Decades of research make one point clear: friendships are not just “nice to have”—they are a core health behavior. Strong social relationships are associated with a significantly increased likelihood of survival, while loneliness and isolation are linked to higher risks of early mortality. Social connection also predicts lower rates of depression, cardiovascular disease, and cognitive decline, reinforcing that friendships function as a powerful protective factor for both mental and physical health.
A recent New York Times piece on making and keeping friends emphasizes that friendship in adulthood rarely “just happens”—it requires intention. The article highlights common barriers, like assuming others won’t like us or believing friendships should form naturally, and reframes connection as something we actively build. People tend to underestimate how much others like them, and those going through life transitions are often especially open to new relationships. The takeaway: meaningful friendships grow from small, repeated efforts—initiating contact, inviting others, and staying engaged over time.
Practical takeaways:
- Follow up and maintain contact—consistency builds closeness
- Assume people will like you—this reduces social hesitation
- Treat friendship as intentional, not accidental—effort matters
- Seek out people in transition—they’re often more open to connection
- Initiate plans (don’t wait for others to reach out)