get down when the days begin to turn cold and sunlight wanes. Practice mindfulness or start journaling, focusing on the positives in your life without invalidating any difficulties you are experiencing and the emotions that come with them, or do a digital detox.
5. Get Social – Cooler weather often means more time indoors, but that can put you at risk of social isolation during the fall. Considering that social isolation can increases premature death risk, staying connected is every bit as important as other wellness activities. You can stay connected as the weather cools by attending holiday celebrations, volunteering, attending or hosting backyard bonfires, or joining in person or online clubs (books, films, cooking, sports, etc.)

Adapted from https://www.wellsteps.com/blog/2024/09/16/fall-wellness-tips/

Many people at present are seeking help solving problems and coping with a variety of concerns that have become a typical but unwelcome part of daily life. But how do you know who to turn to when you need a hand making sense of life’s challenges?

Emily Hemendinger is an assistant professor of psychiatry at the University of Colorado Anschutz Medical Campus. Recently, Dr. Hemendinger offered her perspective on the increasingly popular field of coaching. As a licensed clinical social worker who specializes in mental health and public health, she has observed coaching’s growing popularity and how patients’ interest appears to stem from a lack of affordable and accessible mental health care. Coaches have the potential to fill a gap and work alongside therapists to assist clients. Many people seek coaching to help them make a big decision or hold them accountable for making progress toward a set goal – from launching a business to sticking to their wellness routines. Because the industry is unregulated, however, it’s important for people to understand its limits before using a coach’s services.guidance on how to seek the right type of professional to help you to continue to work through whatever life brings your way.

Dr. Hemendinger full article can be read at NPR.org, but in sum she recommends that following considerations if you are considering coaching.

• What training does the coach have? What’s their background? I recommend looking into their education and licensing, as well as any titles or certificates that you find unfamiliar.
• Is someone telling you that they can cure you or that they have a product that can fix your problem – a meal plan, diet, coaching course, etc.?
• Do they have research and evidence, not just anecdotes, to back up the claims they are making? If something is being touted as “tested” or “proven,” make sure you ask about the data.
• Is the person touting their service as the “only” way to get better? Are they making unrealistic claims, such as being able to cure someone of their trauma symptoms in one month? A credible life coach is not going to promise to completely change your life or cure you.
• Is there a formal contract with the services provided clearly laid out? Does this contract discuss limitations of services provided? Is there clarity around fees and charges
• Is the coach willing to be flexible about their approach? Do they become defensive when you ask questions?

Welcome to the first part of a series of occasional posts meant to help us think about some of the most common areas humans value through the lens of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Today we will be focusing on the ACT value area of Partnership. No matter which of the 35 or more terms that you use to describe your most intimate relationship types and dynamics, it is worth asking ourselves some important questions from time to time to assess the status of those relationships and, if they need a tune-up, how.

ACT starts by asking some foundational questions. Setting aside the most fundamental question of what kind of partner you want, one might ask themselves “what kind of partner do you want to be?” You might also ask what are the qualities that would describe a relationship you want to be a part of.

To that end, Catherine Pearson at the New York Times recently interviewed therapists and relationship researchers who shared 6 additional questions that can bring couples closer after the relationship has been up and running for a while. You can read the full article at https://www.nytimes.com/2024/09/10/well/family/marriage-midlife-counseling.html, the questions are summarized below.

1. What is our next chapter? Orna Guralnik, a Manhattan-based clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst who stars in the Showtime documentary series “Couples Therapy,” encourages her clients to consider their plans for the third chapter of their relationships (when the marriage is neither fresh and new, nor consumed by domestic demands). It’s a conversation she sees many couples having organically, particularly those in their 50s and 60s whose children have left home. “Where are they going to turn that attention?” she often asks. “And how is that going to inflect the couple?” Galena Rhoades, a psychologist and research professor at the University of Denver, has advised clients to ask one another: “What are our big hopes and dreams?”
2. What are we modeling for our children or other couples? What do we want others to learn from our relationship? How might that shape their own relationships? For instance, maybe you want to make it clear that relationships take work, Dr. Rhoades said, so you talk to your children about how you handle conflict. Perhaps it’s emphasizing the importance of date nights and prioritizing coupledom.
3. How do I contribute to any problems we have or are currently facing? This kind of self-reflection is easier said than done, admitted Adam R. Fisher, a psychologist and sex therapist based in Salt Lake City. But by midlife, most of us have learned something about ourselves and our relationships. Dr. Fisher said that taking time to reflect on the type of partner they want to be — regardless of what their partner does or doesn’t do — ultimately gives his clients a greater sense of agency within their relationships.
4. What skills have we developed? By the time couples reach middle age, many have fallen into decades-long communication patterns, some better than others, said Jeffrey Chernin, a marriage and family therapist based in Los Angeles and the author of “Achieving Intimacy.” So he often encourages partners to think about the positive communication skills they have developed. “You want to fortify those,” he said. Advertisement SKIP ADVERTISEMENT Maybe you’re both good at listening without interrupting, for example. Maybe you are pros at apologizing. Simply acknowledging some of those strengths can be a useful bonding exercise, Mr. Chernin said. “Let’s strengthen what’s going well,” he said, “not just address what needs to be improved.
5. Is this relationship worth it? With experience, most people come to understand that no one gets everything they want from one person, said Terrence Real, a family therapist and author of “Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.” Which is why middle age can be a good time to have what he calls a “relational reckoning.” “A relational reckoning is a question,” he explained, “and the question is: Am I getting enough in this relationship to make grieving what I don’t get OK with me?”
6. Should we get outside help? It is important to approach the questions above with a sense of curiosity and openness, said Tiana Frazier, a licensed marriage and family therapist based in Texas. Try to stay present and avoid becoming defensive, she said, and “if the conversation becomes overwhelming, it’s OK to take a break.” Couples who are contemplating whether they want to stay together — or perhaps to radically change the structure of their relationship — may want to engage professional help. Discernment counseling is an option for couples who are pondering big changes, Ms. Hershman said. Depending on your circumstances, you might consider a specific form of counseling, like sex therapy, or individual therapy if your partner is reluctant to join you.

“Hidden Brain” is a podcast that explores the unconscious patterns that drive human behavior and questions that lie at the heart of our complex and changing world. Hosted by Shankar Vedantam, NPR’s social science correspondent, former reporter and columnist at The Washington Post, and columnist, and wrote the Department of Human Behavior column for the Post, and fellow at the Nieman Foundation for Journalism at Harvard University, the series transforms what are sometimes dry, academic research topics into compelling stories that offer a total and complete escape.

Recently, Vedantam explored a topic the hits close to home for many of us: time as a limited resource. As Shankar puts it: “many of us feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day. We struggle to make time for all the competing demands at work and at home, and inevitably feel like we’re letting someone down. But what if there were a way to reclaim our time and, as a result, get more joy out of our lives? This week, psychologist Cassie Mogilner Holmes explains how we’ve fallen victim to the illusion of time scarcity, and what we can do to spend our time more wisely.”

If this is something you can identify with be sure to listen to the full episode at https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/taking-control-of-your-time/.

Marielle Segarra hosts the show Life Kit on NPR and Philadelphia native, recently revisited the topic of forest bathing. For those unfamiliar with this, it is the act of spending time in the forest in what the Japanese call shinrin-yoku, a term originating in the 1980s that means “bathing in the forest atmosphere.” Qing Li, a researcher on this topic and a professor at Nippon Medical School in Tokyo, says that “This is not exercise or hiking or jogging, it is simply being in nature, connecting with it through our sense of sight, hearing, taste, smell and touch.”

Not only is “forest bathing” a magical way to explore nature, decades of research has shown that it’s good for your health. It can boost your immune system, lower blood pressure and help with depression. It can also reduce the stress hormones cortisol and adrenaline and turn down the dial on your body’s fight-or-flight response.

You can read Segarra’s full piece at https://www.npr.org/2023/08/22/1195337204/a-guide-to-forest-bathing, and a starters guided is offered below.

1. Find a location where you’re surrounded by trees – The ideal place to forest bathe is well, in a forest. But if you live far away from one or don’t have the means to get there, any place that has a lot of trees and quiet spaces will do.

2. Set aside a good chunk of time – To reap the ultimate rewards of shinrin-yoku, plan to spend two to six hours in the woods, says Li. A 2019 study published in the International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health found that walking just 15 minutes through the woods can help relieve stress and anxiety.

3. Aim to reduce heart rate – Your forest bathing session is a good time to sit or walk or do some gentle yoga or tai chi. It’s not the time to squeeze in your hardcore cardio for the week.

4. Breathe in the scents of the forest – Many of the benefits of shinrin-yoku come when we inhale the chemicals that trees release into the air, called phytoncides, says Li. They can reduce our stress hormones and increase our levels of white-blood cells known as natural killer cells, according to his research. In one study from 2009, his team ordered special concentrated essential oils made from Japanese cypress trees and then pumped them into the hotel rooms of test subjects using a diffuser. The people staying in those rooms saw about 40 to 50% of the health benefits as those who did a forest bathing session.

5. Bolster your forest bath with meditation – When you get to the forest or the park, walk a little bit and then find a spot that speaks to you. Now sit down, says Evans, and try this exercise. “Inhale for a count of one, two and then exhale for double the length of time, so it’s one, two, three, four. Then keep that going.” “When the exhale is slower than the inhale, it sends a physiological message to your body that says: ‘I’m safe. I can relax. It’s OK,’ ” he adds.

Vacations often find ourselves behaving the way we would want to behave everyday were it not for our mountains of responsibilities and the toll they take. We slow day, have more in-depth conversations with loved ones, move more, eat better, and engage in activities that bring us joy. And there is research suggesting connections between vacations and lower stress, a healthier heart rate and increased creativity, the benefits of which can last for weeks after the vacation is over!

But how do we keep the good vibes going? Dr. Sarah Pressman, a professor of psychological science at the University of California, has a few suggestions:

Do a “mini version” of your favorite thing: The first step, Dr. Pressman said, is to reflect on your vacation: What did you love doing the most? Was it family dinners with great conversations? Was it daily naps? Then, she said, “try to find a mini version of that.” If you loved biking on vacation, she said, start with a weekly bike ride.

Get outside: Some people spend more time outdoors on their vacations, and the research is robust that green spaces provide health benefits galore. If you miss being outside, aim for “snackable bits of nature” near your home, e.g go to a park for a few minutes or hang a bird feeder just outside your door.

Engage your senses: If certain scents, tastes or sounds lifted your spirits on vacation, try to replicate them at home. Cook a meal that you loved on vacation or play some local music that you heard.

Display a memento: Don’t discount the value of souvenirs. They can have a lasting effect on our happiness. In fact, research has found that items with high sentimental value can bring us sustained happiness.

The folks over at Calm recently wrote a post discussing how to spot the signs of a bad mental health day and what to do about.

“Feeling down is the mental health version of having a cold,” they say.

“We all get a cold (mental or physical) sometimes. It could be more serious (depression or flu) but it’s still a bummer. And most of us try to force
ourselves to push through it.

Some of the symptoms of a mental health cold include:

• Wanting to stay in bed more than usual
• Small tasks feel overwhelming
• General mood is “ugh”
• You can’t imagine feeling better

So the next time you feel down,
take care of yourself like you’d nurse a cold:

• Rest & hydrate.
• Listen to your body’s needs.
• Let your heavy feelings flow through (and eventually) out of you.”

Need something to get you started getting unstuck? Check out the RAIN Mindfulness Practice.

Some days it may feel like literally every area of our life is faltering. There is too much work, we are fighting with our partners, we can’t lose those last 5 pounds, and the current geopolitical situation is…bad. And through this many folks might encourage is to simply shift our focus to more pleasant things, but what if it is OK to not be happy and optimistic sometimes?

Recently the content curators at Mellowed published an article entitled “It’s Ok Not To Be Happy… Sometimes” that examines why uncomfortable emotions like sadness and anxiety can sometimes hit is out of the blue and stick around longer than we would like, and also what we can do about it. In addition to their recommendations, today might be a good day to review our archived piece “Mindfulness for Difficult Emotions.”

The list of things we dread is almost endless: the Sunday scaries, climate change, deadlines, the holidays, simple errands, you name it.

So how can we feel better when we’re expecting the worst? We’ve been exploring this theme in a miniseries in Season 2 of More Than a Feeling, a podcast on emotions from the meditation and mindfulness platform Ten Percent Happier. And we’ve learned that dread isn’t all that bad.

It turns out there are some benefits in starting an open conversation about the things that worry us. “The purpose of dread is to help prepare you,” says psychologist Ali Mattu. “It’s to help you think about what might happen. It’s to help you take actions that you can right now.”

We talked to researchers, art therapists and death doulas to find out how to dread better.

1. Rewrite your dread

We often struggle to talk about dread because it can feel so heavy. Poet and clinical psychologist Hala Alyan has a suggestion: Write down the things you’re concerned about.

Exercise: She shares a journal prompt to help you emotionally distance yourself from your dread: “Write yourself a letter from your Dread’s point of view. The letter should answer the following questions: What are you hoping to achieve? How do you think it’s going? What is your intention?”

2. Draw your dread

What happens when we express our dread without words? Art therapist Naomi Cohen-Thompson and meditation teacher and writer Jeff Warren explain why reframing our attitudes toward dread nonverbally can help us accept what scares us.

Exercise: Draw how you are feeling inside; then “take note of how you feel when you look at your drawing,” according to Ten Percent Happier’s website. “If it amuses you, you could even try sticking it up on the wall near your work space, or by the bathroom mirror, to help it feel welcome, instead of like an enemy you want to reject.”

3. Find the joy in dreading … death

Fear of death may be the ultimate type of dread we face, but clinical psychologist Rachel Menzies and death doula Alua Arthur say that facing death can be a joyful exercise. They make a compelling case for why remembering we will die — instead of trying to forget — can help us accept the inevitable.

Exercise: “At some point in the next 24 [hours], wherever you are — in your home, or out on a walk — take 3-5 minutes to pause. … Then, take a look around you. … Look at — and name — the things that are either dying or have died,” according to Ten Percent Happier. That includes the wood on your desk or the kitchen light bulb that just blew out.

4. Schedule your dread

This is how my dread works: I dread something. I try to avoid thinking about it. I fail. Before I know it, I’ve spent an entire day stuck in an endless loop of worry. Mattu says to carve out “worry time” to keep dread from becoming too overwhelming.

Exercise: “Block off about ten minutes,” says Mattu. “Then, simply sit with the running list of things you’re dreading. … When the timer dings, you can leave dread behind, knowing that there will be more time to address it later.”

5. Notice your surroundings

After speaking with More Than a Feeling listeners, it became clear that one of the biggest issues they’re worried about right now is the state of our planet. Therapist Patty Adams helped me understand how connecting to the environment can help us build emotional resilience — so that even if we feel discouraged by “eco-dread,” as it’s called, we don’t stay there for too long.

Exercise: “This evening, some time around sunset, stop what you’re doing, and step outside,” according to Ten Percent Happier. “Take time to notice things around you: the quality of the light, the color it makes on your skin or the other structures or living things around you. … When you turn around to go back in, does a little bit of that evening glow follow you back in?”

We hope everyone’s summer is off to a fantastic start! While everyone is enjoying the (sometimes too) warm weather we want to be sure you keep an eye on your wellness at the same time. As such, we offer these 21 tips from the folks at wellsteps.com. Check them out below, and click through to their site for the full details!

1. Have fun (or just relax) in the sun 2. … But don’t forget your sunscreen 3. Stay hydrated 4. Adopt a daily stretching routine 5. Go for daily walks 6. Fire up healthy grilling recipes 7. Do a digital detox

8. Bike to work 9. Try a new sport or activity 10. Meditate daily 11. Watch the sunrise and sunset 12. Participate in 5K or OCR races 13. Take a summer class 14. Read summer books

15. Have a reunion 16. Practice grounding techniques 17. Start a garden 18. Summer savings 19. Travel 20. Volunteer 21. Get your ZZZ’s

As we continue to observe Pride Month we are invited to continue to understand the relationship between Pride and mental health, and what we can do about it. As such, Mental Health America has put together a useful guide on this issue. The full resource can be found at https://mhanational.org/lgbtq/pride, and a summary is provided below. We encourage everyone to continue to explore these resources to promote equality and good mental health for all.

“Pride Month is a time for LGBTQ+ folks to gather and celebrate their freedom to live authentically. The LGBTQ+ community deserves affirmed, safe, supported, joyful, and mentally healthy lives. Anti-trans legislation, hate-based crimes, and discrimination shouldn’t overshadow Pride, but they can’t be ignored. We hope those struggling with their identity or living in unsupportive environments find these resources helpful to living a life of well-being and resilience.”

Exploring and affirming your gender

Affirming your loved one’s gender exploration and identity

Providing gender-affirming mental health care

Gender-nonconforming people are three to six times more likely to be on the autism spectrum. There are also higher rates of ADHD among gender-nonconforming people. Identifying as neuroqueer means that a person sees their neurodivergent and queer identities as interacting with each other.

The term “neurodivergent” has been gaining popularity recently. It often refers to people who have ADHD and/or are on the autism spectrum. There is a strong connection between LGBTQ+ identities and neurodivergent identities.

Please take some time today to explore the below resources from Mental Health America discussing challenges faced as neuroqueer individuals as well as how to find and give support. https://mhanational.org/neuroqueer

From: https://www.who.int/activities/improving-lgbtqi-health-and-well–being-with-consideration-for-sogiesc which contains a wide variety of resources to aid us in better educating ourselves and helping others.

“LGBTIQ+ health refers to the physical, mental, and emotional well-being of people who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex or queer (LGBTIQ+). The plus sign represents the vast diversity of people in terms of sexual orientation, gender identity, expression and sex characteristics (SOGIESC). The LGBTIQ+ acronym is dynamic and can vary depending on the region or country, highlighting the multitude of LGBTIQ+ communities across cultures. 

While recognizing the diversity of LGBTIQ+ people, evidence suggests some common experiences affecting their health and well-being. They are less likely to access health services and engage with healthcare workers due to stigma and discrimination, resulting in adverse physical and mental health outcomes.  They can also experience human rights violations including violence, torture, criminalization, involuntary medical procedures and discrimination. In addition, they can face denial of care, discriminatory attitudes and inappropriate pathologizing in healthcare settings based on their SOGIESC. 

WHO’s support to countries is founded on the fundamental human rights principle that all persons should have access to health services without discrimination. The adoption of the 2030 Agenda for Sustainable Development and its pledge to “leave no one behind”, based on the normative framework of international human rights law, has reinforced the need to understand and improve the health and well-being of LGBTIQ+ people. WHO develops guidelines, provides technical support and conducts research to help countries develop and strengthen inclusive health systems and policies for the health and well-being of all people, regardless of SOGIESC.”

Pride Month is a month dedicated to the celebration and commemoration of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) pride that began after the Stonewall riots, a series of gay liberation protests in 1969. As we observe Pride this year, here is a reminder from the Trevor Project of what it means to be an Ally and promote wellness in the community all year long.

From https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/guide/allyship-in-action/

Educate Yourself

We should never stop learning, because education can help save lives. It’s important to educate yourself, so that the burden of education isn’t on the LGBTQ+ people you want to be an ally to. Luckily, there are a lot of resources that can help you know more about the LGBTQ+ community.

Support LGBTQ+ Young People

• Be a safe space when discussing difficult topics and utilize empathetic listening practices such as reflecting language, validating experiences, staying present, being non-judgemental and expressing care, concern and encouragement.
• Use colleagues’ pronouns correctly and consistently. Model sharing pronouns in meetings, in email signatures, and on web platforms.

Advocate for LGBTQ+ People

Through advocacy at all levels of government, public education, and litigation we leverage our expertise and cutting-edge research to advance protective policies, increase public support, and create the world each LGBTQ+ young person deserves. This includes efforts to…

• Protect LGBTQ+ young people from the dangerous practice of conversion “therapy.”
• Ensure trans and nonbinary young people can access the care they need and live as their authentic selves.
• Create safe and affirming school environments.
• Ensure the nation’s 988 Lifeline is able to adequately and competently support LGBTQ+ young people in crisis.

Be a Visible Ally When Working With LGBTQ+ Young People

• Introduce yourself with your name and pronouns. Invite others to do the same.
• If you’re able, decorate your space with items that signify allyship. This could be a pronoun button, a flag, or a poster of an LGBTQ+ film or artist.
• Do not tolerate bullying or harassment in your space at all. If bullying
  or harassment happens, enact consequences and hold the person causing harm accountable.
• Talk positively about LGBTQ+ people. Even in instances where it’s not appropriate to share their identity, this can show allyship. Always condemn acts of erasure if you’re able.
• Encourage visual cues of allyship, such as ‘safe space’ stickers or rainbow flags.

Memorial Day is considered the unofficial beginning of summer here in the United States, and with that in the rearview many are considering their plans for the next few months. But whether you will be staying at work or headed to the shore it is important to let the sunshine in! See below for 8 benefits of catching some rays from our friends over at Calm.

1. Vitamin D synthesis: When our skin is exposed to sunlight, it creates vitamin D, a crucial nutrient that helps the body absorb calcium and phosphorus. This is vital for building and maintaining strong bones and teeth. Vitamin D also supports the immune system in protecting against illnesses and infections.

2. Regulation of sleep cycles: Sunlight influences our body’s internal clock, which controls when we feel awake and when we feel sleepy. Natural light exposure during the day helps regulate the production of melatonin, the hormone responsible for sleep. Aligning our sleep-wake cycles with natural sunlight can help improve the quality of our sleep and can make it easier to wake up feeling refreshed.

3. Lower blood pressure: Sunlight on the skin can stimulate the production of nitric oxide. This can widen blood vessels, helping reduce blood pressure. Lower blood pressure can decrease the risk of heart attacks and strokes, and contribute to overall cardiovascular health.

4. Immune system boost: Beyond vitamin D production, sunlight can help increase white blood cell count, helping defend the body against infections. More exposure to sunlight might mean a potentially better-prepared immune system to fight off illness.

5. Mood enhancement: Sunlight may directly influence mood by increasing the production of the neurotransmitter serotonin. Often called the “feel-good” chemical, it can contribute to feelings of happiness and wellbeing. Regular exposure to sunlight can help elevate your mood, reduce feelings of sadness, and increase overall emotional stability.

6. Reduction in stress levels: Sunlight can have a calming effect by helping regulate stress hormones, like cortisol, making it easier to relax. This soothing effect of natural light can make day-to-day challenges more manageable and improve mental clarity and focus.

7. Relieving symptoms of anxiety and depression: The boost in serotonin may help reduce anxiety by bringing a sense of calm. For those affected by seasonal affective disorder (SAD), which is a type of depression related to changes in seasons, sunlight can help counteract the symptoms that come with the decrease in natural light during the darker months.

8. Improved sleep quality: Sunlight helps regulate melatonin, the sleep hormone, which can help you fall asleep more easily and can enhance sleep quality.

According to a recent survey published by Oracle, seventy-eight percent of those polled said they would pay a premium for true happiness if it were possible. Given that doing so is not possible, positive psychology researcher Stephanie Harrison took time to consider other ways of moving toward happiness. One undepreciated way, she found, is through serving others.

In her recent book, “New Happy“, she shared that she thinks “the secret to happiness is using who you are to help other people, and to do that, you have to discover who you are, who you really are, away from the conditioning that we’ve been given by our society.”

Here are some quick tips to get started. To learn more visit https://www.cnbc.com/2024/05/16/this-is-the-secret-to-happiness-from-a-happiness-researcher.html

• Send a note to a loved one letting them know how much you appreciate them
• Write a nice email to someone praising their work
• Call a friend you haven’t heard from in a while
• Give a call to a store or business that you enjoy and thank them
• Smile at a stranger
• Speak up about a cause that holds value to you

This week’s DD comes to us via Jennifer Garefino, Operational Excellence Specialist, in honor of National Nurses Week.

Let’s start with a question: How much does a nurse walk during their shift?

According to recent data, an average 12-hour day shift will require a nurse to walk about 5 miles. The authors of this article suggest that nurses walk much more than many other professions, and because of this, nurses will be able to reach their fit goals and stay healthier because of the increased amount of exercise they receive on the job, at least in this one regard. But what else going into nursing wellness? Read more at NurseToghether.com!

According to a recent paper, “The number of individuals experiencing mental disorders (e.g., anxiety and depression) has significantly risen in recent years. Therefore, it is essential to seek prevention and treatment strategies for mental disorders. Several gut microbiota, especially Firmicutes and Bacteroidetes, are demonstrated to affect mental health through microbiota–gut–brain axis, and the gut microbiota dysbiosis can be related to mental disorders, such as anxiety, depression, and other mental disorders. On the other hand, dietary components, including probiotics (e.g., Lactobacillus and Bifidobacterium), prebiotics (e.g., dietary fiber and alpha-lactalbumin), synbiotics, postbiotics (e.g., short-chain fatty acids), dairy products, spices (e.g., Zanthoxylum bungeanum, curcumin, and capsaicin), fruits, vegetables, medicinal herbs, and so on, could exert protective effects against mental disorders by enhancing beneficial gut microbiota while suppressing harmful ones.”

So what do we do about this? The folks over at the blog “Well+Good” recommend 9 areas you can focus on, perhaps one area per week over the next few months, to attend to the importance of guy health. Full details are at https://www.wellandgood.com/how-to-improve-gut-health/, but the list boils down to this: Eat more plants, add fiber wherever you can, try fermented foods like miso or sauerkraut, reduce processed food intake, drink plenty of water, and avoid unnecessary antibiotics. Check the article above for specific tips on how, or consult with your doctors at your next appointment.

Science says grab a handful of soil or hike a muddy trail, it can benefit everything from your mood to your microbiome!

Holly Burns at the New York Times recently provided a summary of these findings in her article “A Little Bit of Dirt Is Good for You.” She interviewed Christopher A. Lowry, a professor of integrative physiology at the University of Colorado Boulder, and his recommendations are below.

• Embrace the dirt while you move. Activities like mountain biking, camping and hiking are easy ways to come into contact with a diverse microbial ecosystem, Dr. Lowry said. “I think we underestimate how much exposure we get from simply being outside.”
  
  
• Plant or pick something. Gardening has long been associated with reduced depression, anxiety and stress, and it calls for plenty of time spent working in the dirt. When people ask him how to get started, Leigh Johnstone, a gardener and mental health advocate in Southampton, England, who goes by “The Beardy Gardener” to his 21,000 Instagram followers, asks them one question: “Well, what do you like to eat?” Tomatoes are one of the easiest things to grow, said Mr. Johnstone, because they need very little maintenance and can be planted in a pot or hanging basket on a balcony. He also suggested strawberries and herbs like basil, mint or chives.
  
  
• Do like the kids do. Jill Dreves, the founder of Wild Bear Nature Center in Nederland, Colo., has a simple recipe for getting dirty: Make a mud pie. She suggested throwing something similar to a sip and paint event: Ask everyone to bring an old cake pan and get creative with mud. “Bring out some rocks and beads to press into them, collect some pretty leaves, press your hands or feet in,” said Ms. Dreves, who has organized mud pie parties with her staff. “We save that kind of thing for little kids, but really, as adults, we need to be doing more of it.” If you have actual kids to entertain, build a fairy garden, Ms. Yurich said. Gather leaves and moss to create a miniature, magical landscape, using sticks to construct huts, bark for the floor and stones for seating. Mr. Johnstone and his 2-year-old daughter like making bug hotels, which encourage insects to shelter inside. They also make seed bombs, which you can assemble any time of year, then store until spring or autumn to throw around the yard, Mr. Johnstone said. “A lot of people still have this nervousness around touching soil,” he said. But for him, “it makes me happy.”

Research suggests that clutter can affect our wellbeing broadly, being associated with anxiety, poor sleep, and inability to focus. It can also make us less productive, triggering coping and avoidance strategies that make us more likely to snack on junk and watch TV shows (including ones about other people decluttering their lives). More globally, clutter can influence our cognition, emotions and subsequent behaviors, including our relationships with others.

So what can be done about this? Jancee Dunn at the New York Times Well Blog suggests three projects you can likely accomplish when you get home tonight and that may move you closer to a sense of wellbeing.

Let go of mystery chargers and cords: According to Melissa Dilkes Pateras, an organizing expert and author of “A Dirty Guide to a Clean Home,” Many of us have a dusty box or bag of mystery cords, chargers, remote controls and reusable batteries. We have no idea what they’re for, but we’re afraid to throw them out. It’s time to dump out the container, said Pateras, who is known to her 1.6 million TikTok followers as the “Laundry Lesbian.” Separate the chargers, batteries and phones into piles. “Think about all of the things in your house that have cords or chargers, and go through and try them,” she said. If nothing fits, she said, out they go. “You don’t need your Razr flip phone charger,” she said. To drop off electronic waste, contact your city’s sanitation department or search on sites such as Call2Recycle, Earth911 or GreenCitizen. Stores like Best Buy offer electronics recycling programs. And if someday you find that you truly need that discarded cord, Kennedy said, a replacement is usually easy to find.

Clear the clutter out of your car: Kennedy has found that even the most committed neatnik may have a different attitude when it comes to their car. “Some people will say, ‘My car is my one place where I can just do whatever, it’s my nest space. So I’ve got wrappers all over. I’ve got bills. I’ve got my requisition for blood work.’” To start, Kennedy said, bring a garbage bag, wet wipes, glass cleaner and a dry cloth out to the car. Check the doors, the cup holder, the center console, the glove compartment, under the front seats, the back pockets of the car seats and the trunk. Throw away anything that’s outdated or doesn’t belong, said Kennedy, such as old paperwork or fast food toys your kids played with for two seconds. “There’s a joke in the organizing community that we keep donations in our car that you mean to drop off, and then we leave them in there for a year,” Kennedy said. If you keep reusable shopping bags in your trunk, Pateras said, “the rule of thumb is to have as many as you use for your biggest grocery shopping trip.” And if you haven’t used something in the past few months, and if it’s not for an emergency, Kennedy said, return it to its proper place in the house. (A first aid kit can stay in the car, Kennedy said, but out-of-season sports equipment doesn’t need to join you year-round.)

Dig out from under the kitchen sink: Shira Gill, organizing expert and author of “Minimalista,” calls this area a “shove-and-pile zone.” “Even if you’re the only one that sees it,” she said, “clear it out as a treat for yourself.” First, Pateras said, pull out every single thing under the sink. Then wipe off the surfaces, and get rid of expired products and worn-out items like sponges and cracked rubber gloves. Toss specialty cleaning products that you haven’t used in at least a year, like that curdled grout cleaner, Gill said. (The American Cleaning Institute provides instructions for safe disposal). Gill also puts her dishwasher pods in a container like a Mason jar, she said, “which takes up less room and looks nicer.” Kennedy recommends getting a caddy for your cleaning products. Stock it with multipurpose cleaners, which will lighten your load, and some microfiber towels, she said. I finally chipped out the loaf under my sink, and now that area is clear and tidy (and dry). My new motto: No shoving, no piling.

We’ve all heard the age-old wisdom that “it is better to give than to receive” from parents or spiritual teachings. Psychologist Adam Grant extends this idea to suggest that a culture of giving can lead to higher productivity, morale, and efficiency.

According to his research, generosity fosters a sense of community and trust, encouraging collaboration and support among team members. This environment enables individuals to flourish, as they feel valued and supported. To foster a culture of generosity, leaders need to step up and lead by example. They need to create an environment where generosity is recognized and rewarded and where employees feel safe giving without fear of being exploited.

Grant coined the term “otherish” giving, which refers to offering help to those you choose to, and which ultimately benefits you by lifting your spirits. Economists describe this feeling as the “warm glow” of giving, while psychologists call it the “helper’s high.” Neuroscience also indicates that when we engage in these acts of giving, our brain’s reward and meaning centers are activated, which emit pleasure and purpose signals as we act for the benefit of others. The bottom line? The social connection tied to giving–whether to a person in need in your community or organization or a grassroots charity close to your heart–gives the giver the greatest psychological benefit and boost of happiness.

You can read the full article and learn more about Grant’s work at https://www.inc.com/marcel-schwantes/adam-grant-says-your-overall-happiness-comes-down-to-1-word.html

Robert H. Shmerling, MD is the senior faculty editor at Harvard Health Publishing; and member of the editorial advisory board at Harvard Health Publishing. He recently published a piece entitled “How well do you worry about your health?” in which he describes how many of us worry about our health, yet a lot of what we focus on poses little risk.

Dr. Shmerling says “it’s impossible (and ill-advised) to never worry about your health” and asks id we are worrying about the right things. Below is a summary of his comparisons which lead him to his advice: “try not to focus too much on health risks that are unlikely to affect you,” he says. “Instead, think about common causes of poor health. Then take measures to reduce your risk. Moving more and adding healthy foods to your meals is a great start.

And in case you’re curious, the average number of annual deaths due to quicksand is zero in the US!

Spring has sprung, and in many cultures this is looked at as a time of renewal. While those renewal efforts are often physical, we can also use this period as a reminder to renew our overall wellbeing. Enter Calm’s recent article “10 ways to (re)find joy in life.” Read the full article, or just scan the list below and choose one to try to work on for the next week or two!

1. Explore new hobbies and activities: Broaden your horizons by trying new things. This can add excitement to your life and help you discover new passions. Make a list of activities you’ve always wanted to try and take the first step towards trying one this week.💙 Take some time to find out what activities bring you happiness and joy. We recommend beginning with the Discovering Happiness series by Shawn Achor, which dives into habits and activities that are destined to make you feel happier.
2. Prioritize a healthy diet: What you eat affects your mood. Focus on balanced, nutritious meals that fuel your body and mind. A simple first step could be including more fruits and vegetables in your diet and staying hydrated with water or herbal tea.💙 Change your life by prioritizing what you eat and learn about the importance of a healthy diet in The 4 Pillars of Health series. Remember that food is used for both fuel and fun, and incorporating treats into a healthy lifestyle can ramp up those happiness levels, too.
3. Practice self-care: Taking care of yourself is crucial. This means getting enough rest, managing stress, and doing things that make you feel good. Set aside a few minutes each day for relaxation or a favorite activity.💙 Discover the tools of self-care and create a nourishing practice of reflection and rest in the Radical Self-Care series. 
4. Stay active: Exercise releases brain chemicals thought to boost your mood. Start with short, enjoyable physical activities that fit into your daily routine, like a daily walk or some stretching exercises. Bonus points for noticing how you feel after the workout and writing it down in a journal to motivate yourself in the future.💙 Lace up your sneakers and head out for a 30-minute Mindful Run (or walk) with Mel Mah and tune into the world around you. 
5. Build positive relationships: Positive interactions with friends and family can greatly enhance your happiness, so surround yourself with people who uplift you. Reach out to a friend or family member for a chat or a get-together this week.💙 Practicing Empathy can have positive effects on your own happiness, as well as the happiness of those around you. Give it a try and witness how your connections can blossom.
6. Connect with nature: Spending time in nature can be calming and rejuvenating. Whether it’s a walk in the park, gardening, or just sitting outside, try to spend some time outdoors every day.💙 If you can’t get outside, you can mentally escape to a more tranquil place with a soundscape like High Sierra Lake or Forest Ambience. 
7. Cultivate patience: Finding happiness is a journey. Be patient with yourself as you explore what brings you joy, and understand that happiness can ebb and flow. Acknowledge your feelings and know that it’s okay to have ups and downs.💙 Follow along in this guided meditation with Tamara Levitt on how to cultivate and practice Patience.
8. Reach out for social support: Speaking about your feelings and experiences can be therapeutic, so talk to friends or family members. Consider joining a local support group to boost your social circle.
9. Perform acts of kindness: Doing something nice for others can boost your own happiness. Try giving a compliment, volunteering, or helping a neighbor this week, and notice how it makes you feel.💙 Learn how to perform Random Acts of Kindness, which are scientifically proven to increase happiness for both the giver and receiver. 
10. Seek professional help when necessary: It’s important to recognize when you need additional support and to seek it out. Whether it’s talking to a healthcare professional, joining a support group, or simply confiding in a trusted friend, reaching out is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Jancee Dunn has been writing about health and science for more than 20 years, and currently published the Well newsletter for The New York Times, a weekly update on personal health and fitness. Recently, she covered a secret to well-being that may surprise you. You can read the full article here, and below is a summary and some thoughts on how you can adopt her findings into your life.

In short, experts say that toddlers — full of energy, curiosity and laughter — have a lot to teach adults! She interviewed Dr. Hasan Merali, an associate professor of pediatrics at McMaster University and a pediatric emergency room physician, who shares the following:

Try positive self-talk.

Young children tend to coach themselves out loud, a practice known as private speech (such as this popular clip from a 4-year-old snowboarder).

Toddlers aren’t shy about self-talk, Dr. Merali said, and you shouldn’t be, either. Research suggests that for adults, positive self-talk can help with problem-solving, learning, confidence and managing your emotions. I told Dr. Merali I tend to speak harshly to myself, but would try to sub in phrases like “You can do it” instead.

Take any opportunity to move.

Two-year-olds are active for almost five hours a day, according to a review of 24 studies. They move joyfully and instinctively, Dr. Merali said.

Adults can look for ways to move more, even if it’s just for a minute. Take a quick walk around the block, or schedule a meeting on foot rather than sitting down. If you’re home alone, do what Kelly McGonigal, a health psychologist at Stanford University, has called “full-body karaoke,” singing and moving to your favorite song. Brief bursts of activity have been shown to increase longevity if they add up to 10 minutes per day. Standing up for three minutes every half-hour can help control your blood sugar, too. You can also find ways to be around young kids, “a happiness that is unmatched,” Dr. Merali said. (The nonprofit Generations United features a national database of intergenerational programs and activities.)

Ask questions.

Young kids are not afraid to pose questions, Dr. Merali said. One study found that they asked an average of 107 questions an hour. (This will not surprise their parents.)

I have written a few children’s books, and my favorite part of library readings was question time: “Have you ever been to the moon?” “Can you turn into a cheetah?”

Adults have been socialized to hold back our questions because we’re often worried about what other people think, Dr. Merali said. But asking questions not only helps us to gain information, it’s also an important way to build relationships, he said.

Fix your sleep schedule.

Toddlers thrive on routine, and having a schedule with consistent sleep and waking times will help you, too, said Alberto Ramos, a sleep neurologist and researcher with the University of Miami Miller School of Medicine. If your schedule permits, and if you have the urge, napping also has a host of benefits, including sharper thinking and reaction times and improved memory. As long as you’re not dealing with insomnia, which can be worsened by napping, Dr. Ramos recommended a short nap — 20 to 30 minutes maximum — in the early afternoon.

Look for opportunities to laugh.

Toddlers “see the world as a comedy club,” Dr. Merali writes. One study found that young children laugh six times as much as adults. But we can seek ways to build playfulness and humor into our day. Listen to a comedy podcast or trade silly texts with someone, Dr. Merali said. Research shows you laugh more when you are with friends, so make time for them, he said. “I get a daily dad joke mailed to me,” Dr. Merali told me. “And during my lunch break, I watch videos.”

What does he watch? “Funny toddler videos,” he said. Of course.

Adapted from Calm.com, read the full article there.

In small doses, stress can motivate you to meet deadlines and achieve goals at work. However, when work-related stress becomes chronic, it can lead to mental health problems like anxiety and depression, and physical health problems such as heart disease and high blood pressure.

Recognizing the signs of work stress

• Emotional symptoms: These may include irritability, frustration, anxiety, depression, or low morale.
• Physical symptoms: Signs of stress include headaches, muscle tension, fatigue, and sleep disturbances.
• Behavioral symptoms: Increased absenteeism, reduced productivity, and withdrawal from work-related activities are a few examples.

What to Do About It

1. Identify your stressors

Observe and reflect on when and why you feel stressed to help you see patterns and develop strategies to cope.

• Keep a stress diary: Record the moments when you feel stressed. Note the situation, your thoughts, how you reacted, and what could have been done differently. 
• Analyze your diary: Look for recurring themes in your diary. Are there specific tasks, times of day, or interactions that consistently cause stress?

2. Ask for help

Seeking support is a sign of strength, not a weakness.

• Talk to your supervisor: If workload or a specific task is a source of stress, discuss it with your manager. They may offer solutions or adjustments to your workload.
• Seek support from colleagues: Talking about stressors with a trusted colleague can provide relief. They might also offer practical advice or assistance.
• Consider professional help: If work stress is severely impacting your life, seek advice from a mental health professional.

3. Practice mindfulness and meditation

Mindfulness and meditation can help you stay centered and calm.

• Start with short sessions: Begin with a few minutes of meditation or a mindfulness practice daily. Use guided sessions if you’re a beginner.
• Incorporate mindfulness into your day: Try to be fully present in whatever you’re doing, whether it’s eating lunch or attending a meeting, to help yourself stay present and reduce feelings of stress and overwhelm.

4. Establish boundaries

Establishing clear boundaries between work and personal life is important for stress management.

• Set work hours: Define clear start and end times for your workday. Avoid checking emails or taking work calls outside these hours.
• Create physical or virtual boundaries: Designate a specific area for work and avoid using it for personal activities to help separate work from relaxation time.

5. Take breaks

Regular breaks, even short micro-breaks can help clear your mind, improve focus, and reduce stress.

• Step away from your desk: Take short breaks throughout the day to walk around, stretch, or do a quick relaxation exercise.
• Use breaks wisely: Rejuvenate yourself with a few minutes of deep breathing or a brief walk outside.

6. Commit to work-life balance

Ensuring a healthy balance between work and your personal life is essential for reducing stress.

• Prioritize non-work activities: Make time for hobbies, exercise, and spending time with loved ones. 
• Learn to disconnect: Physically and mentally disconnect from work after hours. Turning off notifications or setting limits on work-related activities in the evening.

People have the right to ask the question and favors of you, and you have the right to say no.

Some of us are taught early on that saying no to requests from those around us are acts of violation of the relationship but are actually nothing of the sort. It is our right and also our responsibility to draw my own boundaries, rather than expect another person to draw them for me. Author Leslie Jamison learnt this lesson over many years and recently wrote about the art of saying no.

She created a “Notebook of Noes.” On every page, she wrote down an opportunity she had decided to decline: a speaking gig, a magazine commission, an invitation from a friend. Then she drew a line across the page. Underneath, she wrote what saying no had made room for: more time with her partner. More time at home. More time to write. More time to call her mother and ask about her day, and tell her about hers.

What she wound up writing was the story of learning to live a different way. She realized that each time she uttered the word, the world continued just as it always had. The people she had been anxious about disappointing? They were OK. The fear of losing something for good? It often came back, or something else did.

More than anything, however, the Notebook of Noes helped her see absence as a form of presence — instead of lamenting the ghost limb of what she wasn’t doing, she could acknowledge that every refusal was making it more possible to do something else.

Read her full article her, and start your Notebook of Noes today!

While we know poor sleep can be associated with depression, anxiety, and other mental health concerns we often feel powerless to do anything about this. Christina Caron as a writer on the New York Times Well desk where she aims to share expert advice and reputable research in a useful and empathetic, helping others to live better lives. And, while she often write about depression, anxiety and other mental health problems, she also likes to focus on solutions.

In a recent piece she shared that Americans are chronically sleep deprived: one-third of adults in the United States say they get less than 7 hours a night. Teenagers fare even worse: About 70 percent of high school students don’t get enough sleep on school nights. She also shared that an analysis of 19 studies found that while sleep deprivation worsened a person’s ability to think clearly or perform certain tasks, it had a greater negative effect on mood. And when the National Sleep Foundation conducted a survey in 2022, half of those who said they slept less than 7 hours each weekday also reported having depressive symptoms. Some research even indicates that addressing insomnia may help prevent postpartum depression and anxiety. So what do we do about it?

Ms. Caron says “We’ve all heard how important it is to practice good sleep hygiene, employing the daily habits that promote healthy sleep. And it’s important to speak with your doctor, in order to rule out any physical problems that need to be addressed, like a thyroid disorder or restless legs syndrome. But this is only part of the solution. Conditions like anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder and bipolar disorder can make it harder to sleep, which can then exacerbate the symptoms of mental illness, which in turn makes it harder to sleep well.”

But what else is there? In addition she came across “Say Goodnight to Insomnia” by Gregg D. Jacobs. The book, which uses C.B.T.-I. techniques, helped Emily to reframe the way she thought about sleep. She began writing down her negative thoughts in a journal and then changing them to positive ones. For example: “What if I’m never able to fall asleep again?” would become “Your body is made to sleep. If you don’t get enough rest one night, you will eventually.” These exercises helped her stop catastrophizing.

It may also be helpful to check out some apps with empirical support for efficacy in treating sleep and mood issues, specifically CBT-i Coach.

Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love. But for many, the holiday can be stressful, especially for singles, those mourning lost love, or anyone who may be unhappy with the status of their relationship. One way to cope with this is to shift the love you offer this Valentine’s Dat from others back to yourself! The folks over at Embark Behavioral Health offer these 5 tips for shifting the focus back to you today:

1. Celebrate your most important relationship – the one you have with yourself! The relationship you have with yourself will be your longest relationship in life, so it’s important to treat yourself well. If you are not spending Valentine’s Day with a significant other, plan your own night. Think about what reenergizes you. Take a bath, spend some time with a good book or plan your own at-home spa night. Buy yourself chocolates or flowers. Valentine’s Day is a time to feel loved, so show yourself how much you love you.

2. Invest in all your relationships. Valentine’s Day is a day for love, but not just romantic love. Send Valentine’s Day cards to your family and friends, small gifts of love to your nieces and nephews, or maybe bake cookies for a neighbor. Make the day a day of gratitude where the people in your life feel your appreciation.

3. Practice mindfulness. Meditation and mindfulness can be found in a variety of forms. Find a mindfulness app or a free podcast, turn down the lines, and focus your attention on your breath and your emotions. If sitting quietly and journeying through meditation does not sound helpful, consider coloring in a calming book or writing a journal entry. Doing this regularly has been shown to reduce feelings of anxiety and stress and can help you cope if emotions become too strong.

4. Seek support if necessary. If you are really struggling this Valentine’s Day, speak to a trusted family member, friend or therapist, and get the help you need. If you consider harming yourself or others, contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline for immediate support by calling, texting, or chatting 988.

5. Turn off social media. You love to see your family and friends happy, but consider avoiding social media for the days leading up to Valentine’s Day. It can be difficult to see others having something you want and turning off social media will give you time to focus on what’s really important this holiday. Always remember that a person’s social media page is often their “highlight reel,” never showing the full story, and usually finding the best parts of their life to show the world.

This post will be published on the last day of January. Statistically speaking, many of us have already had to rethink or abandon our resolution for the new year. But is there another way of thinking about this?

Christina Caron, a writer, clinical researcher, and ethicist publishing at the New York Times, recently authored a piece examining why we get stuck and describing 5 ways we can try to get unstuck from common traps that can impede progress toward our goals. You can read her full article at NYTimes.com and these 5 tips are summarized below.

Do a ‘friction audit’: The friction audit is one way organizations weed out areas of inefficiency. Individuals can apply the same principles to their own lives by identifying the things that create obstacles and add complications or stress, Dr. Alter said. To get started, try asking: Am I repeating certain patterns that are unhelpful? Are there certain things I do regularly that I don’t enjoy? The next step is to either trim away or smooth out each friction point. Say you dread your commute but feel powerless to change it. Dr. Alter suggested asking yourself: “What’s the part that makes it most unappealing?” What specific changes can you make to address the problem? Will it help to listen to a great podcast or audiobook? If you drive, can you start a car pool with other co-workers? Is there a way to work from home more often?

Reframe negative thoughts: Maybe you engage in “catastrophizing,” or thinking the worst will happen. Or maybe you are overly harsh with yourself and have a case of “the shoulds,” as in: “I should have gotten more done at work,” even when you accomplished a good amount. Persistent thoughts like these can create stress and interfere with your goals, said Judy Ho, a clinical neuropsychologist and associate professor at Pepperdine University. Try to reframe your thinking, Dr. Ho suggested. For example, instead of “I’m going to fail at this project,” you can think, “I’m going to do the best I can, and if I’m struggling I will ask for help.” Finally, she said, aim to evaluate your thoughts objectively: “I’m having this thought. What’s the evidence for it? And what’s the evidence against it?”

Try ‘futurecasting’: “Imagine a future life where you are unstuck,” said Sarah Sarkis, a clinical psychologist and executive coach in Boston. What does it look like? How do you feel? Then think about the specific steps that would help you work toward that vision. Write those steps down — ideally by hand. This helps us commit to them, Dr. Sarkis said. And don’t wait until you feel “ready,” she added. Do at least one step each day if you can — but be kind to yourself if you cannot. If you skip a day or two, just start again tomorrow. “Paint the future that you’re seeking,” Dr. Sarkis said. “Map a plan to get there.”

Share your goal: Telling other people about your plans can also be helpful. Adam Cheyer, the co-creator of Siri and the vice president of A.I. Experience at Airbnb, has said that this was crucial to his success. “Just the force of putting the words into the world now makes you believe — makes you commit,” he told an audience at the University of California, Berkeley. The added benefit is that people may want to help you out. “Somehow, the universe will help you achieve this goal,” he said. “It’s been a huge, huge tool for me.”

Do something meaningful: Spending time on activities that align with your values “moves you forward if you feel stuck in completely unrelated domains of your life,” Dr. Alter said. When he was feeling unmotivated early in his teaching career, he came across a poster at his gym — a group was looking for volunteers to help raise money for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society by running in the New York City Marathon. It felt almost like fate, he said; one of his friends had died from leukemia years earlier. While training, he ended up making several friends. “I felt like a more productive person and it gave me confidence to tackle other areas of my life,” he said. “We need meaning more than ever when we’re feeling stuck.”

Matthew Solan is the Executive Editor of Harvard Men’s Health Watch, and Howard E. LeWine, MD is the Chief Medical Editor for Harvard Health Publishing. They recently collaborated on a piece for Harvard Health Publishing examining how mindfulness practices and similar interventions such as yoga may help people with diabetes control blood sugar. The pair cite a recent analysis of multiple studies, published in the Journal of Integrative and Complementary Medicine, that suggests how and why these might help.

The findings suggest that “those who participated in any of the mind-body activities for any length of time lowered their levels of hemoglobin A1C, a key marker for diabetes. On average, A1C levels dropped by 0.84%. This is similar to the effect of taking metformin (Glucophage), a first-line medication for treating type 2 diabetes, according to the researchers. A1C levels are determined by a blood test that shows a person’s average blood sugar levels over the past two to three months. Levels below 5.7% are deemed normal, levels from 5.7% to less than 6.5% are considered prediabetes, and levels 6.5% and higher are in the diabetes range.”

They suggest that one’s ” “ability to reduce stress may play a big part. “Yoga and other mindfulness practices elicit a relaxation response — the opposite of the stress response,” says Dr. Shalu Ramchandani, a health coach and internist at the Harvard-affiliated Benson-Henry Institute for Mind Body Medicine at Massachusetts General Hospital. “A relaxation response can lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol. This improves insulin resistance and keeps blood sugar levels in check, thus lowering A1C levels.” A relaxation response can help people with diabetes in other ways, such as by improving blood flow and lowering blood pressure, which protects against heart attacks and strokes.

You can read the full article at https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/a-mindful-way-to-help-manage-type-2-diabetes-202302062885

Marielle Segarra is a reporter and the host of NPR’s Life Kit, the award-winning podcast and radio show that shares trustworthy, nonjudgmental tips that help listeners navigate their lives. Ms. Segarra recently published an article looking at popular myths about sleep many of us believe and why we should think twice about them! You can read the full article at https://www.npr.org/2024/01/09/1196978496/debunking-popular-myths-about-sleep and have a look at some of the debunked items below.

MYTH 1: It doesn’t matter what time of day you sleep – “Unfortunately, the time of day does matter,” says Robbin. Our circadian rhythm — the internal circuitry that guides the secretion of the essential sleep hormone melatonin — is “significantly influenced by natural sunlight in our environment.” When the sun comes up and we go outside, that sunshine “stops the floodgates of melatonin and switches the ‘on’ phase of our circadian rhythm,” she says. “Conversely, going into a dark environment is what allows for the secretion of melatonin,” she adds.

MYTH 2: One night of sleep deprivation will have lasting effects – Your sleep isn’t going to be perfect every night, says Robbins. “Every now and then we might struggle. If we experience some stress during the day, our sleep suffers that night.” Sleep deprivation, or lack of sleep for at least 24 hours, can lead to short-term adverse effects such as a lapse in attention or an increase in resting blood pressure, write Robbins and her colleagues in their research paper. But they likely resolve with recovery sleep. So if you have an off night, don’t beat yourself up about it, says Robbins. Instead, try to get back on track with your normal sleep schedule as soon as possible.

MYTH 3: Being able to fall asleep anytime, anywhere is a good thing – “It’s a myth that a good sleeper would be able to hit the pillow and fall asleep right away,” says Robbins. “This is because sleep is a process.” It takes a well-rested, healthy person about 15 to 20 minutes or maybe a little bit longer to fall asleep, she adds. If you’re able to fall asleep immediately, it may be a sign of a chronically sleep-deprived state, write Robbins and her colleagues in their study. “If you were starved for food and sat down at any opportunity to eat a huge meal and ate voraciously, that would probably be a sign you’re not getting enough nutrition. It’s the same thing with sleep.”

MYTH 4: You can survive on less than 5 hours of sleep – Some people brag about needing only a few hours of sleep at night. That may come from the notion in our high-performing society that “well-rested people are lazy,” says Robbins — “which is a myth.” The reality is that adults need about 7 to 9 hours of sleep a night, she says. “That’s where we see the most optimal health [outcomes]: improved heart health, longevity and brain health into our older years.” Sleeping less than 7 hours a night can result in weight gain, obesity, diabetes and hypertension, according to a statement from the American Academy of Sleep Medicine and Sleep Research Society. It’s also associated with impaired immune function, impaired performance and increased errors — like “sending an email to the wrong person or entering incorrect numbers in a spreadsheet,” says Robbins. So if you can, try to hit that goal of sleeping 7 to 9 hours as many nights of the week as possible, she adds. You’ll know that you’ve hit your sweet spot when you “wake up feeling refreshed, have energy throughout the day and are not reaching for coffee or energy drinks in the afternoon.”

MYTH 5: Watching TV is a good way to relax before bedtime – Some people like to wind down before bed by watching TV. But that’s not a good idea, says Robbins. “You’re starting to associate your bed with things other than sleep.” Watching a show on a device that emits heat, like a laptop positioned on your stomach, can also deter your ability to fall asleep. “Keep the body cool as you approach bedtime,” she says. Your bedroom should ideally be under 70 degrees. Hotter temperatures can lead to “tossing and turning, sleep disruption and more nightmares.” In addition, watching upsetting programs like the nightly news could cause the stress hormone cortisol to spike in your body and “hinder your ability to power down,” she says. But if watching 20 or 30 minutes of a comforting TV show like Friends or Seinfeld is a big part of your sleep routine and helps you relax before bed, then “carry on,” she adds. If your sleep routine “isn’t broken, don’t worry about fixing it.”

Read more debunked myths at https://www.npr.org/2024/01/09/1196978496/debunking-popular-myths-about-sleep

Jancee Dunn is the columnist for The New York Times and who writes extensively on, among other things, wellness. As part of a series she called the 6-Day Energy Challenge, Ms. Dunn shared a few tips to light up the year ahead. You can read the full story at nytimes.com, or have a look at her 6 tips below:

1. Reframe bedtime as the beginning of the next day.

Julie Morgenstern, a productivity consultant and the author of “Time Management from the Inside Out,” said that when we consider sleep to be the last thing we do at night, we’re more likely to push it off — staying up to scroll TikTok or finish our to-do lists. Instead, she suggests thinking of a prompt bedtime as a way to get a head start on the upcoming day. Reframing rest as a new beginning rather than the tail end of the day can inspire better sleep habits, she said.

2. Try monotasking and time-blocking.

Most of us multitask throughout the day, said Cassie Holmes, a professor at U.C.L.A.’s Anderson School of Management and the author of “Happier Hour.” It’s not unusual to be sitting in a Zoom meeting while ordering groceries online and texting.

But this is not only exhausting, it’s also counterproductive, said Dr. Aditi Nerurkar, a physician at Harvard Medical School and author of the forthcoming book “The 5 Resets.” Human brains are wired to do one thing at a time, she added.

Instead, try time-blocking, said Dr. Holmes, in which you schedule uninterrupted time on your calendar for one task.

If you’re most productive in the morning, block that time to do your most important work, she suggested. And grouping similar activities avoids “transition costs,” the mental energy that we use when moving between different kinds of tasks, Dr. Holmes said. (For example, she told me that she does all of her household chores at one time — on Wednesday evening after her kids are in bed.)

3. Set digital boundaries.

We all know instinctively that constantly checking our phones can siphon our energy, so it’s important to put limits on the habit, said Cal Newport, an associate professor of computer science at Georgetown University and author of the upcoming book “Slow Productivity.”

He advised keeping your phone plugged in at a fixed location when you’re home in the evening, such as on a table in the hallway or in the kitchen. Then “if you need to look something up, or call someone, or check in on text messages, you have to go to where your phone is to do so,” he said.

If you want to listen to podcasts or audiobooks while doing chores, he added, use wireless earphones. “In this way, you are still able to get benefits from your phone,” he said, “but it is not with you as a constant companion. You cannot turn to it at the slightest moment of boredom.”

Immediately jumping to answer every text or phone call from a loved one can lead to burnout, added Nedra Tawwab, a psychotherapist and author of “Set Boundaries, Find Peace.” If you can, let the call go to voice mail. Leave the text unread. “You have the right to be unavailable,” she said.

Making New Year’s resolutions is a yearly tradition for many people. Yet, some of us fall short of reaching our goals. Below are seven tips to help you make and stick to your New Year’s resolutions. By following these suggestions, UC Davis Health experts say you can set yourself up for success.

1. Be picky about your resolutions

We may want to lose weight, eat more vegetables, volunteer more, quit smoking and spend more time with family. But experts say that’s too many goals to set for a New Year’s resolution. Pick one, maybe two things you’d like to focus on and go all in. This sets you up to achieve specific goals instead of feeling like a failure for hitting none of them.

2. Plan your resolution

It’s best to plan for your goal. Think through how you want to accomplish your resolution and how long it might take to reach your goal. For example, if your resolution is to quit smoking, research how long it takes an average person to kick the habit and the possible setbacks to expect. Proper planning will help ensure you can see it through to the end.

3. Set very specific goals

Many of us will set a New Year’s resolution like “exercise more.” But what does that really mean? Instead, you should be detailed in your resolution. It could be “exercise 30 minutes daily.” This gives you a measurable goal to reach each day that you can check off your list. It will help you feel more accomplished.

4. Don’t take on too much

Start small. Avoid setting an overly high expectation of yourself. If you’d like to lose weight, pick a small but realistic weight loss goal. Maybe that’s 10 pounds in two months. Once you reach that goal, you can think about losing another 5-8 pounds. Setting small goals can help you achieve big results.

5. Choose a new resolution

Avoid picking a goal that you’ve tried in the past but failed. You may set yourself up to fall into the same pitfalls that stopped you previously. Instead, pick something different where you can set up a better path to success. Or maybe you can modify a previous goal if that’s something you still want to accomplish.

6. Identify accountability partners for support

Lean on people – whether it’s a friend to keep your exercise resolution on track, or a spouse to help with healthier eating habits. We function better with community around us, motivating and reminding us why we chose that New Year’s resolution in the first place.

7. Give your resolution time to become a habit

New routines don’t just become habit overnight. A 2009 study found that on average, it takes 66 days to form a new habit. Be patient with yourself. If you have minor setbacks or don’t hit your goal one week, pick it back up the next week. Just keep working at your goal and eventually it can become second nature.

For many of us our relationship with the holidays can be complicated. At times it can be a joyful experience, at other times very sad, and much of the time some combination of complex emotions based on holidays passed. Recently Dr. Jill Suttie took some time to reflect on these challenges and what we can do to combat the holiday blues. You can read her full piece at https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/a_few_small_ways_to_fight_the_holiday_blues, and below are 5 quick tips to get you started.  

Add small, pleasant activities to your life. Making time every day to do something that brings you a little joy—whether that’s grabbing coffee at the local café, talking to a friend, quilting, or watching a sunset—can help balance the difficulties of the holidays with more positive experiences.

Move your body—even if it’s just a little. Exercise of any kind—walking, biking, weightlifting, dancing—is proven to be mood-boosting and is important for overall health, too.

Try meditating or practicing self-compassion. Making yourself more aware of your feelings and thoughts and learning to accept them (rather than just pushing them away) can help some people manage their moods. And, in the midst of your suffering, it can be good to remember that others feel this way, too, and to offer yourself kindness.

Connect with other people. Sometimes, we just need to stop avoiding social interactions and start connecting with people—friends, family, neighbors, colleagues, even strangers. Try calling an old friend, asking a colleague to coffee, waving at your neighbor, or greeting your local grocer or mail carrier. These small interactions can make you happier.

Give thanks for small blessings. Try starting a gratitude journal, where you write down a few small things you feel grateful for every day. Don’t try to be grateful for things you’re not happy about, though—you don’t have to paint a smiley face on difficult things. But look for the small, good things in your life—like a delicious cup of coffee, your pet’s soft fur, a beautiful winter sky, or your child’s goofy grin—and say thanks to yourself for those small blessings.

Francesca Coltrera, editor of the Harvard Health Blog, recently sat down with Wynne Armand, MD, associate director of the MGH Center for the Environment and Health and assistant professor at Harvard Medical School, to discuss the issues of environmental wellness and how to promote it this season. You can read the full article at the Harvard Health Blog, and their tips are summarized here below:

• Channel the 5 Rs:Refuse, reduce, reuse, repurpose, and only then recycle. Say no to excess. Comic sections from print newspapers or beautiful images from last year’s calendars or magazines make great envelopes and gift wrap. If you’re choosing clothes, consider buying upcycled clothing or at resale shops, as appropriate.
• Beware of greenwashing: Eco-consciousness is big business, and the benefits of what you buy may be questionable. If you have a small lawn that needs infrequent maintenance, says Dr. Armand, keeping a trusty (albeit gas-fueled) mower could be a better choice for the planet than buying an electric mower, when factoring in upstream costs of natural resources and the carbon footprint required to manufacture and ship the new — and toss out the not-so-old. (Alternatively, maybe it’s time to replant that lawn with wildflowers and vegetables?)
• Skip what’s not needed: A new backpack crafted from water bottles? Another sweater to add to a closetful? If there’s no apparent need, think twice about purchases.
• Double down on experiences and connection: Think concert tickets, museum passes, or energetic options like rock-climbing gym passes and outdoor skills classes. “Gifts of experience are great, especially for people who already have all they need. If you buy for two or try a skills swap you also get to enjoy that time together,” says Dr. Armand.

Around the globe, about 1 in 4 adults says they’re lonely. And the consequences of long-term social disconnection can be dire — everything from an increased risk of heart attacks to dementia and premature death.

But social isolation isn’t new or uncommon. And pangs of loneliness aren’t catastrophic. In fact, they’re nearly universal. What’s critical is how people respond to these feelings when they arise.

You can read the full story at NPR.org, but here are 5 tips to try to combat any loneliness you may be experiencing. 

1. Be curious: It’s easier to connect with people if you have shared interests or experiences, so start paying attention to what’s on your mind. What are you thinking about? What motivates you? What excites you? Nobel says knowing yourself can be a first step to bonding with others. “I think connecting authentically with other people is best done — and perhaps only done — if you have some kind of authentic connection with yourself,” Nobel says. If you know what’s meaningful or fun for you, it may lead you to an activity or creative outlet that connects you to people who share your interests.

2. Make something: “When we say make something, people immediately say, ‘Well, I’m not Picasso. I don’t know how to do a fancy painting,'” Nobel says. And, of course, you’re not! But the opportunities for creative expression are endless. “Do a doodle [or] a dance move,” Nobel suggests. Resurrect your grandma’s pie recipe, plant an herb garden, try a textile art. “Make something that puts your thoughts and feelings and vision about who you are and what matters into a tangible artifact that then can express those thoughts and feelings to others,” he says.

3. Take a risk by having conversations: “Share something about yourself,” Nobel says. “It doesn’t have to be the biggest, darkest secret of your life, but just something you think other people might find interesting and compelling, and see where it goes.” Even if you’re nervous about being judged or dismissed, putting yourself out there requires a bit of a risk, and it’s the first step to authentic connection. If you’ve made something — say your doodle or dance move or pie — this can be a catalyst to sharing. Simply explaining what you’ve made may make it easier to open up about who you are.

4. Find a group that matches your interests: Whether it’s volunteering for a cause you believe in or playing frisbee or Scrabble, try to find others who share your interests. And if you follow your natural curiosities, you may find something new. In his book, Nobel describes an online group that has a quirky shared interest: a fascination with brown bears in Alaska, which led to Fat Bear Week. “Share your thoughts and feelings in creative ways with other people who have that interest,” he says. And, hopefully, in those interactions you can begin to reveal yourself and share the unique things that matter to you. “Then, other people recognize that, share their story in return, and it’s like an electric circuit is connected,” he says.

5. Other people’s loneliness matters too: Loneliness can spiral. If the pangs of loneliness go unaddressed, people can end up in a world of hurt. “If you see someone who’s experiencing loneliness, tolerate the risk of asking them how they’re doing,” Nobel says. Be kind. Be willing to share something about your own experiences of loneliness, and take that risk. “Other people’s loneliness makes us lonely too,” he says.

Many of us will be observing a variety of holidays in the coming month. This often means gatherings and, even amongst the closest families and friend groups, some tension as popular yet uncomfortable topics arise.

With that, we offer some advice via Heidi Godman, Executive Editor of the Harvard Health Letter.

1. Recognize Vulnerability Factors: Some things predispose us to arguing. Common factors include financial worries that are more pronounced at the holidays, colder and darker climates, tracking modified work and school schedules, painful memories and reminders of loss, as well as behavioral factors like alcohol consumption. Gillis recommends recognizing your vulnerabilities and mitigating what you can while working toward coping with things beyond your control through regular self-care.
2. Plan Ahead: Gillis offers three ways to prepare ahead of time if arguments are possible. These include:
   • Set a time limit: If you’re hosting the event, let your guests know in advance what time the festivities will end.
   • Ask for help: To help you rein in reactivity, ask someone you trust to give you a sign if a conversation appears to be risky or escalating.
   • Schedule breaks: Think about when and how you’ll be able to take breaks during a gathering. This gives you an opportunity to check in with your emotions.
   • Prepare words of deflection: If you know loved ones might ask questions that will lead to conflict, have a prepared answer and practice it. “Make a statement acknowledging the person’s feelings and letting them know it’s best for the topic to change,” Gillis says. He suggests using a version of the following statement. “I appreciate your thoughts, but let’s talk about something we agree on or share.”
3. Learn to De-escalate:
   • Don’t take the bait: Don’t answer nosy questions if you don’t want to. “Change the subject. Move the focus back onto the other person and ask how they’re doing,” Gillis says. And if someone asks a loaded question (such as, “I suppose you voted for that candidate?”), use humor if appropriate (“Let’s talk about the Bruins instead”) and change the subject or the activity.
   • Adjust your mindset: “We have to accept that there are perspectives we don’t like and that engaging in conflict isn’t likely to change anyone’s perspective,” Gillis says. “You can choose not to participate in an unhealthy conversation.”
   • Respond with kindness: “If someone is angry with you, that suggests they really care what you think. Remember that and try to maintain a compassionate stance and response,” Gillis advises.
   • Remember why you’re there: The goal of the gathering is celebrating, not solving painful or controversial issues. “It’s the holiday. It doesn’t have to be the day when everyone puts their cards on the table to work out problems,” Gillis says. “Make it festive and enjoyable so you can feel that you created a pleasant holiday memory together.”

Ruchira Roy Chowdhury is a former business journalist turned health and wellness writer, meditation teacher, Ayurveda practitioner, and Art of Living volunteer. Like many, she extoles the importance of offering gratitude as part of wellness. She shares that “Practicing gratitude—not just on a particular day, but as often as we can—is said to have phenomenal benefits for our body, mind, and spirit. For example, research studies link gratitude with fewer signs of heart disease and demonstrate research that practicing gratitude can reduce stress levels, get feel-good hormones flowing, lower anxiety levels, activate parts of the brain associated with pleasure, and aid in good emotional and mental health.”

Below you will find her 10 recommended activities for this Thanksgiving, and you can read her full article at https://artoflivingretreatcenter.org/blog/10-gratitude-activities-to-do-this-thanksgiving/.

Perform Five Random Acts of Kindness

Studies suggest that kind people have 23% lower cortisol (stress hormone) release and age slower than the average population. Engaging in kindness also produces feel-good hormones like oxytocin and endorphins that reduce pain, help you live longer, activate the brain’s pleasure and reward centers, and make you as happy as the receiver of the kindness, if not more.

Sometimes when the pressures of our daily grind take over, we might find it challenging to engage in all these activities. But as a group or a family, you may find it easier to execute, fun, and emotionally rewarding. Performing these random acts may also encourage the introverts in the family to participate and enjoy activities they would never think of doing on their own! These do not have to be elaborate, but they must be spontaneous for these activities to be fun and meaningful. Some of these activities could include

• Volunteer at a shelter
• Check with a shelter about their immediate needs and organize the material for them
• Pay for the person behind you—a coffee or a meal
• Shovel snow for a neighbor
• Make time with elders who live alone. Invite them over for a meal and a fun evening. Ask them about their life stories and let them share their happiest memories.

Cook a Meal, Feed the Needy

In this, each person in the family can prepare one dish, not more, to feed at least ten people. Play music while you cook. Designate the responsibilities of getting vegetables, spices, paper plates, containers, organizing knives, chopping boards, and wrapping foils among the members. This makes every person feel involved.

Then, load up all the food in a car, and take it to a street corner where you may find people who could use a sumptuous meal. Spend time with them, sing, dance, and share a meal. Let this not be a once-a-year activity. As they say, if it makes you happy, keep doing it.

Create a Gratitude Board

The task here is simple. As family members go about their day, they must write down five things/people/situations they are grateful for on colorful paper and stick it on the gratitude board (this can be made out of cardboard, poster board, or using the family bulletin board). This board can stay up throughout the year—a sweet reminder of how abundant and fulfilled our lives are, even when we don’t feel it.

A Day of Giving Joy

Let’s make these activities slightly more interesting. The idea is to bring a smile to the face of a certain number of people—each person can decide what that number is for them. You can do anything—dance, sing, perform, write a poem, or share a compliment. Nurturing positivity in the environment is much like being in the perfume business; the fragrances, the joy, and the happiness of uplifting someone invariably rub off on you. As you get together for dinner, share what you did and, more importantly, how you felt. Just remembering the feeling of having done something nice for a stranger can bring a sense of gratitude.

Share Your Gratitude Story

Don’t take this process lightly—it can fill you with strength, positivity, and gratefulness. It will bring everyone closer and strengthen your bonds with each other. During this process, you may feel emotional or vulnerable. Let the emotions flow out. Know this is your safe space. Build a safe space for everyone to share openly, wholeheartedly, and without judgment.

Every person will have 5–10 minutes to think of one or more stories/incidents/blessings they received this year that they are grateful for. Remember, this is not about sharing a gratitude list. Here, the idea is to pick a story/incident and flesh out all the details about how it transpired—everything that went behind receiving it and how you feel about having it now.

Consciously reliving a pleasant memory replicates the neural activity as if it were happening in the present, which can reproduce the positive feelings associated with the incident.

Have a Gratitude Bowl

You can purchase a bowl for the occasion or use a bowl handed down from parents or grandparents. Next, everyone will drop in an object they are grateful for or an object that represents something they are thankful for. It could be a key chain, a wedding ring, a book, a pen—anything that is special and makes you feel grateful. Then, at dinner, share why this object is special to you. What makes you grateful for it?

One Thing I Did Not Notice

Email or DM people for one thing they are grateful for that they took for granted. The responses could be the sunrise—a good night’s sleep, a co-worker who always has their back, or a spouse who cooks like magic! You can also help out with generic prompts to make it easier.

Pay a Compliment

Write the names of everyone attending Thanksgiving dinner on pieces of paper and put them into a bowl. Each person picks a name and as you go around the table, you will compliment the person whose name you choose.

You must mention one or more qualities you like in this person and share why you are grateful for them. Then, if you wish, you can go and hug this person. This activity may seem time-consuming, but it will leave everyone feeling appreciated, loved, and grateful for each other.

Say a Prayer

While we spend time with people we love, we often forget the power of faith that has sometimes helped us brave the wildest storms of life. So before starting dinner, try a few minutes of silence.

Use this time to think of all the blessings life has offered and in the heart of silence, share a quiet prayer of gratitude to the divine or any other power you believe in. Gurudev says gratitude is a powerful magnet to bring in more of what we have. The more abundant and generous we feel, the more reasons we attract to feel that way into our lives. This can also be a poignant time to remember the lives and contributions of people who are no longer with us and whom we miss every day. We can pray for their onward journey, wishing them peace, love, and freedom.

Watch a Film Together

And finally, as you end the day, dim the lights and watch a classic heart-warmer like It’s A Wonderful Life, Life is Beautiful, Freedom Writers, Pursuit of Happiness, Bambi, the Kung Fu Panda series, Inside Out with your family—holding them closer than ever.

Whether you participate in various activities or do nothing but spend time with each other, whatever you do and wherever you are, do not miss a chance to be grateful in life.

The below is an excerpt from NPR’s wellness blog. Read the full piece at https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2023/11/06/1210507968/thai-chi-word-games-cognition-mentally-sharp-meditation-motion

There’s plenty of evidence that exercise can help protect our bodies and brains. And as we age, daily movement doesn’t need to be super intense. In fact, a new study finds tai chi, a slow-moving form of martial arts, can help slow cognitive decline and protect against dementia.

The study found that people who practiced a simplified form of tai chi called Tai Ji Quan twice a week for about six months improved their score by 1.5 points. This increase may not sound like a lot, but study author Dr. Elizabeth Eckstrom says “you’ve basically given yourself three extra years” of staving off decline. The study is published in Annals of Internal Medicine.

Her theory on why tai chi is effective is that it combines the memorization of the movements, known as forms, almost like a dance choreography. “So, you’re getting the physical activity, plus the memory piece,” she says.

Cooper recently relaunched one of it’s physical activity initiatives, now known as the Cooper Climbers Club (formerly the Zenith Climb Challenge). You can read full details at https://wellness.cooperhealth.org/ccc/, but in brief its goal is to connect all Cooper team members to climb as many stairs as they can in a month – getting healthy together!

But getting our steps in every day can sometimes be challenging. To that end, Jennifer Garefino, Cooper Operational Excellence Specialist and CCC founding member, recently passed along the following article outlining how to try to get steps in, as well as scientifically backed benefits of doing so. More details available below and at ABCNews.com.

Many people fear a long life span, e.g.  living to be 100, due to possible loneliness, poor health, and solitudeI. Peter Attia, physician and best-selling author, acknowledges that many of those fears are valid and so he believes in maximizing what he calls “health span” instead. Attia’s focus is on addressing “the Four Horsemen of Chronic Disease” — cardiovascular disease, cancer, cognitive diseases (such as Alzheimer’s) and metabolic diseases (such as Type 2 diabetes). Below are some guidelines he provides for achieving this, and you can read the full article at https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2023/10/13/peter-attia-longevity-advice/.

First, Be Specific: the greater the specificity with which you train for your physical goals, the more likely you are to achieve them. Attia asks patients to think specifically about what they want to be able to do when they are in their 80s or older, and to start training for that when they are in their 40s or 50s or 60s, setting milestones along the way. For example, if you want to lift your great-grandchild when you’re 80, you need to, in your 50s, 60s, and 70s, focus on hip flexibility and abdominal and spinal stability that will sustain you to be able to pick up at 30 pound weight at that age. 

Second, Focus on Moving: Attia says “If you’re starting from zero, just getting to 90 minutes a week of exercise will result in a 15 percent reduction in all-cause mortality [including the Four Horsemen]. That’s dramatic. I mean, we don’t have drugs that can reduce 15 percent all-cause mortality across the board. And the good news is it’s not just like this abstract thing of “we’re adding a couple of years to your life.” No, no. You’re going to feel better in three months.”

Life Kit is a podcast produced by NPR. They believe everyone needs a little help being a human. From sleep to saving money to parenting and more, they talk to the experts to get the best advice out there. Recently, three of their contributors, Becky Harlan, Sylvie Douglis, and Andee Tagle asked professional advice-givers the question “What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?” Below are their answers, but feel free to read the full article at https://www.npr.org/2023/02/19/1157287474/best-life-advice-tips

• ‘There’s more than one way to do something’ – I remember scrubbing a pan when I was maybe 8 or 9 years old. There was something stuck on the pan that wouldn’t come off, and I just kept scrubbing it. My dad stopped me, grabbed a fork and just scraped it off. And he looked at me and said, “Jody, there’s more than one way to do something.” From that moment on, I’ve been looking at every problem in my life like how can I do this a different way? — Jody Adewale, clinical psychologist.
• ‘The hate will come at the same rate as the love’ – The best advice I ever received was that the hate will come at the same rate as the love. There will always be people who are so dissatisfied with themselves that they have to project that onto other people. And instead of trying to focus on the negativity, I tend to try to put more energy into the people and the things that are showing me love, support and good energy. — Kiaundra Jackson, marriage and family therapist
• ‘Do smaller loads of laundry’ – I used to work at a small grocery store, and before moving away to college, I asked the store manager, “What’s the No. 1 thing that I need to know about going away to college?” And he said, “Do smaller loads of laundry. Your clothes will come out cleaner.” — Shaun Galanos, a relationship coach and host of The Love Drive podcast
• ‘Being vulnerable means taking off our armor’ – I was talking with my therapist about how I didn’t mind being vulnerable as long as I knew the other person would be warm, that they wouldn’t judge and all of that. And she said, “that’s not vulnerable. Being vulnerable means taking off our armor and going in not knowing how we’ll be received, but putting ourselves out there a little bit anyway.” — Tania Israel, a professor of psychology at the University of California, Santa Barbara
• ‘Go where the energy goes’ – The best piece of advice I ever received was “Go where the energy goes.” What has good vibes? What makes you feel good about yourself? Where is that good energy? Head in that direction. — Betty Who, pop star and the host of the reality dating series, “The One That Got Away”
• ‘It’s not all about you’ – The best piece of advice I was given was, “Shanita, it’s not all about you.” When I’m in a situation where a tough decision has to be made and it feels personal, I remind myself it’s not all about me, and that I’m one piece of a bigger universe that’s at play right now. — Shanita Williams, career coach and the author of Feedback Mentality
• Expect yourself to change – We all change every five years or so. More or less, we have to expect ourselves to change, and we have to expect people in our lives to change. That little piece of advice has given me a lot of space for room and for growth. — Lindsay Bryan-Podvin, a financial therapist and host of the Mind Money Balance podcast
• ‘When people show you who they are, believe them’ – When people show you who they are, believe them. Far too often, I have seen us try to recreate who we want people to be, only to later find out they are exactly what they’ve been demonstrating. — Nedra Glover Tawwab, licensed therapist and the author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace.
• Pace out your self-improvement – Don’t be so overly involved with your self-improvement. Accept the gifts and abilities that you have, and don’t spend so much time trying to develop new ones that you sacrifice your gifts. Be yourself. — David Defoe, a psychotherapist who specializes in depression, anxiety and grief
• It’s OK to say ‘I don’t know’ – Something I’ve benefited a lot from is telling yourself, “I don’t know. And that’s exactly where I should be when I take that first step.” I’m as ready as I ever will be. I’m going to do it, and I’ll know more after. — Becky Kennedy, clinical psychologist and author of Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be

Racing thoughts at bedtime can be a real sleep disruptor, leading to intermittent wakefulness throughout the night but luckily there are ways to clear your head before you lay it down on your pillow.

Recently, the folks at Calm looked at why this happens. Common causes include Life stressors: Whether it’s stress from work, family, or financial situations, daytime worries have a habit of reappearing at night. Anxiety and panic disorders: For some, these continuous thoughts might be a symptom of a bigger issue, like an anxiety disorder. Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD): OCD might cause recurring, unwanted thoughts. Caffeine: That afternoon coffee might be the reason you’re awake at night. Caffeine can stay in the system for hours, preventing your brain from relaxing for sleep. Fear of sleeplessness: If you’re worried about not getting enough sleep, this sleep anxiety can make you hyper-aware, with thoughts zooming around your alert brain. Over time, this cycle can lead to insomnia.

Want to learn more about what to about it? Check out Calm’s full article and practices at https://blog.calm.com/blog/racing-thoughts-at-night

Bots and corporations excluded, there are 4.9 billion social media users globally, meaning 60.49% of the global population use social media. That is unsurprising given that there are nitch networks for just about everyone in addition the the giants like Facebook and Twitter (now X). But what is social media usage doing for our wellness? It may differ by generation and, in some regards, we are not entirely sure.

Take adolescents as an example. The New York Times recently summarized the state of the science for this group and, yes, social media is of concern because the rapidly developing adolescent brain may be uniquely vulnerable to what the platforms have to offer. But the science is not nearly as settled as some of the most dire headlines would make it seem. Biologically, during adolescence, neuronal signals do not always travel through the brain rapidly enough to help kids regulate their emotions and impulses as mylnation continues to occur, and likewise, the prefrontal cortex, responsible for tasks like weighing, consequences and planning is still maturing. But extant researcher has yet to show any kind of consistent causal connection between social media use and poor mental health outcomes is difficult as a function of their unique needs or biological vulnerabilities. So why are mental health-related E.R. visits are up, and why is anxiety skyrocketing as social media bombards kids with unrealistic academic and health messages, dangerous and deadly challenges, and disinformation? As ever, the message is complicated.

Like many things, social media is not inherently good or bad. Rather, the changes happening in adolescents’ brains may make them particularly drawn to these platforms and more susceptible to the potential pitfalls. When tweens start obsessing about their social lives — talking endlessly about their peers and who sits at the “popular table” — that is a sign that they are maturing normally. But now, adolescents are experiencing those changes in an online world that is creating the opportunity for reward and social feedback incessantly, almost 24/7. And that’s a combination to be concerned about for teens.

The moral of the story? It is important to talk to our children early and often about the function that social media is playing in their lives but not just emphasizing the negatives. Encourage them to build meaningful connections, but also encourage them to diversify how they are connecting on and offline. How do we promote teen wellness in the digital age? Here are some tips offered by Children’s Hospital of Orange County:

• Encourage teens to be involved in a variety of free-time activities, like spending time with friends, joining clubs or after-school activities, and exercising.
• Encourage your teen to be physically active every day and get enough sleep.
• Turn off all screens during meals and at least an hour before bedtime.
• Keep devices with screens out of your teen’s bedroom after bedtime and don’t allow a TV in your teen’s bedroom.
• Spend time together with your teen watching TV, playing games or going online. Use this time as a chance to talk and learn together.
• Teach your teen about safe Internet and social media use. Make sure they know the dangers of sharing private information online, cyberbullying or sexting.
• Set a good example. Turn off TVs and other screens when not in use. Don’t leave screens on in the background. Turn off or mute your phone when you’re not using it and during family times, like meals.

Coffee is everywhere at Cooper and society at large. In Starbucks, break rooms, public spaces, the delicious drink has been ubiquitous throughout human history. But how much is too much? Coffee is linked with lots of health benefits, but there are some risks to consider from the caffeine it contains.

Alice Callahan at the New York Times recently wrote a piece exploring the pros and cons of coffee consumption.

Most adults can safely consume 400 milligrams of caffeine — or the amount in about four eight-ounce cups of brewed coffee or six espresso shots — per day, according to the Food and Drug Administration. If you’re pregnant, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists recommends no more than 200 milligrams.

“Overall, coffee does more good than bad,” said Rob van Dam, a professor of exercise and nutrition sciences at the Milken Institute School of Public Health at George Washington University. But between your breakfast brew, lunchtime latte and afternoon espresso, is it possible to have too much? And if so, how can you tell?

Having too much caffeine can cause a racing heart, jitteriness, anxiousness, nausea or trouble sleeping, said Jennifer Temple, a professor of exercise and nutrition sciences at the University at Buffalo. It can also lead to headaches, acid reflux and, at high enough doses, even tremors or vomiting, said Dr. Adrienne Hughes, a medical toxicologist and an assistant professor of emergency medicine at Oregon Health and Science University.

Caffeine overdoses typically result from taking in too much caffeine from concentrated forms, such as powders or supplements, in a short period of time, she said. And in most cases, you would need to consume at least 10,000 milligrams of caffeine — or the equivalent of about 50 to 100 cups of coffee, depending on the strength — for it to be potentially fatal, Dr. Hughes said.

That said, if you’re prone to abnormal heart rhythms, or if you notice palpitations after having caffeine, you may be more sensitive to its effects and should not consume more than you’re used to, or ingest large doses from concentrated sources, like supplements or energy shots, Dr. Hughes said. And having too much caffeine while pregnant is associated with an increased risk of miscarriage, Dr. van Dam said.

At the end of the day, “you just kind of have to listen to your body,” Dr. Temple said. “If you’re starting to feel nauseous or jittery or anxious, maybe cut back,” she said. “If it’s affecting your sleep, cut back.”

Read the full article at https://www.nytimes.com/2023/09/26/well/eat/coffee-benefits-caffeine-risks.html

Jancee Dunn is the Well columnist for the New York Times and, for over two decades, has written about health for a variety of publications in addition to being a New York Times bestselling author of nine books. Recently she turned her attention to a common problem: how to stop thinking about work all the time. Rumination is a common issue, whether our focus is on work, relational problems, geopolitics, or anything else under the sun. Her full article can be read at https://www.nytimes.com/2023/07/21/well/mind/work-stress-burnout-strategies.html and some tips for battling this phenomenon are listed below:

Keep a Journal – Experts suggest keeping a “rumination journal” to record the hours they devote to chewing over work issues each week. This can help orient you to how much time you are really dedicated to ruminating, which one can think of as hours as overtime for which you’re not getting paid.

Set Guardrails – Establish a clear line when your workday ends, and be strict about maintaining it. Ritualize your transition from job to home by changing your clothes, putting on music or taking a walk. Doing so not only erects a psychological boundary but it can also make us more likely to use that time to rest or connect with people in real life. Keep in mind that technology “empowers rumination” so if possible turn off your notifications for email and workplace messaging apps after a certain hour; if you must check them, do so at a designated time. And set a timer, so you don’t spend the rest of the night responding to messages.

Turn Ruminative Thoughts into Productive Ones – There’s evidence that ruminating about work during leisure time can affect our emotional well-being, but thinking about creative solutions to problems does not. So when you’re stewing ask yourself: “Is there something I can do about this situation? And if so, what?” Frame specific concerns as problems to be solved. Are you brooding that a new hire is performing better than you? Ask yourself what that person is doing well, and what he or she is not doing that you are.

Learn the Difference Between Unplugging and Recharging – Unplugging at the end of the day will not stop rumination, but recharging will. A recharging activity leaves you feeling energized mentally, and pleased with yourself for doing it. That can include activities like working out, crafting or meditation.

Distract Yourself – Distraction techniques have been shown to break the rumination cycle. If you can’t find a way to solve an issue doing something that requires focus, such as a crossword puzzle or a word game, can help. Or, if it’s the middle of the night, try a memory exercise, like naming every teacher you can remember from kindergarten on up.

Martinus Evans is a fitness influencer and the founder of the radically inclusive Slow AF Run Club. He calls himself proudly slow and has taken great pride in proving wrong the people who have underestimated him. Told by his doctors to lose weight or die, Martinus Evans decided to do something no one thought his body was capable of – run a marathon. His new book empowers would-be-runners to lace up, no matter what their size.

Since a doctor’s appointment over a decade ago where he was confronted with this, Evans has founded the Slow AF Run Club, a community of over 10,000 members worldwide, has been featured by the likes of The New York Times and Men’s Health and has even appeared on the cover of Runner’s World US. With 84K followers on Instagram – @300poundsandrunning – he’s become a voice for ‘back-of-the-packer’”, encouraging and empowering those who perhaps thought that running wasn’t really for them and campaigning around issues related to size-inclusivity.

Read more about Martinus’ inspirational story at https://www.runnersworld.com/uk/health/weight-loss/a44282905/martinus-evans/

Many of us have a near-constant internal monologue running in our head. Sometimes the content is as dull as listening to someone read the dictionary, other times it is joyful or entertaining, but all too often the content contains harsh criticisms toward ourselves. As Ethan Kross noted in a recent interview with NPR’s Life Kit this kind of negative self-talk can get in the way of creating strong relationships with ourselves and others. Researchers of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) have studied this phenomenon for some time, and much of CBT focuses on techniques such as Socratic questioning to begin to address this. In the above linked article, Kross and others summarize several of this techniques in six tips for quieting that harsh critic, summarized below.

• Get Perspective – Assessing a situation from different angles can help you avoid the unproductive thought loop that can prevent our ability to move on. Try coming up with as many different explanations for something that is bothering you, regardless of how unlikely they initially feel, then way the evidence for and against each.
• Be Your Own Best Friend – The next time you’re tempted to disparage your looks or criticize your decision-making, ask yourself: would I talk this way to my best friend? If not, practice using the same kind and gentle language that we use with the people we love, because we’re also people who we hopefully love, right?
• SIFT – The acronym SIFT (source, impact, frequency and trends), developed by research scientist Mike Caulfield, can help you figure out whether you should listen to feedback from others or just ignore it. Say someone calls you out for poor email communication. Did that criticism come from someone you trust and value? Is it demanding a big change or a minor tweak to your behavior? Is this something you’ve heard from other people? And have you heard this from different communities in your life, or just at work? Consider these points before deciding to act.
• Focus – The mind is a tricky thing. It can lead us to fixate, for example, on one bad aspect of a year-end review from a manager instead of their positive feedback. This is called “negativity bias,” says Yale psychology professor Woo-kyoung Ahn, and it illustrates our propensity to weigh negative events a lot more heavily than an equal amount of positive events. This “thinking error,” she says, is dangerous because it can lead us to make the wrong choices. Find out how to counteract this bias here.
• Talk It Out – If someone you love is causing you distress, don’t be afraid to communicate with them about it, says psychologist Adia Gooden. It may help clear up any assumptions you may have and offer new perspectives about the incident. For example, instead of jumping to conclusions if your partner is always on their phone at dinnertime, you might say to them: “Because you’re always on your phone, I feel like you don’t think I’m worthy of your attention,” says Gooden. “And they might say, ‘Oh, shoot, I didn’t mean to be on my phone. Or, you know, I’ve been kind of frustrated with you and I didn’t know how to bring it up. So I’ve been looking at my phone instead of making eye contact. Let’s talk.”
• Focus on Growth – Instead of defining yourself by your failures or limitations, consider every loss as part of your learning process. This idea, developed by psychologist Carol Dweck, is called a “growth mindset,” and it can help bolster that internal dialogue when you’ve taken an L and can’t stop kicking yourself about it. Let’s say you lose a round of pool. Those with a fixed mindset, she says, think that talent and intelligence are static: I give up, I’ll never get good at this! Growth-minded people believe that effort can lead to mastery: Hey! I’m getting a lot better at putting some power behind the ball! It’s all about finding the right perspective.

Matthieu Ricard is an ordained Buddhist monk and an internationally best-selling author of books about altruism, animal rights, happiness and wisdom. Recently, he was interviewed by David Marchese at the New York Times interviewed him. While you can read the full piece at here, within the article Ricard shares some rules for a fulfilled life, however one of the most meaning exchanges between Ricard and Marchese is summarized here after Marchese asks if Ricard, a peaceful monk, ever feels despair:

Marchese: “Your response to my question about despair was, “There’s no point,” which suggests that you’re making conscious choices about your feelings — whether to follow them or not — based on their perceived value. That’s not something everyone is able to do. Short of also becoming a Buddhist monk, how might other people start developing the ability to control their emotions like you can?”

Ricard: “Emotions are just like any characteristic of our mental landscape: They can change. We can become more familiar with their process; we can catch them early. It’s like when you see a pickpocket in a room: Aha, be careful. Twenty-five hundred years of contemplative science and 40 years of neuroplasticity — everything tells you we can change. You were not born knowing how to write your columns. You know it’s the fruit of your efforts. So why would major human qualities be engraved in stone from the start? That would be a total exception to every other skill we have. That’s why I like the idea of Richard Davidson’s that happiness is a skill. It can be deeper, more present in your mental landscape. We deal with our mind from morning to evening, but we spend very little attention on improving the way we translate outer conditions, good or bad, into happiness or misery. And it’s crucial, because that’s what determines our day-to-day experience of the world!”

Maureen Salamon is the Executive Editor at Harvard Women’s Health Watch. She recently penned a piece looking at the importance of validation. As she writes, validation is fundamental to a type of talk therapy called dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), which is geared toward people who experience emotions very intensely. Many people use some aspects of validation in everyday communications with family members, friends, and colleagues, but usually fall short, Jordan-Arthur says. As she said, people “jump into problem-solving, saying something validating, but then immediately tell the person what they should have done or what they should do next,” she says. “They don’t let that validation sink in. It’s like putting on anti-itch cream and then immediately washing it off.”

So how can you offer good validation? Salamon suggests starting with the following for validating another person:

• Give them your full attention.
• Make eye contact and nod appropriately, saying “uh huh” while showing your interest.
• Reflect what you’ve heard by restating their message, such as, “It sounds like you feel worse about this situation today than yesterday.”
• Verbalize the unspoken, such as, “I hear that you feel you can’t get anything done because of this obstacle,” or “It sounds like you’re frustrated.”
• Give it time to work! Be sure to let the validation sink in before attempting to problem- solve.

Validation is an approach that can help people feel heard and understood, validation is especially useful when navigating emotionally charged situations. Validating someone shows you understand their feelings and point of view, even when you disagree. It establishes trust, helping the other person feel supported and open to discussing solutions.

Ready to learn more? Read Salamon full article at Harvard Health Publishing.

Christina Caron is a reporter for the Well section at The New York Times, covering mental health and the intersection of culture and health care. Recently she wrote a pice discussing how cultivating a grateful outlook, and taking a few minutes a day to count our blessings, can reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety, increase self-esteem, and improve life satisfaction. Noting that, she asked her readers to tell her how they practice gratitude, and curated the nearly 800 responses she. received. Some of the best are highlighted below, but be sure to read the whole list and her entire article at nytimes.com. Then ask yourself, which of these might you be able to apply today?

• Record it. More than 100 respondents said that they use journals or apps like Day One, Gratitude Plus and Flavors of Gratefulness to keep track of the good things in their lives. “The best thing my therapist taught me was to record my ‘win’ every day,” said Elizabeth Chan, 35, who lives in San Antonio. “Doing so helped me develop my optimism muscles, which had atrophied for decades.”
• Walk It. Deborah Rathbun, 66, from Sharon, Conn., goes on a walk several times a week, always focusing on the beauty that surrounds her: “the blue of the sky, the leafy green trees, how the flag is moving nobly in the breeze, a drizzle that’s badly needed for the gardens.” Next, she reflects on the last 24 hours and thinks about the “very small things that went well or I’m pleased about.” It might be a friendly or funny exchange with a cashier or the thoughtful text she finally sent to a friend.
• Give thanks as a group. Louise Miller, 52, from Boston, said she writes her gratitude list in a journal and then texts the list to a group of friends who also share theirs. “They almost always include something that inspires more gratitude in me — it’s contagious!” she said. Zach Ford, 33, a Brooklyn resident, said he has been following a near-daily gratitude practice since his first weeks of sobriety about six years ago. Each morning he shares his gratitude list in an email with a handful of others.

Research has shown it to help with everything from anxiety and depression to better sleep, lower stress levels and chronic pain relief. In a recent New York Times article, health and wellness writer Holly Burns reviewed why incorporating a mindfulness practice into your daily life can be beneficial, and how to get started.

She suggests starting small, with five minutes of breathing exercises to calm and focus the mind every morning. Not only will it “set the tone for the day,” said Dr. Eva Tsuda, a meditation instructor at the UMass Memorial Health Center for Mindfulness, but meditating earlier may make the practice easier to stick to.

Burns offers a few additional suggestions and things to consider as you get started. These include deciding on a specific, quiet place where you are unlikely to be interrupted. Once you do so, set a timer, again, for as little as 5 minutes and go in without expectations of “success.” Just noticing what that 5 minutes is like is a good start. If you need some place to rest your focus during these 5 minutes, see if you can simply describe your breath or what you are noticing via your 5 senses. A grounding exercise is a good place to start. You can read her full article at https://www.nytimes.com/2023/07/21/well/mind/meditation-morning-practice.html. Or, if you are looking for some help getting started, try a different, brief exercise via any one of many playlists available on YouTube.

This year’s Pride Month spans from Thu, Jun 1, 2023 – Fri, Jun 30, 2023. Born out of the Stonewall riots, this is meant to be a time dedicated to celebrate and commemorate the ongoing work and legacy of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people everywhere. Year round, and especially this month, Pride Month is meant to both honor the movement for LGBT rights and celebrates LGBT culture. To that end, the wellness blog will focus this month on content relevant to promoting wellness in the LGBTA+ community, and we start with a story published by Margot Harris at NAMI entitled “Being Queer is Joyful,” which describes her coming out story, a discussion of privilege, and her hope the future. Please be sure to read this piece at https://www.nami.org/Blogs/NAMI-Blog/June-2023/Being-Queer-is-Joyful.

While it may seem like we just rang in the new year, the unofficial start of summer is slowly creeping up on us. And while you might not think Minneapolis when you think summer, the good folks at the University of Minnesota have put together some great tips for a season of wellness! These tips are summarized below, but be sure to check out their full summer of wellness site at https://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/summer-wellbeing.

Explore new foods: Expand your palate by trying new recipes that include seasonal foods you can’t get year-round. You can visit local farmer’s markets for fresh ingredients, or harvest your own veggies at home. Take advantage of the long sunny evenings while they’re here and grill healthy options outside. [Learn More]

Exercise outdoors: If the weather is pleasant and you have the ability to get outside, do it. If you’re tired of going for a jog, think outside the box of a traditional workout. Mowing the lawn with a push mower, gardening, or swimming at a local pool are all great ways to move your body while soaking up some sunshine. [Learn More]

Get better rest: Long, sunny days may mean you stay up later than usual, and hot, sticky weather can also prevent you from falling into a deep slumber. Make your bedroom summer-friendly by keeping it cool with a fan or open window (experts recommend about 68 degrees Fahrenheit), hanging light-blocking curtains, and relaxing before bed by putting away your phone and reading a few pages of a new novel. [Learn More]

Catch up with loved ones: This summer, double your wellbeing by spending time with the people you care about while doing nature-based activities you can’t do during colder months, such as visiting a beach or eating dinner outside. Funnel your energy toward staying connected even when your schedules don’t match up—if you go out of town, send handwritten postcards to let friends know you are thinking of them. [Learn More]

Ease stress with mindfulness: Even if you go on vacation to a tropical destination, even if you plan on summer to be completely relaxing, there will undoubtedly be situations that cause stress. But that’s not a problem. Rather than putting an expectation on the season to bring a sense of calm, cultivate it yourself. Being in nature is one of the best ways to unwind from stress. Take a few minutes each day—maybe right when you wake up in the morning—to step outside and simply enjoy the outdoors as a child would. Drop thoughts of any plans for the day and simply notice the green of the grass and trees, the feeling of a breeze on your skin, and the sound of birds and other animals. [Learn More]

The New York Times’ Christina Caron recently published a piece reviewing advice given by the Surgeon General, Dr. Vivek Murthy, on how to build meaningful social connections in an increasingly lonely world.

Americans have become increasingly lonely and isolated, and this lack of social connection is having profound effects on our mental and physical health, the surgeon general warned in an advisory on Tuesday.

Advisories from America’s top doctor are typically reserved for public health challenges that require immediate attention. This is the first time one has been used to highlight the issue of loneliness.

More than half of Americans are lonely, according to a 2021 poll, which also found that young adults are almost twice as likely to report feeling lonely as those over age 65.

So what can one do? Dr. Murthy’s advice is summarized here, if you interested, learn more at https://www.nytimes.com/2023/05/02/well/mind/loneliness-isolation-surgeon-general.html

Reconnect with people. To get started, take 15 minutes each day to contact a friend or a relative. Put a reminder in your calendar, if needed, so that it remains a priority. Your relationships cannot thrive unless they are nurtured.

Minimize distractions. How often have you caught yourself looking at your phone while someone is speaking with you? What about during meals? Do other people do this when speaking with you? For more satisfying quality time, put the devices down and give your full attention.

When people call, pick up the phone. Imagine your phone ringing. You see it’s a call from your best friend from college whom you haven’t caught up with in a long time. But instead of accepting the call, you decide not to answer. You tell yourself you’ll call back later when you have more time to chat.

Serve others. Studies show that volunteering can ease feelings of loneliness and broaden our social networks. Consider donating your time to an organization in your community, or offering to help your family, co-workers or friends.

Get help. Finally, tell someone if you are struggling with loneliness. It could be a relative, a friend, a counselor or a health care provider.

What does optimism do for us? In a study conducted by Ciro Conversano and colleagues at the University of Siena in Italy evidence was presented that of a strong relation between optimism wellbeing. Through the use of specific coping strategies, optimism influences both mental and physical well-being by the promotion of a healthy lifestyle as well as by adaptive behaviors and cognitive responses, is associated with greater flexibility, as well as problem-solving capacities.

So how do we cultivate optimism? Carmen Drahl at National Public Radio asked that very question to her readers and listeners. Below are some tips from everyday people on how they stay optimistic in trying times:

• Humor continues to be one of the things that gives me hope. No matter how hard life can get, there are always people who find a way to make things feel lighter. It could be as simple as silly viral animal videos or the more complex comedy that contextualizes our lives in the broader arc of history. Either way, we as humans tend to know when we need to break the tension and give ourselves a mental reset. –Eric Conrad, Washington, D.C. | 101 Good Clean Jokes
  
• I try to keep in mind how little control or influence I have to change the state of the country (and world) and let go of the feeling of responsibility. I do what I can and understand that change is slow. One of the greatest gifts of getting old is knowing how little power you have in the grand scheme of things. It relieves you of the feeling that you have to DO something and the frustration and anger that goes with it. –Mary Theresa McCarty, Halfmoon, N.Y.
  
• To remain optimistic I have to deliberately and regularly make room for my grief. If I acknowledge this weight I carry it can be a tool. It will still cripple me occasionally because burying a trans child is just that hard, but I can also fight for change if I bring my grief with me. – Carrie Black, Salt Lake City, Utah
  
• I am Buddhist and there is a meditation that helps me: You elect to feel hopelessness or lovelessness as a way of empathizing with others who feel these things. So when I feel hopeless or sad or overwhelmed, I can think, “I am going to fully let myself feel this because this is what hopelessness feels like, what millions of others have felt, going back millennia.” Ironically, framing it this way actually feels more connected, more human, more manageable. –Kristin Harriman, Sacramento, Calif.
  
• One of my favorite books is Garth Stein’s The Art of Racing in the Rain. I remind myself, as the book states, “The car goes where your eyes go.” It’s so important, especially as the news cycle is full of cruelty and suffering, for us to carefully choose what we read, listen to, pay attention to. The car, my brain, goes where my eyes go — so I need to keep looking at hopeful art and look for joy in the children I love and remind myself to keep watching for good things. I see more of them this way! -Naomi Krokowski, Berthoud, Colo.

• Doing something for someone else is my all time high — it always lifts me. –Dianne Oelberger, St George, Maine
  
• I read a single poem every morning. There is hope in the verse or between the lines, something else to drift on, beyond the headlines. –Mark Karason, Pittsburgh, Pa.
  
• Music in particular kickstarts me and really helps me articulate my feelings in both subconscious and conscious ways. I like to have active listening sessions throughout the day. But what helps me the most is listening to music in bed in the early morning before doing anything else. It puts my mind in a place of zen and allows me to be the best version of myself that day to radiate positive energy not only within, but to the surrounding world as well. –Sean Nguyen, Seattle, Wash.
  
• My favorite technique for getting happy is definitely playing loud techno music (or other very rhythmic dance songs), and freestyle dancing in my living room. –Robin McMillan, North Port, Fla.
  
• When I’m feeling stressed, I take a walk outside in the sun or in a green space like a park or a forest. Despite the noise in my head, the sounds of nature, including those of birds, wind and rain, comfort me. –Whayoung Cha, Seoul, South Korea
  
• Early spring walk under blooming cherry trees with daughter Analesa, beloved pup Rosko and warmth of the sun on my face. –Cassandra Zimmerman, Portland, Ore.
  
• The way I stay optimistic is waking up early to watch the sunrise and meditate on where I find light in the darkness. There are great things of beauty and peace in this world. –Michelle Middleton, Reno, Nev.
  
• For 30 years, I have volunteered with a nonprofit whose mission is to teach gardening to home gardeners throughout our community. I feel constantly renewed by the generosity and energy of the people I volunteer with. While I often feel overwhelmed by the magnitude and variety of troubles in our world, I am also mindful of the abundant blessings that fill my life. I cannot stop war or famine on a global scale, but I can teach a family how to grow food — and flowers. –Robbie Cranch, Fresno, Calif.
  
• I find my source of joy in nature. I salute the sun every morning and affirm the blessings of the five elements: the earth, space, sun, air and water. When I recognize that my body was born from these five elements, I feel a deep kinship with nature, our womb. I talk to the trees, recognizing their generosity and strength. –Pankaja Cauligi, Mysore, India

As we welcome in April we look forward to longer and warmer days, the blooming of our favorite plants, and the return of baseball. Nestled in there alongside those things is Autism Acceptance Month. There has been a shift of late from Autism Awareness to Autism Acceptance, and for good reason. As one advocate, who themselves are on the spectrum, shared “Awareness is focused on shortcomings or deficits. Acceptance is focused on what you’re good at and what can you do for yourself. Awareness means you can identify a neurodiversity. Acceptance means you’re able to talk to neurodiverse individuals and gain understanding and compassion.”

So as we move into AAM we wanted to highlight the unique ways in which we can promote wellness in the Autism community, today starting with sleep. Whether you are a member of the Cooper community with an Autism diagnosis or you care for someone with Autism keep in mind that navigating life gets a bit easier when we have good sleep! So here are some thoughts on promoting sleep-related wellness across the Autism Spectrum.

Researchers have extensively researched sleep and its influence on health, behavior and other areas of life for those with Autism. Many kids, teens, and adults with autism have problems sleeping which can be hard on the them and those with whom they live. Some have trouble falling and staying asleep, or wake up too early and have a hard time getting back to sleep.

Problems sleeping happen more often in the setting of the restricted and repetitive behaviors common in ASD, as well as secondary to anxiety, or sensory problems that are often common on the spectrum. Watching TV, videos, or playing on the computer, especially if the shows are very stimulating (highly humorous, intentionally frightening) can lead anyone, especially those living with ASD, to having more trouble sleeping. Fixing this usually starts with gathering data and trying some of the most common solutions related to the problem, whether you are experiencing this yourself or trying to help a loved one.

Sleep Resources

ATN/AIR-P Strategies to Improve Sleep in Children with Autism Parent Booklet and Quick Tips
This informational booklet is designed to provide parents with strategies to improve sleep in their child affected by autism spectrum disorders (ASD). The suggestions in this tool kit are based on both research and clinical experience of sleep experts.

ATN/AIR-P Sleep Strategies for Teens with Autism
Many teens with autism have difficulty with sleep, which can affect their daytime functioning, as well as that of their families. This tool kit is designed to provide parents with strategies to improve sleep in their teens affected by autism. It helps tackle the problems of falling asleep and staying asleep through the night. 

ATN/AIR-P Melatonin and Sleep Problems: A Guide for Parents
Melatonin is a common medicine your doctor or healthcare provider may suggest to help improve sleep. This tool kit is designed to provide you with information about melatonin and help you decide if trying melatonin is right for you child.

Download a one-page overview on sleep for quick tips you can use at home.

Establishing Good Sleep Hygiene

Carin Lamm, MD is Associate Clinical Professor of Pediatrics Diplomate American Academy of Sleep Medicine and Director Pediatric Sleep Disorders Center Columbia University Medical Center and shares the below regarding sleep and Autism:

1. Sleep environment: the bedroom should be dark, quiet and cool. As those with ASD might be particularly sensitive to noises and/or have sensory issues, the environment should be adapted to make sure one is as comfortable as possible.
   
2. Bedtime routine: the routine should be predictable, relatively short (20 – 30 minutes) and include relaxing activities such as reading or listening to quiet music. Avoid the use of electronics close to bedtime such as TV, computer, video games etc. that can be stimulating making it difficult for individuals to fall asleep.
   
3. Sleep\wake schedule: the schedule should be regular with not much of a difference between the weekday and weekend schedule.
   
4. Exercise: Daytime exercise can make it easier to fall asleep and those who exercise tend to have deeper sleep. Avoid exercising too close to bedtime as it can make it difficult to fall asleep.
   
5. Avoid caffeine particularly close to bedtime, which can be alerting making it difficult for people to fall asleep. Caffeine is found not only in coffee, but also in tea, chocolate and some sodas.
   
6. Naps – avoid them at all costs! While a good nap can be needed from time to time, over-reliance on this can perpetuate sleep problems.

It is important to address medical or psychiatric issues that potentially interfere with sleep. Medications might need adjustment if they affect sleep. If one suffers from a sleep disorder such as sleep apnea, sleep walking, sleep terrors, restless legs syndrome, they may need a referral to a sleep specialist. Some with persistent insomnia will need further behavioral or pharmacological treatment to improve their sleep.

In summary, although sleep problems are common those with ASD they often can be helped. Better sleep for these children can potentially improve their daytime functioning as well as the sleep of family members.

Hard to believe, but March has flown by and we are ready to welcome April and the renewal that comes with Spring! If you are looking for some help shaking off the last remaining blues that may have come with a long, dreary winter consider checking out calm.com’s April Calm Calendar. As they share on their site, “The Calm Calendar is an invitation to meet your life with presence and curiosity. Our daily prompts serve as encouragement to learn more about yourself and the world through the lens of mental health, mindfulness, and wellbeing. It’s not about getting it right, but rather checking in with yourself, deepening your awareness and supporting yourself through each step of your journey.”

Remember, growth comes one small step at a time. Ready for the first step, download the calendar below or at calm.com!

Dr. Sarah Pressman is an award winning Assistant Professor of Psychology and Social Behavior in the School of Social Ecology at the University of California, Irvine. Dr. Pressman’s work seeks to understand how positive emotions are beneficial for objective physical health and longevity. In her 2015 TED Talk, Dr. Pressman shares research from her lab about why doctors should care about happiness in their patients.

Recently, Rittu Sinha at Forbes penned an article that contrasts the difference between what we saw as a culture about women and wellness, and the types of attitudes we foster about this topic. She shared that “As the World Health Organization reminds us, “The health, well-being and needs of half the world’s population cannot be treated as an afterthought.” However, for most of my own life, I never took the time to figure out how feminism actually sat with me. It was only in the last decade I that came to the realization that although I am not inclined toward “femininity,” I am a feminist (these questionnaires helped me clarify my thinking). Where does feminism intersect with women’s health? In short, in every area—physical, mental, emotional, environmental, existential and spiritual, which are all places I champion. Many women even today put their health on a back burner for years of their life. When we’re in this space, we consider our own needs to be less important than those of others (spouses, partners, kids, parents).”

Read Rittu’s full article on the hows and whys of fixing inequities that limit women’s wellness at https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2022/10/25/how-and-why-women-can-and-should-prioritize-their-wellness/ 

Need help getting your random acts going? Here are six ideas to get your imagination going!

Bring treats to work

Next time you’re on the way to work, grab your coworkers some coffee or pastries. 

Show local businesses some love

It’s no secret that we love our local businesses. Next time you stop by your go-to spots, tip generously or write a positive review. You can also combine this and the previous, get you coffee and donuts from a local shop!

Plant native species

Add some green to your community by planting native species. Use the National Wildlife Federation’s Native Plant Finder to start your search.

Help our furry friends

Consider fostering or adopting a furry friend in need of a home, or volunteer at a local shelter, details available through Camden County. You can also donate monetarily or drop off blankets, toys, food, and supplies.

Volunteer with local organizations

Check out some local volunteer opportunities through Camden County at Volunteer Match.

Gift something just because

Whether it’s to recognize a teacher or just surprise someone special in your life, we suggest some gifts from local shops. Check out this directory here.

Feel free to read the full article at https://www.nytimes.com/2022/09/02/well/family/random-acts-of-kindness.html

New research shows small gestures matter even more than we may think.

In late August, Erin Alexander, 57, sat in the parking lot of a Target store in Fairfield, Calif., and wept. Her sister-in-law had recently died, and Ms. Alexander was having a hard day.

A barista working at the Starbucks inside the Target was too. The espresso machine had broken down and she was clearly stressed. Ms. Alexander — who’d stopped crying and gone inside for some caffeine — smiled, ordered an iced green tea, and told her to hang in there. After picking up her order, she noticed a message on the cup: “Erin,” the barista had scrawled next to a heart, “your soul is golden.”

“I’m not sure I even necessarily know what ‘your soul is golden’ means,” said Ms. Alexander, who laughed and cried while recalling the incident.

But the warmth of that small and unexpected gesture, from a stranger who had no inkling of what she was going through, moved her deeply.

“Of course, I was still really sad,” Ms. Alexander said. “But that little thing made the rest of my day.”

New findings, published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology in August, corroborate just how powerful experiences like Ms. Alexander’s can be. Researchers found that people who perform a random act of kindness tend to underestimate how much the recipient will appreciate it. And they believe that miscalculation could hold many of us back from doing nice things for others more often.

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“We have this negativity bias when it comes to social connection. We just don’t think the positive impact of our behaviors is as positive as it is,” said Marisa Franco, a psychologist and author of “Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — and Keep — Friends,” who did not work on the recent research.

“With a study like this, I hope it will inspire more people to actually commit random acts of kindness,” she said.

Underestimating the power of small gestures

The recent study comprised eight small experiments that varied in design and participants. In one, for example, graduate students were asked to perform thoughtful acts of their own choosing, like giving a classmate a ride home from campus, baking cookies or buying someone a cup of coffee.

In another, researchers recruited 84 participants on two cold weekends at the ice skating rink at Maggie Daley Park in Chicago. They were given a hot chocolate from the snack kiosk and were told they could keep it or give it to a stranger as a deliberate act of kindness. The 75 participants who gave away their hot chocolate were asked to guess how “big” the act of kindness would feel to the recipient on a scale from 0 (very small) to 10 (very large), and to predict how the recipient would rate their mood (ranging from much more negative than normal to much more positive than normal) upon receiving the drink. The recipients were then asked to report how they actually felt using the same scales.

In that experiment — and across all others — the people doing the kind thing consistently underestimated how much it was actually appreciated, said one of the study’s authors, Amit Kumar, an assistant professor of marketing and psychology at the University of Texas, Austin.

“We believe these miscalibrated expectations matter for behavior,” he said. “Not knowing one’s positive impact can stand in the way of people engaging in these sorts of acts of kindness in daily life.”

Another experiment in the study was devised to help researchers better understand this tendency to underestimate the power of our own kind acts. In it, Dr. Kumar and his team recruited 200 participants in Maggie Daley Park. A control group of 50 participants received a cupcake simply for participating in the study and rated their mood. Another 50 people who did not receive a cupcake rated how they thought the receivers would feel after getting a cupcake.

A third group of 50 people were told they could give a cupcake away to strangers, and were asked to rate their own mood as well as how they believed the recipients would feel. Once again, the researchers found that those who got a cupcake as a result of a random act of kindness felt better than the person on the giving end thought they would.

Also, people who got a cupcake because of an act of kindness rated themselves higher on a happiness scale than those who got one simply for participating in the study, suggesting they got an emotional boost from the gesture, in addition to the cupcake itself.

“People tend to think that what they are giving is kind of little, maybe it’s relatively inconsequential,” Dr. Kumar said. “But recipients are less likely to think along those lines. They consider the gesture to be significantly more meaningful because they are also thinking about the fact that someone did something nice for them.”

How to show others you care

The notion that kindness can boost well-being is hardly new. Studies have shown that prosocial behavior — basically, voluntarily helping others — can help lower people’s daily stress levels, and that simple acts of connection, like texting a friend, mean more than many of us realize. But researchers who study kindness and friendship say they hope the new findings strengthen the scientific case for making these types of gestures more often.

“I have found that kindness can be a really hard sell,” said Tara Cousineau, a clinical psychologist, meditation teacher and author of “The Kindness Cure: How The Science of Compassion Can Heal Your Heart and Your World.” “People desire kindness yet often feel inconvenienced by the thought of being kind.”

Stress can also keep people from being kind to others, she said, as can the “little judgy voice” in people’s heads that causes them to question whether their gesture or gift will be misinterpreted, or whether it will make the recipient feel pressured to pay it back.

“When the kindness impulse arises,” Dr. Cousineau said, “we totally overthink it.”

But an act of kindness is unlikely to backfire, she said, and in some instances it can beget even more kindness. Jennifer Oldham, 36, who lost her 9-year-old daughter, Hallie, in July after a tree fell on the car she was in during a storm, recently created a Facebook group — Keeping Kindness for Hallie — that encourages participants to engage in random acts of kindness. People have bought groceries and baby formula for others in Hallie’s honor. They’ve donated school supplies and given hydrangeas to strangers.

“No small act goes unnoticed,” Ms. Oldham said. “It will help your own heart, maybe even more than the recipients.”

Sometimes, it is something much sillier. When Kimberly Britt, president of Phoenix College in Arizona, left for a week of vacation in July, her vice president of student affairs hid 60 rubber chickens in her office.

“She did it so I wouldn’t find them all immediately, and it did take me a while,” she said. “But it was meant to bring a smile to my day when I returned.”

It did, and has since inspired Dr. Britt to begin a random acts of kindness challenge on campus. They have recorded 200 acts of kindness so far: a teacher who went above and beyond to spend time with a student who was struggling emotionally, a staff member who brought food to the office, another who made coffee for all of their colleagues.

If you are not already in the habit of performing random kind acts — or if it does not come naturally to you — Dr. Franco said to start by thinking about what you like to do.

“It’s not about you being like, ‘Oh man, now I have to learn how to bake cookies in order to be nice,’” she said. “It’s about: What skills and talents do you already have? And how can you turn that into an offering for other people?”

Since 1949, the Mental Health Foundation has been the UK’s leading charity for everyone’s mental health. They take a public mental health approach to prevention, finding solutions for individuals, those at risk and for society, in order to improve everyone’s mental wellbeing. It is not surprising, then, that they have a thing or two to say about the benefits of kindness, and so we start Random Acts of Kindness Month by looking at their review of the health benefits of kindness. You can learn more at https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/about-us

The health benefits of kindness

• Helping others feels good – Research shows that acts of kindness are linked to increased feelings of well-being.  Helping others can also improve our support networks and encourage us to be more active.  This, in turn, can improve our self-esteem.  There is some evidence to suggest that when we help others, it can promote changes in the brain that are linked with happiness.
  
• It creates a sense of belonging and reduces isolation – Helping others is thought to be one of the ways that people create, maintain, and strengthen their social connections. For example, volunteering and helping others can help us feel a sense of belonging, make new friends, and connect with our communities.
  
• It helps to keep things in perspective – Many of us don’t realize the effect a different perspective can have on our outlook on life. There is some evidence that being aware of our own acts of kindness, as well as the things we are grateful for, can increase feelings of happiness, optimism and satisfaction. Doing good may also help us to have a more positive outlook on our own circumstances.
  
• It’s contagious – Acts of kindness can make the world a happier place for everyone. They can boost feelings of confidence, being in control, happiness and optimism. They may also encourage others to repeat the good deeds they’ve experienced themselves – contributing to a more positive community. 
  
• Helping others helps you – The benefits of helping others can last long after the act itself, for those who offer kindness, and those who benefit. This, in turn, can improve our self-esteem.

Harvard researchers recently published findings that suggest nurturing yourself in small ways can help ease burnout and exhaustion.

It’s hard to care about anything when you feel exhausted, burned out, or ragged around the edges. Your once-fiery enthusiasm may seem more like charred rubble due to overwhelming family responsibilities, a job that drains you, or financial struggles. Or maybe an illness, the uncertainty and disruptions of the age we live in, or a combination of factors has left you feeling as if you have precious little to give.

“What you’re experiencing is burnout. It’s real and it can lead to depression, anxiety, relationship damage, and an inability to function at home or at work,” says Dr. Marni Chanoff, an integrative psychiatrist with Harvard-affiliated McLean Hospital.

Take heart: With time and effort, you can refill your cup, slowly adding back a bit of the energy and joie de vivre you’ve been missing. Here are three ways to start.

1. Carve out time for yourself

Taking time for yourself isn’t a luxury; it’s essential to self-care. “You need to slow down and give yourself the opportunity to rest and rejuvenate,” Dr. Chanoff says, “Schedule it if you have to, starting with 10 or 15 minutes, a couple of times a day.”

How can you reclaim precious minutes in an overly full schedule? “Look at your day, week, or month, and be discerning about how many things you say ‘yes’ to in one period of time. Give yourself permission to say ‘no thank you’ to things that deplete you or don’t serve you,” Dr. Chanoff says.

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Make small moments count: choose what makes you feel at peace. For example, have a cup of tea, or simply lay a blanket or mat on the floor at home or work and lie on your back. Don’t look at your phone or email. “You want to tell your body to take a break. It helps you reset and back away when stress draws you in,” Dr. Chanoff explains.

2. Commit to better health

A strong body helps balance the stressful situations that have caused your burnout. The basic recipe for good health includes:

• Exercise. Moderate intensity exercise, the kind that works the heart and lungs, releases important chemicals that help regulate mood, sleep, and many body systems. Aim for at least 150 minutes of exercise per week, which amounts to about 22 minutes a day. Start with just a few minutes a day if it’s all you can do. It doesn’t have to be fancy. “It can be any movement that brings you joy, like dancing, yoga, or brisk walking,” Dr. Chanoff suggests.
• A good diet. Eating lots of junk food (typically full of sugar, salt, and unhealthy saturated fat) fuels chronic stress, fatigue, depression, and anxiety. Choose more unprocessed foods such as vegetables, fruits, whole grains, legumes, lean proteins (fish or poultry), and unsaturated fats (such as avocados or olive oil). If time is an issue, Chanoff suggests batch-cooking simple, healthy foods you can have several days of the week. (Lentil or bean soup is a good one-pot meal. Throw in as many vegetables as you can.)
• Sleep. Insufficient sleep affects overall health, concentration, and mood. Try to sleep seven to nine hours per night. “It helps to wind down an hour or two before you fall asleep. And practice good sleep hygiene: turn off your phone, keep your room cool and dark, and go to sleep and wake up at the same time each day,” Dr. Chanoff advises.

3. Surround yourself with comfort

Hygge (pronounced HOO-ga) is the Danish concept of cozy comfort that brings happiness and contentment. Folks in Denmark know a thing or two about finding sunshine in cold dark months.

To practice hygge, surround yourself with people, activities, and things that make you feel cozy, loved, happy, or content. Go simple: spend time with your favorite people, add a small vase of flowers to your space, don fuzzy slippers once home, eat a treasured comfort food, or listen to a favorite song.

More ideas to try:

• Light a candle.
• Get under a heated blanket.
• Frame a photo of a happy time.
• Have breakfast in bed.
• Use pretty table linens.
• Indulge in art (check out various works at museums online).
• Stand still outside to listen to the sounds of nature.
• Curl up in a cozy chair.
• Window-shop in your favorite store.
• Wear a soft sweater that feels good on your skin.
• Use a silk or satin pillowcase on your bed pillow.
• Take a warm bath.
• Get an oil diffuser with a scent that reminds you of a place you love, like the beach or a pine forest.

Pick one item from one section today and stick with it until you develop a new self-care habit. You might be surprised by how quickly things change!

Listen to the full story below, or read it at NPR.org.

Sending a text to a friend can bring a smile to your face. Now, research suggests it could also help bring long-term health benefits.

Psychiatrist Robert Waldinger and Psychologist Marc Schulz have spent decades studying what helps people thrive. Their research followed people through the decades, consulting with their parents and now their children, who are mostly of the baby boomer generation. They identified different kinds of happiness.

“We do like that sugar rush high, that ‘I’m having fun right now at this party’ kind of high. And then there’s the happiness that comes from feeling like, ‘I’m having a good life, a decent life, a meaningful life,” Waldinger explained. “We all want some of both, but some of us really prioritize one kind over the other kind.”

Their conclusion? Long term health and wellbeing comes down to one thing: investing in relationships with other people.

Waldinger emphasizes the importance of putting effort into friendships, saying that many valuable relationships can wither away from neglect. And even if you find yourself realizing that you may not have the connections you seek, today’s as good a day as any to start forming those bonds.

So if you’ve been prioritizing your well-being lately, and perhaps meaning to reach out to a friend, family member or loved one, it’s never too late to send a quick message and catch up.

For over 80 years, researchers at Harvard have studied what makes for a good life. They found one surefire, scientifically proven predictor of happiness: developing warmer relationships. A team of reporters on The Times’s health and wellness desk, Well, developed a self-paced challenge to help you do just that. Ready to start the new year right? Start below!

How Strong Are Your Relationships?

Relationships with friends, family, coworkers and even casual acquaintances play a crucial role in your well-being. Find out how robust your social ties are.

Day 1: Take Stock of Your Relationships

Today, you will identify the areas of your life in which you would like to be more connected.

Jan. 1, 2023

Day 2: The Secret Power of the 8-Minute Phone Call

Even a brief chat has measurable effects on our well-being.

Jan. 2, 2023

Day 3: Small Talk Has Big Benefits

Regular exchanges with your “weak ties” will bring you more happiness.

Jan. 3, 2023

Day 4: Why You Should Write a ‘Living Eulogy’

Happy people express their gratitude for others.

Jan. 4, 2023

Day 5: The Importance of Work Friends

People who are close to their colleagues are happier and more productive.

Jan. 5, 2023

Psychologist Angelica Attard has the following thoughts on resolutions headed into the new year: “The end of December represents a transition point. It is a time when people share their reflections on how the last year has gone, their joys and sorrows, and set resolutions in the hope that they will fare better in the new year. We hold on to a vision of a better year, a better us, a better future. New year, new start, new resolutions. The concept and implementation of resolutions can be hard for many to grapple with. If New Year’s resolutions do not work for you, I invite you to consider the idea of setting intentions and starting now.”

She suggests that, rather than resolutions, we consider setting intentions. Dr. Attard shares “Intentions are about who we want to be in the present moment and how we want to show up in our lives. Intentions are based on what our values are, i.e., what is important to us in different areas of our life, such as our physical health, mental health, career, hobbies, relationships with family, friends, partners, education. Intentions are different from goals because goals are about what we do. However, they are related because intentions give us a direction and will that empower us to set and achieve goals; to act and take decisions that honor the person we want to be based on what matters to us. This can enable us to live a meaningful life and have fulfilling relationships with others and ourselves in the present. Here are a few other points to consider regarding the traps that come with resolutions and how intentions can step in to help.”

You can read her full article at https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/human-beings-being-human/202011/set-new-years-resolutions-or-live-intention-now. Below are some steps she outlines to begin the process of setting our intentions.

1. Set your intention at the start of the day (whilst you are still in bed and before the rush of the day begins).
2. Take a moment, slow down, and take a few deep breaths.
3. Check in with yourself. (How are you feeling? What thoughts are going through your mind?)
4. Check what you have planned for your day ahead.
5. Based on your state of mind and the plans for the day, think about what matters to you in how you face the day, what you need, what is going to help you. (Remember to think about this based on your values and what kind of person you want to be as you approach this day.)
6. Set your intention for the day using the language that works for you. Today I commit myself to… My intention is to approach the day with…
7. Write down your intention on paper or your phone or share it with another person. (This can make it feel more real.)
8. Set your mind, focus, and approach throughout the day towards this intention. (It is OK if you forget about your intention during the day. It is not really forgotten because your intentions are linked to your values and your values are always part of you.)
9. Find a moment to come back to your intention to reflect on how you lived by this. (The aim is not to judge yourself as good or bad or as having succeeded or failed. Rather, it is to acknowledge where you are at and learn about what you may want to carry forward to the next moment or to tomorrow.)

Not feeling particularly cheery this time of year? You’re not alone. Many find that the holidays bring as much stress as they do joy. But there are ways to ease through the season. To help make the most of your festivities, Neda Gould, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and director of the Johns Hopkins Mindfulness Program at the Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine, shares some mindful tips. Those tips are below, and you can read the full article at https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/4-mindful-tips-to-destress-this-holiday-season

1. Accept Imperfection – Can good be good enough? “As we gear up for the holidays, we often set the bar impossibly high for ourselves and then feel upset when our celebrations don’t live up to expectations,” says Gould. Before you start preparing, acknowledge that things may not go exactly as planned. “It’s OK if it’s not perfect. Imperfection is healthy and normal. For some of us, it might just take a little practice,” reminds Gould.
2. Don’t Lose Sight of What Really Counts – With long lines and nasty traffic, the holidays can get hectic. When overwhelmed by the hustle and bustle, ask yourself: Where does this fit in the grand scheme of things? If you’re frustrated by the long grocery line you’re standing in, remember that it is just a long grocery line — nothing more. Don’t let it spoil your afternoon. Can I use this moment of frustration as an opportunity to reflect? While the cashier rings up the customers ahead of you, take inventory of the good things that have happened today or the things you are grateful for. Even if this moment seems stressful, can I find a way to make it pleasant? Connect with someone else in line with a compliment or kind gesture, or notice what’s around you with fresh eyes and an open mind.
3. Respond with Kindness You can’t change how others act during the stresses of the holiday season, but you can change how you respond to situations: “Whenever I encounter a difficult person, I tell myself, ‘this person is suffering, and that’s why they’re acting this way.’ It softens my frustration, helps me be more compassionate and reminds me that it’s not personal,” says Gould. Keep in mind that the holidays are especially difficult for those who are alone. See if you can extend an act of kindness to those you know are without family and friends during this time of year. If things do get tense with someone, take a few deep breaths. “Those few breaths can shift things and give you new perspective,” says Gould.
4. Rethink Your Resolutions “Typical New Year’s resolutions set you up for failure,” warns Gould. If you want to better yourself in the New Year, follow these tips for success: Start small. Break your goal into tinier steps over the course of the year. If weight loss is your goal, it doesn’t have to be drastic. Try to eat more veggies during your first month and gradually cut back on sweets throughout the next, suggests Gould. Be kind to yourself. If you didn’t achieve last year’s resolution or stray from the path this time around, let it go. “We often contrive these stories (‘I’m never going to quit smoking!’) that only add to our distress,” says Gould. “With practice, we can notice this self-critic, let go of that negativity and pick our goals back up without the guilt or shame.”

Part of any good wellness initiative is finding ways to remind each other that there is still goodness in the world, even amongst all the difficult things. While coming into contact with these reminders does not fix the underlying bigger problems, the hope is that it gives us a little extra wherewithal to continue to work toward their resolution. To that end, today we share the story of Mr. Herman and his kids.

New Jersey school bus driver Herman Cruse noticed that a kindergartner seemed a little sad and out of sorts during one morning ride to Middle Township Elementary #1. “Bus drivers are the eyes and ears of students when they’re away from home,” said Cruse, 55, who drives students of all ages for Middle Township Public Schools in Cape May Court House, N.J. “We have an uncanny gift to discern what kids are feeling,” he said.

When Cruse asked the kindergartner what was wrong, he said the boy explained that he wasn’t able to complete his reading assignment because his parents were busy with his four siblings at home. It was hard to find one-on-one time to practice reading with his mom or dad, he told Cruse. Cruse said an idea popped into his mind. “I told him, ‘Listen, I have some free time, and if you don’t mind, I’d like to come to the school and read with you,’” he said.

Cruse received permission from the 6-year-old’s teacher, Alex Bakley, to show up at her kindergarten classroom the following week. When he walked in, he said the boy shouted, “Hey, that’s my bus driver!” Herman Cruse has driven a school bus for more than 30 years. He has spent the last nine years driving for Middle Township Public Schools. (Alex Bakley) “We went into a quiet corner and began reading together,” Cruse said. “It was a book called ‘I Like Lunch,’ about a boy who likes sandwiches, a boy who likes apples, a boy who likes cookies and a boy who likes milk. Put it all together and you have lunch.” “So he read to me, I read to him and we read together, and from there, it took on a life of its own,”

Cruse continued. “A second student wanted to read to me, then a third. All these kids were going to the teacher asking, ‘Can I read with Mr. Herman?’” A stranger called. He had photos of her family from the Holocaust era. Almost two years later, Cruse now volunteers to help Bakley’s 18 kindergarten students and another kindergarten class with reading two days a week, and on a third day, he tutors the school’s first- and second-graders. After dropping the kids off at school, of course

Read Mr. Herman’s full story and see pictures of him in action at https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2022/12/07/bus-driver-reading-herman-cruse/

Occasionally this wellness blog will share information whose sole intent is to, rather motivate you to take action, just feel good. Today is such a post, and it comes to us via this Washington Post story about photographer David Suh. His goal is to elevate the everyday people through portraits. Suh has since created posing tutorial on TikTok and elsewhere. “His work and videos are built on his unshakable belief that you are camera-ready exactly as you are. ‘For me, everyone is inherently beautiful,’ he tells [the Post] over Zoom from a low-lit nook in his studio. ‘Just the fact that they exist is beautiful.’ All you need to look fantastic in photos, he insists, is some posing and picture-taking practice, plus — and he knows this is the hard part — genuine faith in your own innate beauty, as defined on your terms and no one else’s.”

Suh gives a combination of general and practical advice. He says “you build who you are, and because you feel more secure in your identity, to me, that is what is attractive.” And that, in turn, “applies to being attractive on film. When you get to express that … you get to represent yourself the way you want to.” But he has also built a library of practical guides. He posts a combination of useful how-tos and earnest affirmations. You can find him responding to a disabled trans man seeking guidance on how to pose with his walker; showing a woman how to take solo pictures (which built to an impassioned takedown of the way society tells women not to take up space); offering a posing guide that contrasts a “Shy Couple” with a “Power Couple.” He ends his practical-yet-playful lessons with a duck quack sound effect.

Want to learn more? Check Suh out at https://www.tiktok.com/@davidsuh/

Andee Tagle (she/her) is a reporter-producer for NPR’s Life Kit podcast. She recently posted an article discussing some key aspects of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Specifically the role of our automatic thoughts and the language we use to describe ourselves and our experiences. You can read the full article at https://www.npr.org/2022/11/04/1133860237/stop-hurting-your-own-feelings-tips-on-quashing-negative-self-talk and below is a brief summary to consider.

Talk to yourself the way you would talk to a friend In our episode on how to curb negative self-talk, psychologist Joy Harden Bradford says to be aware of the harmful things we might say to ourselves. So the next time you’re tempted to disparage your looks or criticize your decision-making, ask yourself: would I talk this way to my best friend? If not, practice “using the same kind and gentle language that we use with the people we love” on yourself, says Bradford. “Because we’re also people who we hopefully love, right?” Listen to the episode here.

‘SIFT’ through what people say about you The acronym SIFT (source, impact, frequency and trends), developed by research scientist Mike Caulfield, can help you figure out whether you should listen to feedback from others or just ignore it. Say someone calls you out for poor email communication. Did that criticism come from someone you trust and value? Is it demanding a big change or a minor tweak to your behavior? Is this something you’ve heard from other people? And have you heard this from different communities in your life, or just at work? Consider these points before deciding to act. Listen to the episode here.

Don’t forget that our brains have a tendency to focus on the negative The mind is a tricky thing. It can lead us to fixate, for example, on one bad aspect of a year-end review from a manager instead of their positive feedback. This is called “negativity bias,” says Yale psychology professor Woo-kyoung Ahn, and it illustrates our propensity to weigh negative events a lot more heavily than an equal amount of positive events. This “thinking error,” she says, is dangerous because it can lead us to make the wrong choices. Find out how to counteract this bias here.

Don’t dwell on something that bothers you — talk about it If someone you love is causing you distress, don’t be afraid to communicate with them about it, says psychologist Adia Gooden. It may help clear up any assumptions you may have and offer new perspectives about the incident. For example, instead of jumping to conclusions if your partner is always on their phone at dinnertime, you might say to them: “Because you’re always on your phone, I feel like you don’t think I’m worthy of your attention,” says Gooden. “And they might say, ‘Oh, shoot, I didn’t mean to be on my phone. Or, you know, I’ve been kind of frustrated with you and I didn’t know how to bring it up. So I’ve been looking at my phone instead of making eye contact. Let’s talk.” Listen to the episode here.

Adapt a ‘growth mindset’ Instead of defining yourself by your failures or limitations, consider every loss as part of your learning process. This idea, developed by psychologist Carol Dweck, is called a “growth mindset,” and it can help bolster that internal dialogue when you’ve taken an L and can’t stop kicking yourself about it. Let’s say you lose a round of pool. Those with a fixed mindset, she says, think that talent and intelligence are static: I give up, I’ll never get good at this! Growth-minded people believe that effort can lead to mastery: Hey! I’m getting a lot better at putting some power behind the ball! It’s all about finding the right perspective. Listen to the episode here.

Yup, it’s about that time again. The end of daylight saving is nigh. For many the extra hour of sleep as welcomed, but for most any change to routine, especially our sleep routine, can have a number of undesirable downstream effects. To that end, Holly Burns as the New York Times wellness blog has compiled a list of things to consider as we prepare for this year’s tradition. Some of this tips are below, you can read the full article at NYTimes.com.

• Try shifting your bedtime 30 minutes later a few days in advance, so that by Sunday, the time on the clock is closer to the time your body feels it is, said Jennifer Martin, a professor of medicine at the University of California, Los Angeles, and president of the board of directors for the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. That means, though, that you should also be sleeping 30 minutes later in the mornings, which isn’t feasible for everyone.
• Extra time in bed sounds glorious to some, but it can be hard if you struggle with insomnia, said Dr. Martin, because “the night basically just got an hour longer.” In that case, focus on keeping the time you spend in bed the same, rather than the time you fall asleep. So if you usually spend eight hours in bed — say, between 10:30 p.m. and 6:30 a.m. — go to bed an hour later on Saturday night, which may reduce your chances of lying awake during the night.
• Move your workout. It can be demoralizing to find that the pleasant afternoon stroll you’ve been accustomed to is now a gloomy trudge through the dark. Shifting your walk, run or bike ride to the morning means you’ll get a dose of direct morning light, which is important for regulating sleeping and waking habits. Your cortisol spikes, giving you energy, and your brain stops producing the sleep hormone melatonin.
• Eat with care. Aim to stick to your normal mealtimes once the clocks change — so if you were eating dinner at 6:30 p.m., keep eating at 6:30 p.m., said Hayley Wilkes, an integrative nutritionist in Chicago who works with clients to navigate potential disruptions to their eating habits. Prepare the week before by gradually shifting mealtimes forward 15 minutes, so your body gets used to eating a little later.
• Seek creative activities. In the days after we put the clocks back, it’s natural to feel sad that summer is over or frustrated that some activities aren’t an option anymore, Dr. Hill said. A Danish study of more than 185,000 people over 17 years found that the transition to standard time was associated with an 11 percent increase in depressive episodes. As it gets colder and darker, it may be tempting to indulge in nothing more mentally taxing than a Netflix binge, but sedentary behavior and media consumption are strongly associated with decreased life satisfaction and increased depression, said Dr. Hill. Instead, try to focus on “activities where you create rather than consume.”

Happiness, Joy, and Meaning are related, but ultimately separate, concepts.

• Happiness: to the pleasurable feelings that result from a situation, experience, or objects
• Joy: a state of mind that can be found even in times of grief or uncertainty.
• Meaning: Taking the opportunity to define our own purpose, and taking responsibility for ourselves and other human beings

Recently, Harvard physician Stephanie Collier, MD, MPH wrote a piece describing how one can find joy, or at least peace, during difficult times.

Dr. Collier hilights the distinction amongst joy, happiness, and meaning in that “We can work on cultivating joy independent of our circumstances. Winning the lottery may trigger (short-term) happiness; spending time engaging in meaningful activities may result in long-term joy.” This, then, gives us guidance on how to navigate times of tumult. She ultimately highlights that doing the work of finding joy can lead to a stronger immune system and decrease stress hormones, improve pain, and relieve depression, all helping us to live longer. Check our her tips for finding joy below, or read the full article at Harvard Health.

• Perform regular aerobic physical activity. Think of physical activity as releasing a bubble bath of neurotransmitters — and their effects linger long after the exercise is over.
• Dedicate yourself to others. Activities such as volunteering produce greater joy than focusing on oneself.
• Connect with your spiritual side. When we join with something larger than ourselves, we develop feelings of gratitude, compassion, and peace. Meditation is a powerful way to modify brain pathways to increase joy.
• Discover something new. As humans, we are hard-wired to experience joy when experiencing novelty. Developing a new pursuit can help us refocus our energy.
• Give yourself permission to take a few moments of pleasure, especially when you are feeling low. You can try NPR’s Joy Generator for a taste.
• Pay attention to the good. A joyous mindset can be developed, but takes practice. The three good things exercise helps you keep an eye out for the positives during the day.
• Conversely, limit negativity. Whether it’s gossipy coworkers, a toxic relationship with a family member, or a complaining friend, spending time around a negative mindset influences us directly. It’s okay to set limits.
• Focus your efforts on what brings meaning to your life (and don’t focus on money).
• Ask your doctor about whether your medications can affect your ability to experience pleasure, especially if you are taking antidepressants.

Living through a period in which there is so much that divides it is sometimes helpful to also attend to what we have in common, and what keeps us going. To that end, the New York Times’ Well Desk recently surveyed their readers and asked what their wellness “non-negotiables” are. Thousands of people shared practices that anchor and animate their days. You can read a few examples below or the full article at nytimes.com. But today perhaps ask yourself, what are your wellness non-negotiables? And can you share that with someone else? These might be ways to stay grounded, become healthier, or just a little bit happier.

“I use different plates for breakfast on the weekends. Rather than the grab-and-go-shovel-in-the-food weekday morning routine, my bright blue and yellow plates with bread, jams and fruit are a reminder to enjoy life, slow down and savor.”

“Every morning I walk around our town for what I call my Banana Walk. My wife dislikes the smell of bananas in the house, and I love her, so I take my banana and spend the next hour figuring out the universe, life, and while I’m at it, my work day.”

“Every morning — all year — my husband and I do a “bird sit,” a 20- to 60-minute phone-free time when we watch the birds from our patio. The first time I did this practice was at a weekend workshop; it was the first time in over 10 years that I’d been by myself, sitting quietly without my children and without my phone. I thought I was going to burst it felt so long. Now, the practice is just as important to my day as eating breakfast and getting to work. Our 7-year-old often joins us. In the winter, we get bundled in sleeping bags. We have a family of sharp shinned hawks we’ve been watching, and hummingbirds come so close we can hold them in our hands.”

“I used to read all the time when I was younger and wanted to get back into it. For the last few months, it’s become a non-negotiable for me to read for at least half an hour a day. It usually ends up being more than that, but on days when I’m exhausted or busy with other things, I cut it off at my mandatory 30 minutes. Since I started reading every day, I’ve become more productive overall. I feel like my imagination has improved since I’m watching less TV and spending less time scrolling on my phone. My mind is moving more, and I feel more present in my life.”

“Having tea with my 11-year-old son after school. He likes iced mint tea with some honey; I go for English Breakfast with a splash of soy milk. It’s our time to connect, joke around and chat about the day. It doesn’t have to last long — maybe 15 to 20 minutes. I cherish this mom-son teatime and look forward to it every school day!”

“At least once a day, I choose to savor a moment of joy. The occasion might be a taste of delicious food, a laugh with a loved one, finding a prize parking spot, discovering my next library book, catching a glimpse of the moon through my upstairs window. It’s amazing how these wonders multiply when I come to see them as ubiquitous gifts, not rare anomalies.”

Lesley Alderman is a Brooklyn-based psychotherapist who recently wrote a piece for the Washington Post describing what she feels is an unusually high degree of weariness in the people coming to her for therapy. She feels she has noticed a trend wherein those who had been concerned about national and world events and visibly frightened during the pandemic now seem exhausted. Related, she feels many are experiencing a deficit of optimism, and are overwhelmed about important issues that are beyond their control. Ms. Alderman has labeled this “hope fatigue” and feels it is, in least in part, due to the fact that humans were just not designed for this level of chronic threat to every aspect of our lives. To counter this, she offers the following practical advice to counter this problem. We encourage you to pick just one of these interventions to start, try implementing it over the next two weeks before trying another.

Take a break from the news. A total creak at first may be good, but when you come back, try reading the news just once a day, turn off alerts on your phone and, if possible, check social media sparingly.	Take care of yourself. Get back to basics: work toward sleeping and eating well, and getting exercise where you can. Otherwise, find ways to engage in life-affirming activities.
Focus on the present. Get in the habit of anchoring yourself in the here and now. Fretting about the future is not helpful.	Try a breathing exercise. Taking a few deep breaths — for instance, inhaling to the count of five and exhaling to the count of five — will help calm your sympathetic nervous system (the fight or flight response) and lower your anxiety.
Think about your victories. Remind yourself of what’s working well in your own life — whether it’s your job, friendships, or the uplifting array of houseplants you nurtured during the pandemic.	Be your own therapist. Ask yourself, what do I specifically feel hopeless about and why? Being able to put into words what’s getting you down can help you feel less flooded by emotions and better able to process the information rationally.
Take action. Worrying doesn’t help one’s mental health, but taking action does. Look around your community. Maybe your local playground would benefit from a basketball court, or your church or synagogue could sponsor a refugee family. When people engage in local issues, they have a renewed sense of optimism.	Join forces with a friend. Pick a cause. There are hundreds of nonprofits dedicated to addressing some of the most tenacious challenges on the planet. Donate money to an inspiring organization or volunteer.

What would it look like if we flipped the script on happiness? Rather than viewing it as the logical outcome of good things, could we look at happiness as the cause of good things? It is these questions and more that Dr. Ed Diener attempts to answer in his lecture “The New Science of Happiness.” Dr. Diener was a psychologist, professor, and author at the University of Utah and the University of Virginia as well as a senior scientist for the Gallup Organization. He is noted for his research over the past thirty years on happiness, including work on temperament and personality influences on well-being, theories of well-being, income and well-being, cultural influences on well-being, and the measurement of well-being. His body of work ha been cited over 257,000 times and remains impactful to this day. Check out his lecture below!

The following is summarized from the NPR article “How to have real fun — even when life’s got you down” which can be read in full at https://www.npr.org/2022/02/22/1082374139/how-to-have-fun-and-why-you-should

Catherine Price, author of “The Power of Fun: How to Feel Alive Again,” defines fun as a time when you are able to embody a mix of three things: playfulness, connection and flow.

Playfulness – “I don’t mean you have to play a game. You don’t have to play make-believe, you have to do charades,” says Price. Playfulness is when you embrace a spirit of lightheartedness and freedom. It means letting go of the idea that you have to be perfect or to achieve something.

Connection – You feel a sense of connection with the activity that you’re doing. You feel a sense of connection with your physical body. Or, most likely, you feel a sense of connection with another person or group of people through a shared experience.

Flow – You know that thing where you’re totally immersed in something and can even lose track of time? That.

Price also offers a handy acronym to help bring more fun in your days: SPARK

S — make Space for fun! Put your phone down, or even set aside some time on your calendar to make sure you are really dedicating yourself to looking for fun.

P — Pursue passions. “You don’t need to put pressure on yourself and think ‘I’m going to become a professional snowboarder,'” Price says. Set the bar low! Look for things that interest you and let those guide you.

A — A is for attracting fun, which means having an open mind about when and where fun might appear. Price recommends an improv-style “yes, and” approach to having fun, where you look for fun as well as jump into other folks’ fun.

R — Rebellion! Price found in her research that a little bit of gentle rebellion was a good way to make fun happen. So, jump in a pool with your clothes on! Go roller skating in the middle of the night! Stepping out of what is expected of you can be a great way to seek out fun moments.

K — Keep at it! Like any new practice, the only way to really incorporate it into your life is to try it many times. So don’t give up if basket weaving doesn’t work for you — maybe it’ll be guitar or making zines or working in the community garden that becomes your next fun magnet!

Dani Blum is an associate writer for Well at The New York Times. the Philadelphia Inquirer, and Philadelphia magazine. She recently penned an article meant to help people distinguish between burn-out, depression, and what do to about each. You can read the full article “How Can I Tell if I’m Depressed or Burned Out?” at NYTimes.com.

Dani writes “Workers can become burned out when they feel like they don’t have control over their day-to-day lives, getting bogged down in the minutiae of their tasks. People who are burned out may feel depleted and cynical about their jobs; they can resent their assignments and co-workers. They might feel irritable and ineffective, like they just can’t get anything done. For people who interact with others in their jobs, like health care workers or people in the retail and service industries, they might start to lose empathy, thinking of patients or customers as just another number, or a rote task to complete. There are also a litany of physical symptoms that can come with the unending stress of burnout: insomnia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues.”

She goes on to write “The World Health Organization includes burnout in the International Classification of Diseases, its diagnostic manual, characterizing it as an “occupational phenomenon,” not a medical condition. Depression, however, is a clinical diagnosis. People with depression often experience anhedonia, the inability to enjoy activities they once treasured. “You can be reading a book you used to love and now you hate it,” said Dr. Jessi Gold, a psychiatrist at Washington University in St. Louis. “Or you love watching Bravo, but now it doesn’t make you laugh anymore.” With burnout, you might not have energy for your hobbies; with depression, you might not find them fun or pleasant at all, said Jeanette M. Bennett, an associate professor who studies the effects of stress on health at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte.”

A key differentiator is that burnout gets better when you step away from work, said Dr. Rebecca Brendel, president of the American Psychiatric Association. When you take vacation time, or a mental health day, you feel at least slightly recharged. Depression doesn’t go away if you change your circumstances. “There’s not that bounce-back effect,” she said. “It takes more than that.”

The authors recommend the following for burnout:

• Take a mental health day or a “sad day” off work, if you’re able to, can offer a reprieve from your symptoms.
• Consider a career change — which is easier said than done, Dr. Gold acknowledged. “Being able to say, ‘This is a bad workplace, that’s it, I quit,’ is a privilege beyond privilege,” she said.
• Turn off notifications from your work email or Slack at certain hours.
• If there’s one meeting you consistently dread, try to block off five or 10 minutes right after to do something that can help you relax,
• Accentuate the elements of your job that you find meaningful. Maybe that means mentoring a more junior colleague.
• Exercise can help relieve work-related tension, as can carving out even a few minutes to decompress — without your phone.

But depression is a different story and they recommend:

• Reach out to a mental health provider
• If you tell yourself you’re going on a five-minute walk, you’ll probably end up walking for longer than that, Dr. Gold said. “But it’s hard when you’re exhausted and sad to make yourself do anything.”
• Getting out of the house won’t alleviate all your symptoms, but any kind of movement can help you feel a bit better, she said.
• You can write down coping mechanisms that have been helpful for you — calling a friend, or going for a quick run — and keep the list on your desk or on your dresser for when you’ll need them.
• Pay attention to what works for you, Dr. Gold said. “If you don’t like mindfulness, don’t force it,” she said. “Do the things that actually help you feel better in the moments when you feel bad.”

Be sure to read the full article “How Can I Tell if I’m Depressed or Burned Out?” at NYTimes.com.

Recently, researchers Héctor García and Francesc Miralles have expanded their study of the Japanese concept of Ikigai, the rough translation of which is “the happiness of always being busy.” García and Miralles suggest every person has an Ikigai, and that it can be found through patient soul-searching. This generally involves finding balance between your passion, mission, profession, and vocation is the key. While the answer to your Ikigai may take time to uncover, here are 10 general rules to start you on your way:

1. Stay active and don’t retire. Once García and Miralles arrived in Okinawa, they were shocked to find out how many people simply do not retire — in fact, they even note the lack of a Japanese word for the concept. In order to do what you love for as long as you can, the authors suggest that you make it a priority to stay active in all stages of life.
2. Take it slow. “When you leave urgency behind, life and time take on new meaning,” the authors advise. So instead of rushing your daily tasks, try to savor and enjoy them for the sake of your Ikigai. ikigai book cover
3. Don’t fill your stomach. “Less is more when it comes to a long life. Eat a little less than your hunger demands.” According to García and Miralles, one of the most popular phrases in Japan is “Hara hachi bu,” which means something akin to “fill your belly to 80 percent.”
4. Surround yourself with good friends. “Friends are the best medicine, there for confiding, sharing stories, getting advice, having fun, dreaming… in other words, living.” Basically, it’s a great excuse to gather your girl squad for drinks more often. Hey, it’s for your health!
5. Get in shape for your next birthday. “The body you move through life needs a bit of gentle daily maintenance.” While the folks on the Japanese island of Okinawa do not perform rigorous exercise, they do regularly get up and move their muscles. Try setting an alarm on your phone every hour to remind yourself to get out of your office chair and move around.
6. Smile. “It’s a privilege to be in the here and now — and in a world so full of possibilities,” say García and Miralles. Do your best to stay positive no matter what life throws your way, lady.
7. Reconnect with nature. “Human beings are made to be part of the natural world. Return to it as often as you can,” the authors say. In other words, do your best to make time in your busy schedule to get back to nature, whether that’s a weekend hike with friends or a summer goal to bike to work once a week.
8. Give thanks. “Give thanks for everything that brightens your day and makes you feel lucky to be alive.” Whether it’s committing to writing in a gratitude journalor simply being more conscious of voicing your gratefulness to the Starbucks barista who saves your morning, do your best to give more thanks throughout the day. ADVERTISING
9. Live in the moment. We all have those moments where looking ahead at our busy schedule leaves us feeling mega overwhelmed and stressed. “Today is all we have,” the authors note. “Make it worth remembering.”
10. Find your Ikigai. “There is a passion inside you, a unique talent, that gives meaning to your days and drives you to share the best of yourself until the very end.” You heard it — go get ’em, lady!

A new paper suggests that it takes far less exercise than was previously thought to lower blood sugar after eating. While previous research focused on a 15-minute walking goal, a new meta-analysis from University of Limerick found that light walking after a meal, in increments of as little as two to five minutes, had a significant impact in moderating blood sugar levels. When participants went for a short walk, their blood sugar levels rose and fell more gradually which is a key goal in diabetes management. In a recent interview with the New York times Dr. Kershaw Patel, having review the research, said “Each small thing you do will have benefits, even if it is a small step.” Further proof that our journey through wellness does not need to be marked by successive big achievements, the small ones add up and set us up for success!

You can read the full study at https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40279-022-01649-4

Author Lori Deschene runs the website tinybuddha.com. She shared that her site “is about reflecting on simple wisdom and learning new ways to apply it to our complex lives—complete with responsibilities, struggles, dreams, and relationships.” In one of her most recent posts she offers 10 suggestions on how weather the storms that will invariably come our way. They are as follows, but feel free to visit her post or download them in poster form!

1. You don’t have to feel guilty about feeling sad, bad, anxious, angry, or any other “negative” feeling. You’re not a “negative person.” You’re human.

2. You have a right to feel how you feel even if other people have it worse. Your pain is valid, regardless of what anyone else is going through.

3. You’re doing the best you can based on your life experiences, traumas, conditioning, beliefs, current challenges, and coping skills. As you learn new skills, you’ll cope better, but you may still struggle to apply what you’ve learned, and that’s okay. No one copes perfectly in an imperfect situation.

4. You don’t have to push yourself to be productive. It’s okay to rest or do the bare minimum when you’re struggling. This isn’t being lazy; it’s being kind to yourself—and you deserve it.

5. You’re not “falling behind.” It’s possible that you’re exactly where you need to be to learn, grow, and heal, meaning someday you might look back and consider this chapter a crucial part of your life journey.

6. You don’t have to please or impress anyone else, including yourself. Sometimes it’s enough just to live and make it through the day.

7. You don’t need to have anything figured out right now. You just need to take it one day at a time, trusting that you’ll find answers and solutions if you keep moving forward.

8. You are not alone, and you don’t have to pretend or hide. There are people who care and want to help—and because they’ve struggled too, they understand and would never judge you.

9. You won’t feel this way forever. Just as you’ve survived dark times before, you’ll eventually get past this and maybe even feel proud of yourself for how you made it through.

10. Nothing is guaranteed in the future, but you have the strength to handle whatever might be coming, and the capacity to make the best of it.

While music may not be an integral part of everyone’s life there is a growing body of evidence that playing that funky (or soulful, or rocking) music carries with it a number of benefits and can promote overall wellness.

As outlined by Lorrie Kubicek, MT-BC, contributor to the Harvard Health Blog, ongoing research suggests that music boosts our mood and well-being, and music therapy may help during treatments for certain health conditions. Some of these benefits include easing a transition to sleep with a soothing playlist, finding motivation for exercise by listening to upbeat dance music, aiding self-expression of emotions by singing, and connecting to others by attending a live musical performance.

In medicine, certified music therapists have helped patients by combing active and receptive interactions with music to decrease anxiety, shift patient mood, decrease pain perception during cancer or other medical treatment, increase expression and those living with dementia, and increase motivation among other benefits.

You can read the full article, “Can music improve our health and quality of life?” at https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/can-music-improve-our-health-and-quality-of-life-202207252786

Need some music in your life right now? Check out Barack Obama’s 2022 Summer Playlist!

A 2019 study by NYU and Stanford has recently resurfaced as companies begin to consider how to impact employee wellness beyond incentivizing and otherwise promoting healthy diet and exercise.

The results of the study suggest some benefit to Facebook use, but also highlights its addictive properties. More to the point, even after a four week “detox,” the participants spent substantial time on Facebook every day and needed to be paid large amounts of money to give up Facebook. The findings overall made clear the diverse ways in which Facebook can improve people’s lives, whether as a source of entertainment, a means to organize a charity or an activist group, or a vital social lifeline for those who are otherwise isolated.

But the results also make clear that the downsides are real. The authors found that the four week detox improved subjective well-being and substantially reduces post-experiment demand, suggesting that forces such as addiction and projection bias may cause people to use Facebook more than they otherwise would. They found that while deactivation makes people less informed, it also makes them less polarized by at least some measures, consistent with the concern that social media have played some role in the recent rise of polarization in the US.

Ready to change your relationship to social media? Try these tips from Michael LaNasa:

Limit Time

Apps like Moment or AppDetox will allow you to track and set alarms for time spent on social apps. Mindfulness and accountability are key to this approach.

When made aware of the time we spend chasing dopamine hits, it’s possible to snap out of the addiction. Coupled with keeping ourselves accountable and we can regain control.

Unfollow

Admit it, you likely follow people you don’t know because of the glamorous lifestyle they showcase. (I still have a few holdouts like this.) Remember, most of the social media is purposeful curation. No shame in it — but know that it’s intended to make you envious. The effect of envy or resentment can be detrimental.

Find some of the people or pages that draw your attention but give you little in return. Turn off notifications. Or unfollow them.

Reflect

This comes down to your own choice after all. Choose to be envious. Choose to let comparison ruin your general happiness and self-worth. But what if these aren’t the only paths?

Psychologist Leon Festinger hypothesized that we make comparisons as a way of evaluating ourselves. Some benefits include positive self-image and self-motivation. The downsides of social comparison are familiar: deep dissatisfaction, guilt, or remorse.

What if you choose to reel in that comparison to others? Recognize that the need for comparison should aim at your previous self, not others. Stop comparing and start competing with the person you once were; aim to be the best version of yourself. Not someone else.

Many people find value in journaling. One huge benefit of that exercise is the ability to reflect upon previous wins. Gratitude compounds and you’re reminded that you’re doing pretty well, in fact. Instead of observing others’ lives, observe your own.

988, the new number for the well known 24-hour hotline to assist callers experiencing a range of mental health emergencies, launches this Saturday, July 16.

Starting then anyone in the US who texts or calls 988 will be connected with a trained counselors who can help them cope with a mental health emergency and direct them to additional resources for mental health and substance use treatment.

Per the New York Times, the line will be referred to as the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, to emphasize that the service is for people experiencing a mental health crisis of any kind, not just those involving suicidal ideation.

“Anyone experiencing a mental health or substance use issue can call 988. Counselors on the other end of the hotline are trained in handling a wide range of mental health issues, including self-harm, addiction and suicidal ideation, said Hannah Wesolowski, chief advocacy officer at the National Alliance on Mental Illness. Ideally, when someone calls 988, they will first be connected to one of 200 local call centers, which can help connect them to community resources or dispatch emergency services if necessary. If those call centers are busy, the caller will be automatically directed to a national backup center.”

Need more info? Check out the 988 fact sheet at https://www.samhsa.gov/sites/default/files/988-factsheet.pdf.

Strengthening Our Schools to Promote Resilience and Health Among LGBTQ Youth

Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer/questioning (LGBTQ) adolescents face well-documented health disparities in suicide risk, substance use, and sexual health. These disparities are known to stem, in part, from stigma directed toward LGBTQ youth in the form of minority stressors such as violence, discrimination, and harassment. Given the proportion of time that LGBTQ students spend in school, schools provide a critical context within which protective factors may be developed and leveraged to improve the health and wellbeing of these populations. This article provides a summary of key findings from a discussion among researchers, practitioners, and community members who participated in “The State of LGBTQ Youth Health and Wellbeing: Strengthening Schools and Families to Build Resilience,” a public symposium held in June 2017. We detail emerging science on and future priorities for school-based research with LGBTQ youth which were identified by attendees at this meeting, with a particular focus on intersectionality, supportive adults in schools, and in-school programs. We call for more school-based research on priority gaps such as how LGBTQ students’ intersecting identities affect their in-school experiences, how to design professional development programs that cultivate supportive educators, and how to leverage gay–straight alliances/gender and sexuality alliances as sites of health programming for LGBTQ students.

Read more at https://www.liebertpub.com/doi/full/10.1089/lgbt.2018.0109

While we have been observing Pride Month we want the momentum to last all year, every year. As such, this week we encourage you to check out The Human Rights Campaign “Won’t Hide My Pride” page. There are numerous resources here that contribute to wellness directly, but also directly by raising awareness of relevant issues and providing opportunity to get involved in promoting humans right for those in the LGBTQIA+ community. Resources include information now how to become involved in the HRC “Count Me In” campaign, aimed at building a grassroots army of support for the transgender & non-binary community; Pride greeting cards; an HRC staff curated Pride playlist, and countless resources for yourself and the whole family.

Visit https://www.hrc.org/campaigns/celebrate-pride-with-us for more details!

Pride Month is currently celebrated each year in the month of June to honor the 1969 Stonewall Uprising in Manhattan. While the Stonewall Uprising was a tipping point for the Gay Liberation Movement in the United States, there is still a long road to go toward equality. The treatment of those in the L.G.B.T.Q.I.A.+ community by our society historically and at presently has had a significant impact on wellness, and so to honor Pride Month we will be posting weekly content meant to promote wellness in this area.

As if often the case, the first step toward change is education. So for Week 01, check out Boston University’s comprehensive education library. If we want to promote wellness for all, it starts with understanding the issues pertinent to the L.G.B.T.Q.I.A.+ community, connecting with local and national organizations and initiatives, and re-assessing what it means to be truly inclusive and welcoming. You can do all of this at https://www.bumc.bu.edu/wellness/diversity/creating-diverse-environment/key-lgbt-health-resources/.

As Mental Health Awareness Month continues we want to assure everyone is checking in with themselves. While the names of many mental health diagnoses have made their way into our everyday vocabulary, not all of us have been given the opportunity to learn what they are and to what degree the are part of our lived experience. As such, this week we encourage you to have a look at the mental health screening tools offered by Mental Health America at https://screening.mhanational.org/screening-tools/. If you suspect you are living with one of these conditions, be sure to check out our resources page to get connected with a professional to discuss this further. Cooper employees and their families can take advantage of CareBridge, more information is available at https://wellness.cooperhealth.org/carebridge/. Everyone can also have a look at the PsychologyToday therapist locator at https://www.psychologytoday.com/us, which lets you filter by location, insurance status, and specific issues you would want to address in therapy.

Each May, the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services observes Mental Health Awareness Month. During this month, our featured posts will focus on promoting information about promoting and maintaining good mental health, as well as what to do when you are someone you love are struggling. This week, we are focusing on some basic facts about mental health as presented by Mental Health America (MHA).

With mental health entering more and more of our daily conversations, it’s critical that everyone has a solid foundation of knowledge about mental health.

• Addressing mental health symptoms early is critically important for overall health. From social determinants of health to genetics, many factors are in play when it comes to mental health conditions, but there are protective measures that can prevent mental health conditions from developing or keep symptoms from becoming severe.
• While 1 in 5 people will experience a mental illness during their lifetime, everyone faces challenges in life that can impact their mental health.
• About half of Americans will meet the criteria for a diagnosable mental health condition sometime in their life, with symptoms starting by age 24 for the majority of people.
• The average delay between symptom onset and treatment is 11 years, meaning a lot of people spend months or years facing mental health challenges before getting a diagnosis. It is never too early to seek treatment for your mental health. Intervening effectively during early stages can save lives and is critically important for people living with mental health conditions.
• Social, cultural, and historical factors often impact the mental health of communities that have traditionally been marginalized. These communities experience overt racism and bigotry far too often, which leads to a mental health burden that is deeper than what others may face.
• Life can be challenging, but every day shouldn’t feel hard or out of your control. If it does, one of the quickest and easiest ways to determine whether you are experiencing symptoms of a mental health condition is to take a mental health screening at mhascreening.org.
• The delays in treatment for mental health conditions are longer than for many other health conditions. Getting screened increases the chances of getting treatment. Mental Health America has free, anonymous, and scientifically validated mental health screens at mhascreening.org.
• Your screening results can be used to start a conversation with your primary care provider or a trusted friend or family member, and you can begin to plan a course of action for addressing your mental health.
• When facing a mental health concern or living with a mental health condition, it’s common to feel like no one understands what you’re going through. You aren’t alone – help is available, and recovery is possible.
• Starting July 16, 2022, call 988 for matters of mental health crisis. Calling 988 will connect you directly to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, which is staffed by trained crisis counselors 24/7, 365 days a year.

Dr. Jacqueline Kerr left a 20 year career in academia back in 2018 and has since dedicated herself to helping to prevent burnout in others. She is a burnout survivor. She recently spoke at the annual meeting of the Society of Behavioral Medicine and presented on the 12 Stages of Burnout (below), how burnout happens, and how we can take a comprehensive approach to fixing it now and preventing it going forward.

Dr. Kerr’s behavior change approach considers the systems we are part of and empowers people to change themselves and to advocate for change in others. She is now applying her research to different settings; schools, senior centers, retirement communities, workplaces, neighborhoods, healthcare systems, and government agencies. She leverages her background as an implementation scientist to guide a collaborative approach to behavior change and to build quality improvement learning cycles into the process. Her approach now incorporates using mobile devices, software systems, mobile applications, and machine learning to maximize precision in solving complex personal and systematic problems.

Learn more about Dr. Kerr at https://www.drjacquelinekerr.com/

Science and business journalist Sara Harrison recently wrote a piece for Wired.com examining the recent increase in popularity of online happiness courses. The full article, “Online ‘Happiness’ Classes Might Work Better Than You Think“, can be read at https://www.wired.com/story/online-happiness-classes-might-work-better-than-you-think/. In a nutshell, she is told and settles into the conclusion that the concept of having unremitting happiness, while a good aspirational goal, is not sustainably achievable. More to the point, she quotes Science of Happiness professor Bruce Hood in concluding that to “register a positive emotion, you have to know what those less pleasant feelings are like you need to experience both sides of the coin.” They jointly suggest that improving our sense of well-being and satisfaction is possible and what will give us the greatest benefit.

You can consider taking a Science of Happiness course online, but for starters, consider taking a moment today to pick a target for well-being and satisfaction and set one small goal toward it.

Many of us avoid our dentists, and the mere thought of dental care can feel anxiety provoking for some – a perceived detriment to our mental health! All kidding aside, though, dentists can teach us a lot about how to manage mental health well, both proactively and reactively. David Kouba, attorney turned licensed clinical mental health counselor and active contributor to National Alliance on Mental Illness’s (NAMI) mental health blog, recently published an article outlining what dentistry can teach us about fostering healthy habits at an early age, preventative care throughout the lifespan, identifying and assisting at-risk individuals, modeling recovery, and decreasing stigma. You can read his article, entitled “What Mental Health Care Can Learn from Dental Health Care Strategies“, at https://www.nami.org/Blogs/NAMI-Blog/March-2022/What-Mental-Health-Care-Can-Learn-from-Dental-Health-Care-Strategies

Almost anywhere you turn these days you will find a reminder of how scary the world can be. This can be overwhelming for adults, a fact that predated the pandemic and that has certainly been underscored by it. But imagine how much more scary it is for the young people around us.

If you are noticing increased sadness or anxiety as the scary headlines pile up in the young people around you, or yourself for that matter, then have a look at the recent publication from Claire McCarthy, MD, pediatrician at Boston Children’s Hospital and Senior Faculty Editor at Harvard Health Publishing. In her article “Talking to children about tragedies and scary headlines in the news” she offers four simple things all adults can and should do to manage the distress of young people around us and ourselves. These are summarized below, and you can read her full article at https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/talking-to-children-about-tragedies-in-the-news-2017101012567

1. Tell them what happened, in simple terms. Be honest, but skip the gory details. Answer their questions just as simply and honestly. If you think — or know — that your child has already heard something, ask them what they’ve heard. That way you can correct any misinformation, and know not only what you need to explain but also what you may need to reassure them about.

2. Be mindful of the media that your child sees. The news can be very graphic, and because the media are as much in the business of gaining viewers as of delivering news, they tend to make things as dramatic as possible and play footage over and over again. When the planes flew into the Twin Towers on 9/11, my husband and I were glued to the television, not realizing that one of our daughters, who was 3 years old at the time, thought that planes were literally flying into buildings again and again. It wasn’t until she said, “Are those planes going to come here too?” that we shut off the TV and didn’t turn it back on again until all the children were in bed.

3. Make sure your child knows that you and others are always doing everything you can to keep them safe. Talk about some of the ways you keep them safe, ways that are relevant to the tragedy you are talking about. Make a safety plan as a family for things like extreme weather or getting separated. Help them think about what they might do if they are ever in a scary situation, and who they could turn to for help. Which leads me to the most important thing to do…

4. Look for the helpers. The wonderful Fred Rogers often talked about how when he saw scary things on the news, his mother would tell him to look for the helpers, because there are always people who are helping. That may be the best thing we can do as parents: help our children look for the helpers. In all of the recent tragedies, as in all tragedies, there were so many helpers and heroes. When we concentrate on those people, not only do we give our children hope, but we may empower them to one day be helpers too.

150 years before the publication of Tim Scanlon‘s “What We Owe to Each Other,” which outlines the basic tenants of the philosophical school of Contractualism, the term Ubuntu, long established in the oral traditions in the Nguni Bantu language, began to emerge in African writing. The term Ubuntu can be roughly translated as “humanity,” and philosophically emphasizes the significance of our community and shared humanity and teaches us that ‘A person is a person through others.’ While individualism appears to be running rampant globally, Ubuntu offers a counterpoint, and is the focus of the following BBC short film. Have a watch, and consider how you can step outside of yourself today.

Ikigai (pronounced ee-key-guy) is the Japanese concept that translate roughly to “a reason for being.” It’s made from two Japanese words: iki, meaning “life” and kai, meaning “effect, result, worth or benefit.” Combined: “a reason for living.” It’s the idea of seeking a purpose in everything you do in life. Hobbies, friendships, community and travel all add to your ikigai. This is relevant now more than ever and can help us be more intentionally in how we conduct ourselves in every aspect of our lives.

For the last few years, many of us have been putting one fire out after another. It is no wonder anxiety has become as prevalent as it has, at every turn there is something else threatening our health and wellness and so we have become keyed up to react automatically rather than respond intentionally. Ikigai can help us to address this.

Interested in learning more? Have a look at the brief roadmap to Ikigai below, then visit Elaine Mead’s article at https://darlingmagazine.org entitled “How the Japanese Concept of ‘Ikigai’ Can Help You Live More Intentionally.”

Annie Sneed at the New York Times recently published a piece exploring the findings and opinions of addictions psychiatrist Dr. Anna Lembke regarding our at times addictive relationships with our phones. Whether smartphone overuse constitutes a true addiction is still up for debate and, as with many things, when we feel the relationship is no longer healthy here are always ways to scale down. First we have to appreciate what drives the maladaptive relationship which, according to Lembke is Control (the behavior in questions s considered out of control or more present than it should be) Compulsion (being intensely mentally preoccupied with the behavior / performing it automatically); and Consequences (continued use in spite of negative social, physical and mental consequences). So what do we do with this?

• Take a ‘screen fast’: try  completely avoiding using all screens, not just phones, for anywhere from a few hours, to a do, to a month, whatever your life will allow. This is an especially helpful approach when going on vacation. Take note of which changes you observe in yourself during the fast, even if it lasts only an hour. If you like it, keep going!
  
  
• Set boundaries: Healthy boundaries are important in any relationship, including our relationship to technology. This is a less intense alternative to fasting, and might look like setting aside times of the day or days of the week when you don’t use your phone at all, such as before and after work, or on your lunch break (when many people are most tempted). It may also mean leaving your phone in the other room, keeping it out of your bedroom or putting everyone’s phone in a box outside of the kitchen during dinnertime.
  
  
• Make your smartphone less appealing: You can also make your phone less engaging. This might look like changing the screen to grayscale or turning off notifications, as well as uninstalling some of your more addicting apps (Wordle, we’re looking at you!) In addition you might periodically rearrange the apps on your phone so that they become harder to find and less likely to lure you into a mindless loop of checking and rechecking simply out of habit.

“The big question to ask yourself with screens is: ‘What else could I be doing right now? Is there something I could be doing that would be better for me?’” Dr. Alter said. “That’s important now more than ever because of how much time we’ve been forced to spend on screens during the pandemic.”

To read the full article, entitled “I’m Addicted to My Phone. How Can I Cut Back?” visit https://www.nytimes.com/2022/02/08/well/live/smartphone-addiction-tips.html

Victor Wooten is an American bassist, songwriter, and record producer whose professional career spans nearly 40 years but who has been playing almost his entire life. In that time he has also formed his on record label, published his novel “The Music Lesson: A Spiritual Search for Growth Through Music” and earned five Grammy Awards along the way. How has he been so successful? He has treated music like any other language, which means maintaining a child-like mindset. This means, among other things, staying curious, being open to mistakes and learning from them, and simply learning by doing without judgement. Listen to Mr. Wooten in his own words in this TED-ED video.

What do you learn when you have lived for more than a century? What does it take to make it that long? These are some of the questions put to Cliff Crozier, John Denerley, and Emelia Tereza Harper, three centenarian. Their answers are beautiful and meaningful and, even in the difficulties, full of meaning and joy.

Fully half of U.S. workers are now experiencing burnout (feelings of exhaustion, ennui, and negativity toward one’s occupation, overall symptoms of depression and anxiety). The rise of remote work, mobile email, and other technologies has made it difficult to disconnect but doing so has become more important than ever. Creating rituals that help you disengage from work so you can fully savor your free time is key. Author Markham Heid reviews current research and offers recommendations which include:

• Finding and scheduling 30 minutes in the morning to write replies to E-mails that came in at the end of the previous day as you were preparing to wrap-up. Rather than just letting them linger, you have created a specific task for the next day and, in doing so, swapped out something your brain one categorize as n unfinished task for one that your brain can mark as “handled.”
• Knocking out simple, completable tasks at the end of the workday — and avoiding complicated ones — is another good way to psychologically disconnect.
• Don’t make checking (or worse, organizing) your inbox the last thing you do each day. “In terms of detachment, checking email is really a no-win scenario,” psychologist Brandon Smit says. “If there is nothing to attend to in your inbox, checking email was a small waste of time. If there is something urgent, a new task has now been activated in your mind, which will press for completion.”

You can read Markham Heid full article, “The Best Way to End Your Workday” at https://elemental.medium.com/the-best-way-to-end-your-workday-c91caf4677d5.

Looking for a novel approach to improving your wellness? Consider the healthy habit countdown challenge! Health behavior change is usually most successful when done gradually. Below you will find a countdown to guide you in that gradual change. In the coming weeks, consider focusing on one of these goals (steps, sleep, water intake, etc.) and only that goal for a period of two weeks. Once you have worked toward and maintained that goal, move on to the next. The order below will work for some, but if starting by upping your steps seems too much, and reducing electronic usage before bed is more feasible, start there. Reorder the list as needed, and then start your countdown to better health!

Whether it’s taking fruit to work or being polite to rude strangers there are countless ways to make your life better in the new year with little effort involved. The Guardian recently summarized this in their article “100 ways to slightly improve your life without really trying.” Below are the top 10, but check out the article for the full list at https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2022/jan/01/marginal-gains-100-ways-to-improve-your-life-without-really-trying

• Exercise on a Monday night (nothing fun happens on a Monday night)
• On the fence about a purchase? Wait 72 hours before you buy it.
• Tip: the quickest supermarket queue is always behind the fullest cart (greeting, paying and packing take longer than you think).
• Bring fruit to work, bring fruit to bed!
• Consider going down to four days a week. It’s likely a disproportionate amount of your fifth day’s work is taxed anyway, so you’ll lose way less than a fifth of your take-home pay.
• Everyone has an emotional blind spot when they fight. Work out what yours is, and remember it.
• Plant spring bulbs, even if they’re just in a pot.
• Send a voice note instead of a text; they sound like personal mini podcasts.
• Keep a bird feeder by a window, ideally the kitchen. It’ll pass the time when you’re washing up.
• Always bring ice to house parties (there’s never enough).

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2022/jan/01/marginal-gains-100-ways-to-improve-your-life-without-really-trying

As we continue to round out the year we can acknowledge but the difficulties and challenges that we have faced individually and as a group, and also at the same time give some attention to the good things that have happened. To that end, the folks over at informationisbeautiful.net have put together an interactive graph of the most beautiful and inspirational news of the year. Whether you are interested in the environment, health, or community there were many good things. Check it out!

The folks over at The New York Times have provided many pieces of practical advice for getting and staying healthy this year. This week they provided a best-of their recommendations. Several are featured below; the full list is at NYTimes.com. Want a printable copy to inspire the office? Click here!

The period from late November through to the new year is marked by multiple secular and religious holidays. For many people these holidays can mean trying to balance multiple competing priorities, and ostensibly competing emotions. For those looking for some guidance on how to navigate this we can turn to the world of DBT, or Dialectical Behavioral Therapy.

In DBT, the term dialectical refers a synthesis or integration of opposites. Observing and reconciling these dialectics leads to relief of distress and overall improve wellbeing by helping people get unstuck from extreme positions, e.g. “either I host the perfect holiday dinner or I am a failure.”

The image below highlights a number of dialectics that people often get trapped in, especially during the holidays. Have a look, see which might hit home with you, and take a moment to consider how you can honor both sides of the dialectic today and going forward.

This week we continue to look at the topic was explored last week, resiliency. This week we specifically look what to do when you do not feel resilient, when you feel burn out, or when you just need a boost.

Karen Nimmo is a clinical psychologist and author from Aotearoa, New Zealand. She describes 7 ways to refill your tank when it feels empty. These methods are listed below, and you can read her full article at https://forge.medium.com/resilience-burnout-7-ways-to-cope-when-your-tank-is-empty-bf7cfa5320e1

1. Know when to quit the day.

I love this line from the young woman who was feeling she’d lost a chunk of her twenties. If you get to 3pm and absolutely nothing’s going right, take your foot off and quit the day. Curl up and have a cry if you need to. Know you’re not going to make your mark on anything today. Dump it in the way-too-hard-basket. And know that all feelings are temporary. Just because one day goes wrong doesn’t mean the next one will. Often, it’s quite the opposite. You can try again tomorrow.

2. Live in “day-tight compartments.”

One of the early founders of the self-help movement, Dale Carnegie had a strategy for reducing worry: “live inside day-tight compartments.” It’s a tidy way of saying take things one day at a time — to stay in the present, which is especially helpful during times of turmoil. Just live each day until bedtime.

3. Throw your heart over the bar.

One of the traps of feeling low is to do everything half-heartedly, which means you don’t enjoy anything much, you persistently feel like you’re going through the motions. So do fewer things. Or, better still, do one thing at a time. But whatever you do, bring all your focus to it. Do it with your whole heart. Your distracted mind will follow — at least for a little while.

4. Phone a friend.

Because it’s helpful for you to stay connected. But also just because someone, somewhere, may need a friendly ear. They may welcome a chat with you, they may benefit from it — and that confirms you as a good person. Bonus benefit: It takes you out of your own life (and head) into someone else’s.

5. Keep the routines but kill the to-do list.

Basic routines are helpful for framing your day. But 25 things on your to-do list? Seriously? Don’t do that, you’ll just end up transferring most of it to the next day and that’ll just make you feel bad. Be objective and real about your to-do list. Or throw the list out altogether and just do what you can.

6. Tiny, novelty projects

Routines help ground and steady us. But the downside is the sheer repetition of them. Humans are wired for novelty and stimulation. So we have to keep finding ways to spark our interest. Pick tiny, novelty projects that you can complete on the same day, or at least quickly. Cook a new dish, walk a new route, paint a picture, write a poem, put up a shelf, plant some seedlings. The rule is active — not passive, though. So finding a new TV show to stream doesn’t count. Aim for something that engages body as well as mind.

7. Remember to laugh.

There’s some really sad stuff going on in the world right now. And some shocking stuff, and some stuff to make you angry, all of which make it easy to lose your sense of humor — and feel guilty when you hang onto it. Even during suffering there are moments of weirdness, of fun, of joy. It’s a sign of emotional health that you can keep leaning into them.